Married people should put stickers such as "Kirin is here", "Phoenix is here" and "Phoenix is home" on the door.
Kirin is here:
Legend has it that the love story between Luotong, son of Luocheng in Tang Dynasty, and Princess Dounong in Beifan: Princess Dounong fell in love with Luotong at first sight, but Luotong refused to accept it because she killed her brother. Although she was persuaded by Emperor Taizong, bring disgrace to oneself died in the bridal chamber. In a rage, the King of Tang ordered Luotong not to remarry and buried Princess Dounong at the foot of Qilin Mountain. Later, Cheng persuaded Tang Wang to remarry, but she was a silly girl. On the wedding day, the bride's sedan chair turned into a silly girl through Princess Dounong of Qilin Mountain, which made her smart and beautiful. Later, in order to make the daughter-in-law a beautiful bride like Princess Dounong, people wrote the red stripe "Kirin is here" on the top of the door and in front of the sedan chair.
(But what about Phoenix Here? )
When a Chaoshan woman marries, no matter how much she marries, she must have three buckets: the foot bucket, the waist bucket and the excrement bucket.
The foot barrel is a big short barrel with a diameter of more than two feet. The barrel wall is six or seven inches high. The bottom of the board is coated with tung oil without leakage. It is used by women to bathe in the room, children to bathe, women to wash clothes and men to wash feet.
Necessary leg pliers, waist bucket, etc. When you get married
Waist and abdomen are also necessary for traditional dowry, which continues to be popular even in cities.
Put a bamboo sheng on the mistletoe and insert a ruler to show the good intention of rising steadily.
Although oil lamps are no longer used in life, they are still needed in weddings.
"Deng" is the same as "Ding" in Chaozhou dialect. This kind of lamp should be placed on the bedside after being taken to the husband's house, indicating that it will bring men to the husband's house.
Not to mention the mirror is also one of the dowry.
Longfeng candle
Grab the bed before marriage: put black beans, dried longan and coins in the four corners, and let the children grab peanuts, sugar and cigarettes at night. If they get a good share, they will say a lot of good things.
Tie a piece of pork and a curtain with a reddish-brown thread after marriage, and the poor will accept it and give a red envelope.
We need to prepare some dried longan. Dried longan, which Chaoshan people call "longan", not only contains the meaning of wealth and perfection, but also contains the desire to have a baby early.
At the wedding banquet, it is forbidden to eat the "four golds" of the three birds on the table, namely the head, tail and wings.
The wedding custom in Chaoshan must hold various ceremonies, and the woman's family should hire a blessed old woman to preside over various ceremonies. This old woman is called "Green Mother". The language that Qingniang's mother sings in various ceremonies is called "Four Sentences", which is also called Qingniang Song. For example, when the newlyweds bid farewell to their parents and stay at home with Buys and other gods, they sing, "Buys, a good mother and a good husband, two good families in your family, and two rich families. When the wedding car arrives at the wedding time, the green mother helps the newly-married bride go out, and the bride says goodbye to her parents. Green Niang led the bride and sang: "The sedan chair stopped at the gate to bid farewell to parents and raise children. The parents in the class depend on brothers and sisters, and the daughter will come back in April. "After being carried to the groom's door, the green mother led the groom to kick open the car door, took off the" red seal "and" Kirin is here "posted in front of the car door, and sang:" The leaves are red, please invite your mother into the house. Today is an auspicious day, and the two of them, appreciate each other, have a heart in mind. "Mother Qing led the bride out of the sedan chair and sang," The curtain of the sedan chair is rolled up, and she is very happy. Qing mother is beautiful and gentle; The groom came to hold the bride's hand, and they walked into the house together. Aunt is wearing a red veil. Now you are married and take care of the family, and the family affairs are greatly co-managed. At 32, you will be a responsible family. "When the green mother led the bride into the room and stepped on the fire smoke, the green mother sang:" The bride stepped on the fire smoke and knew your son was a baby boy. It is appropriate for husband and wife to sing bosom friends and be diligent in filial piety. Holding the bride's hand into the new house, lights and candles glow on the couplets, and Aunt Cuobian comes to congratulate her and celebrate the pairing of mandarin ducks. "After the groom received the dowry, the newlyweds sat on the edge of the bed, each holding a bowl of sweet soup pills made of glutinous rice flour. Qing Niang sang, "The husband and wife are sitting on the edge of the bed, enjoying fragrant pills in the same room. Love in the city is a match, and two people will live together for a hundred years. A gifted scholar and a beautiful woman sat on the edge of the bed, offering each other pills. The life of husband and wife is as sweet as honey and won the first prize early. " ……
The custom of green mother doing "four sentences"
When men and women in Chaoshan marry into the old customs, they should hold various ceremonies, and the woman's family should hire an old woman like the object in the play to preside over various ceremonies. This old woman is called "Green Mother". The language that Qingniang's mother sings in various ceremonies is called "Four Sentences", which is also called Qingniang Song.
Before becoming a monk, a woman should take a shower and change clothes, then say goodbye to her parents and stay at home in Gong Ming, Buys. At this time, while teaching the newly-married bride to bow down, her mother sang, "You Buys, a good mother with a good husband, two good families in your family, and two rich families. ..... "Read twelve prayers to Fu Lushou.
The four sentences at the wedding reception are: "The wine bottle is placed in the middle of the table, the wine glasses are placed around the table, and the brothers and sisters share a table, which seems to be a good flower shed."
When eating vegetables, Qingniang's mother sang instead of the newly-married bride: "Ten bowls are sandwiched and left to the brothers to make family files; Ten bowls are sandwiched together and will get together to visit the Imperial Street in the future. "
The bride's sedan chair arrived at the wedding time. Green Niang helped the newly-married bride to go out, and the bride waved her tears to her parents. Green Niang led the bride and sang: "The sedan chair stopped at the gate to bid farewell to parents and raise children. The parents in the class rely on brothers and sisters, and the daughter will come back in April. "
Take it to the groom's door. At this time, the mother in green and the groom stood by and waited. When the sedan chair stopped, Green Niang led the groom to kick open the sedan chair door, took off the "red seal" and "Kirin is here" posted in front of the sedan chair, and sang, "The leaves are red, please invite Niang into your room. Today, the zodiac is auspicious, and the two cherish each other and have the same heart. "
Mother Qing led the bride out of the sedan chair and sang, "The curtain of the sedan chair is rolled up. She is very happy. Qing mother is beautiful and gentle; The groom came to hold the bride's hand, and they walked into the house together. Aunt is wearing a red veil. Now you are married and take care of the family, and the family affairs are greatly co-managed. At 32, you will be a responsible family. " When the green Niang led the bride into the house and stepped on the fire smoke, the green Niang sang: "The bride stepped on the fire smoke and knew your son was a baby boy. It is appropriate for husband and wife to sing bosom friends and be diligent in filial piety. Holding the bride's hand into the new house, the lights and candles glow on the couplets, and Aunt Qu Bian comes to congratulate her and celebrate the pairing of mandarin ducks. "
After the groom accompanied the bride into the new house, he immediately returned to the sedan chair and gave the banyan branches, gauze lamps and other things that had entered the new house to Qinglang who accompanied the bride. Mother Sang Qing, "The groom carried Bodhi to the side of the sedan chair. Husband and wife Mei Qi are 100 years old, and Kirin reborn to give birth to your son. It will be a glorious day. The bride likes to pick up red lanterns, the husband and wife cherish each other, the parents eat until they are 200 years old, and their children and grandchildren are famous. "
After the groom received the dowry, the newlyweds sat on the edge of the bed, each holding a bowl of sweet soup pills made of glutinous rice flour. Qing Niang sang, "The husband and wife are sitting on the edge of the bed, enjoying fragrant pills in the same room. Love in the city is a match, and two people will live together for a hundred years. A gifted scholar and a beautiful woman sat on the edge of the bed, offering each other pills. Husband and wife live as sweet as honey and win the first prize early. "
After sharing a room with Maruko, both husband and wife went to the hall to worship Si Mingjun, heaven and earth, ancestors and offer tea and betel nuts to their elders. People who are respected will give back red envelopes as gifts. These four etiquette sentences are:
"Husband and wife worship SiMingGong, early birth of your son early grandchildren.
Ancestors have lived in the same village for generations, so the family should laugh less. "
"Couples worship God in pairs and work hard for a bumper harvest.
Everyone is happy, and the family style is good from generation to generation. "
"Husband and wife hall ancestor worship, two surname harmony today.
People who want to do the right thing will live long and prosper. "
"Kneeling in the hall, sweet tea in hand, I respect my father's milk.
Please drink sweet tea to add a hundred blessings, the four seasons are like spring, and you will always be safe. "
"Take betel nut to the hall, thanks to your uncle.
Come to ask betel nut to prolong life, and future generations of scholars. "
"Betel nut with go to the hall, please aunt.
Forgive my carelessness, but please tell me what I did wrong! "
After going through all the formalities in the hall, the bride was led into the kitchen by the green mother, who made rice heads and stirred the jar. When the rice head was smashed, the green mother sang: "My mother smashed the rice head, and the husband and wife felt the same. Five men and two women were born, and their children and grandchildren wore red robes from generation to generation. The rice head is good to touch, the bottom of the mortar is good to touch, and the grandchildren are good at reading. " "M head for the cylinder hit well, children and grandchildren sit on the bench. Parents in the class eat for a hundred years, and couples have grandchildren early. " "Pigs are bigger than cows; The fish in the jar is deep, and the size wears silver and gold. Fishing for the edge of the jar made a lot of money in business. Get through the jar and be the head of the family. "
After the bride and groom make the above etiquette, neighbors, aunts and children go to the bridal chamber to see the dowry and the bride. If the child wants a sachet, the groom will take out some handicrafts from the box and show the clothes to the child. Qing Niang sang: "Open the box and bag, the groom and father, splendid clothes are really good, and there are all kinds of rare birds and animals, and the hall is full of phoenix robes."
The wedding night is the busiest time to meet new people. Green Niang sings "four sentences", and those who look at the bride also sing "four sentences", often in duets. Mother Qing led the bride out of the room for people to watch and began to sing: "When the bride moved out of the room, the uncles and brothers congratulated the couple, and the aunt went forward to salute and wish everyone good health." Then the audience sang, for example, "A new life is like Guanyin. If a new person marries to be his wife, he will definitely have a son in the coming year, just like the mountain in Lin Daqin." (Lin Daqin was the champion of fashion brand in Ming Dynasty)
In the process of watching the couple, someone made four sentences in a playful tone, such as: "The couple is in the new bed, and the groom is newly married. They are tickling each other when they are asleep, and playing together will be light. " "Carpenters are famous, and their beds are like playhouses. The first one came out to shoot the tree, and the second one came out to get married harmoniously. "
Some young mothers write four poems with ancient names or riddles, and those who look at the bride should also focus on the topic. Otherwise, in the village, it is regarded as a person without a sage and has no face. But some young women only learn a few simple phrases, and they will laugh at her when they meet new people. For example, they sang, "If you want to be a young woman, you can't write poetry; if you want to be a pig mother, you can't pry the fence and learn to spin and weave. How can you make this money? "
In the noisy bridal chamber, sometimes until late at night, in order to persuade the bride-watchers to return, Green Niang sang, "Come to the side with sweet tea in hand, and the clock points to the sky with a short hand. At this point, it is already late at night. Please bring tea back to the circle. Your poems make me bow to my knees. I will go to Beijing in junior high school and high school tomorrow. " If you still don't want to come back when you meet someone new, you sing, "I heard that Qing Niang is a talented person, and four sentences make a big basket." I'm here for advice tonight. Please don't refuse to go abroad. "
Finally, the bride-watcher ordered a boy to send a red candle, and the bride immediately came forward to pick it up. This is called "connecting the light". Seeing the couple will sing: "Give the bride and groom a red light today to celebrate your marriage, and everyone will be very happy here. I hope you both go to bed in the morning. " The bridal chamber is over.
The last step for a green mother is to be led by the corner. She sang while pulling the corner of the quilt: "The first peony embroidered by the corner of the quilt, the husband and wife are concentric, both of them eat until they are 200 years old, and the first lady is the male champion." "The third place was blessed by the horn. Mr. Ruyi Langjun and Juanjuan stayed together for a hundred years, and Gui Zilan was in front of his grandson." "Embroidered with a cover mother, the piano and singer are male grandchildren. For example, Qi Mei was white-haired and lived 800 years longer than Peng Zu. " The wedding night is over.
Author: Li
The basic procedure of Chaoshan traditional wedding
With the development of the times, Chaoshan people's weddings are becoming more and more fashionable, and many young men and women have already got rid of the marriage custom of "parents' orders and matchmakers' words". However, traditional weddings still exist.
Propose, also known as propose. That is, the matchmaker proposes to the man, or the matchmaker introduces the woman to the man first, and then proposes to the woman after the man approves.
Get married. Here are two links. After the two sides agreed to get married, the matchmaker wrote the woman's name, birthday, place of origin and ancestors on the Geng sticker and sent it to the man. If nothing unexpected or unlucky happens in the man's house within three days, such as throwing bowls and basins, it is called "three days is good" With this good sign, the man agreed to exchange posts with Geng. After changing the Geng post, please ask someone to divine and get married to confirm whether men and women are born together or together.
Engaged. Enter the engagement stage after marriage, that is, the man prepares the gift and the woman is engaged. Gifts are usually a pair of gold earrings or a gold ring, as well as a gold necklace, sugar and noodles, which are all symbols of engagement. When the woman is engaged, she should give candy and cakes to her relatives and neighbors, inform them of their engagement, and then engage in bride price. Hire, also known as rent. In the past, the bride price of rich people was gold and silver, colored satin, pig and sheep wine and fruit; The poor are betel nuts and chicken wine. Chaozhou people regards betel nut as an auspicious symbol and a distinctive employment gift. Modern bride price includes physical objects and cash. There must be more than four items: sugar, noodles, Daji (Chaozhou orange), gold and silver jewelry, cloth, cakes and so on. , but they must not be odd numbers, but even numbers. Cash, also called bride price money, is divided into one, two and four, but they are all multiples. During the engagement, the woman should return the cake and food in the engagement, and give back "mandarin ducks and bananas", oranges, pig hearts and so on. Yuanyang and banana are two bananas that coexist, symbolizing a hundred years old; The orange homonym "Ji" symbolizes good luck; The pig's heart (half left in the woman's body) symbolizes concentricity. At this time, the two sides will also solemnly distribute cakes and food from each other's gifts to relatives and neighbors to report the wedding. Friends and neighbors should also congratulate them in return. Invitation date, after the engagement ceremony, choose the date of marriage and tell the woman, including telling her when to cut the wedding dress, when to "pull a face", when to take a shower and when to get married. Most of the invitations are invited in the dark, and the hipster custom still retains the wedding custom of welcoming the bride in the dark, which is really an ancient heritage.
The wedding ceremony is the ceremony for the groom to marry the bride at the woman's house, and it is also the most important procedure in the wedding. There are two kinds of wedding banquets: one is the groom's wedding banquet, and the other is that the man invites a "lucky man" to meet him. At this time, the bride often burst into tears, which is called "crying marriage". On the one hand, I cry for being away from my parents. On the other hand, it is said that only tears can make my parents rich.
When the sedan chair comes to the door of her husband's family, they will set off firecrackers to welcome her. The groom kicked off the sedan chair, rolled up the curtain, pulled off the wishful thinking on the bride's head and put on airs on her forehead. Kicking a sedan chair and tying a greeting message are intended to give the bride a fright: everything must be as her husband wishes in the future. This is a hint of husband's power. Then the bride stepped over a pile of burning "fire smoke" under the threshold with the help of the bridesmaid. After the bride entered the room, accompanied by the "mother-in-law" invited by her husband's family, she "married" the groom, entered the bridal chamber, and served tea to her elders and peers in the main room. At this time, the green mother will recite carols beside her. On the bride's wedding day, her family will give her husband lily soup. May the bride please everyone in her husband's family. The next day, I sent the bride a soup of fungus and pig heart, hoping that the bride would not forget her family and relatives. Only for the third time can I stay at my parents' house for a few days and talk about my feelings of missing my parents.
Girls here also have the custom of giving money to their sisters when they get married. The "sister money" is given by the groom who came to marry to the younger brothers and sisters who sent the bride on the road. Generally, 4 yuan's score is 4.8. Give your sister money to a man and a woman to show "good". 448 points, meaning "the world is good" and "the world is not divided (separated)".
The groom should hold a solemn ceremony of "fixing the bed" when decorating the new house. When I was in bed, I asked the fortune teller to choose a date, and the orientation of the bed was also particular. When you are in bed, you should do "four sentences" for good luck.
When the bride wears heavy makeup and gets on the sedan chair, the bride's family will pour a basin of water on the sedan chair and say, "When the water is poured on the sedan chair, the bride will become new." Send my best wishes to the married bride. However, of course, it is no longer a sedan chair, but bicycles or motorcycles and cars. In the past, the bride had to have two pairs of wooden shoes in her dowry, which not only facilitated her daily life, but also meant "growing old together" or "following suit". After the bride enters the door, she has to get up early to cook and cook a bowl of fragrant rice by herself. The old man, the old woman and her husband's brothers and sisters got up and invited them to taste some. It is said that this bowl of sweet rice, sugar should be brought from her family, and when cooking, you must mix your own saliva into the rice soup. Of course, saliva mixed with rice soup has to be made quietly, and people who eat it don't have to ask more. This custom means that the in-laws eat fragrant rice with the saliva of the bride, and the bride and the whole family can live in harmony.
During the three days of their wedding, the bride and in-laws should avoid meeting each other. On the fourth morning, the bride will go to the public well where the new house is located to fetch water. Before pumping water, put a handful of brown sugar and soil brought by her family into the well. This is to make the bride not "acclimatized" and live in harmony with her neighbors.
Making trouble in the bridal chamber: a folk activity that has arisen in recent years is to worship the god of wealth at midnight. No matter where, the climax of the wedding is "holding a wedding". The same is true of Chaoshan. The sachet was embroidered by the bride in the boudoir before marriage. People should judge the bride's dexterity, clumsiness, diligence and laziness from the skill and quantity of these embroidery crafts.
If you want to see the bride's face, you must say "four words" of good luck before the bride will put down the fan that covers her face. There are also some humorous hooligans who use the method of first restraining and then promoting, or first restraining and then promoting, so that a bride does not know how to answer. In the past, there were many special wedding customs in Chaoshan area. With the progress of society, some of these marriage customs have been eliminated, and some still have names, but their forms have completely changed.
Finger marriage (also known as early marriage): an old friend or close relative, a man and a woman, two pregnant babies are designated by both parents as future husband and wife, which is called finger marriage. When both men and women grow up, whether they like it or not, their parents choose a day to get married. This is called "changing rooms"
The custom of sending workers to return gifts in Chaoshan
The custom of giving a bride price in Chaoshan area is also called giving a bride price, that is, after both men and women agree on the wedding date, the man sends a bride price through an intermediary. There are wedding stickers and wedding books to send ancient gifts, and most people just send bride price. The bride price and the bride's dowry are agreed in advance. Engagement money to the woman's parents; Gifts such as gold and silver jewelry, clothes and cloth are for daughter-in-law; Brocade candy, biscuits and curlers are given as gifts to the woman's relatives and neighbors. If the woman has grandparents alive, she must give a pig leg; If parents are alive, they will send pork (commonly known as excrement to wash meat) as a token of gratitude for their parents' parenting.
The woman gave a simple gift, only candy cake, and asked the man to send all his relatives and neighbors away and inform the wedding date. If the man has a sticker or marriage certificate, he will reply and exchange marriage certificates.
In addition to paper money, gold and silver jewelry, clothing fabrics, there are electrical appliances, sewing cars, clocks and watches. These all depend on the man's economic strength, and the woman's return is the same.