Some time ago, I saw an article in which the author's father was a carpenter.

He has three rulers, a ruler, a square and a tape measure.

Rulers are used to pull straight lines, square rulers are used to measure the length of both sides of right angles, and tape measures are purely for convenience.

With these three rulers, my father has accomplished countless fine carpentry jobs.

I have heard a saying: "Life should be measured, and life should be measured."

Everyone needs three rulers in this life.

The first ruler: comparison

Some time ago, at a departmental dinner, everyone talked about the topic of "emotional intelligence".

Several colleagues have praised people with high emotional intelligence in their minds.

One of my colleagues is very interesting. He started talking to everyone and told them that he thought people in the company had low emotional intelligence.

It is also a clear analysis of where other people's emotional intelligence is low.

One of his speeches silenced everyone.

Because we have been together for a long time, everyone knows his style.

In daily life, he denies other people's ideas as soon as he opens his mouth, likes to judge others and often embarrasses people around him.

When he ruthlessly analyzes others, he ignores the fact that his emotional intelligence is not high.

As the saying goes: "Eyes are rulers, measure yourself first."

Many times, it is easy for us to judge others, but we can't see our own shortcomings.

Therefore, in this world, everyone needs a "comparison" ruler.

There is an old saying: "See the sage Si Qi Yan, see the sage Si Qi introspection."

Compare with excellent people and learn from their strengths; Compare with the bad guys and reflect on your own shortcomings.

Only by recognizing the reality can we neither underestimate others nor overestimate ourselves.

Only by constantly learning from others can we make progress day by day.

The second ruler: the bottom line

The ancients said, "A gentleman does something but doesn't do it."

Between "what can be done" and "what can't be done" is a person's bottom line.

During the epidemic, a residential area in Beijing set up a special storage place to facilitate residents to get express delivery.

Unexpectedly, this move attracted thieves. Within a few months, there were many incidents of courier theft in the community.

In order to recover the loss, the property called the police and the police intervened in the investigation.

Through monitoring, the police locked the thief and finally successfully arrested him.

Unexpectedly, the thief turned out to be a 38-year-old returnee doctor.

What is even more puzzling is that the doctor's living conditions are not bad.

As an executive in a foreign company, the annual salary is as high as 400 thousand, which is stronger than most people.

After the news was exposed, netizens felt incredible.

Obviously, the money is not bad, but seeing so many couriers piled together, I still have the idea of stealing.

He admitted that he was greedy for petty gain, committed crimes 17 times in a row and stole 2 1 piece.

The doctor was lucky and failed to escape the punishment of the law after all.

After being arrested by the police, his bright future was gone.

Yi Zhongtian once said: "A person who has no bottom line dares to do anything;" In a society, there is no bottom line, and everything will happen. "

Walking in the world, you must always have your own bottom line and know what you can and can't do.

Because of this world, there will inevitably be all kinds of temptations.

People who have rulers in their hearts can not be moved by interests or driven by temptation.

People who have no bottom line often can't control themselves, but in the end they have to pay more.

Zhang Quanling once said: "Make big money, live a life with a bottom line, and do measured things."

Always alert yourself and avoid detours.

The third ruler: caution

I don't know if you feel this way. You will feel comfortable with some people in your life.

But there are always some people who feel suffocated when they get close.

In the final analysis, it is only because everyone's appropriate limit is different.

I read such a story on the Internet and found it ridiculous.

A friend came home during the Spring Festival and met a distant relative.

Knowing that she works in the media, the other party asked her about her income.

Friends feel that they haven't met several times in total, and they are a little unhappy to ask for salary naked.

So, she tactfully avoided this question and told her relatives about the salary in this industry.

If it were someone else, I would consciously stop asking questions.

Unexpectedly, my relatives were persistent and insisted that she talk about her specific income.

My friend didn't want to answer, and said vaguely, "Not very stable."

Relatives actually said, "Then tell me, how much have you earned these months?"

As soon as distant relatives met, they became a big salary torture, and friends felt speechless.

In life, there are countless such examples.

Many people like to think from their own point of view, and always feel familiar and informal.

As we all know, there is a ruler called discretion in dealing with people and things.

The relationship between people is subtle and fragile.

No matter how you treat strangers, acquaintances or relatives and friends, you should be careful.

Because there is no proper limit in my heart, I speak simply, talk a lot and do things absolutely.

There is a saying that goes well: "If you can't say enough, you should grasp the discretion;" Don't do everything, leave room. "

Speak and do things, and consider the feelings of others.

With others in your heart, you can do things without losing your discretion.

A person's life is never smooth sailing, there are always nine twists and turns.

In dealing with people, we have to face many tests and challenges.

If you have a ruler in your heart, you can act moderately.

Only by using the ruler of "comparison" to measure yourself and others can we learn from each other's strengths;

Only by using the ruler of "bottom line" and restraining your own behavior can you go more steadily and further;

Make good use of the ruler of "discretion" to remind yourself that you are not too familiar with it, so as to gain a good relationship.

There is a saying: "The ruler of life is the compass of behavior. If you grasp the ruler of life, your inner world will have depth. "

The long road of life requires a ruler in your heart.

Only by grasping the scale of everything can we do well and stand firm.

Give us a compliment. I hope you can make good use of these three rulers, standardize your behavior and take every step of your life.