We were attracted by each other's initial charm. With the warming of feelings and the passage of time, the attraction is probably exhausted. What's more, we will realize each other's shortcomings more. The so-called progress and greater attraction are slow and may be zero growth. Therefore, it often represents the period of first meeting in life, which is the most beautiful.
I have heard a truth before that it is difficult to cherish things that are too easy to get, and I have never understood it. Now I seem to understand gradually.
If it is an easy-to-get woman, then this woman will pay a lot of attention to that man. Without enough time and energy, how to make the value of increasing attractiveness greater than the value of reducing attractiveness? Moreover, for anyone, there is almost no reason and motivation to drive the other party to continue to pay for something that has been obtained without accidents, external forces or unexpected factors.
When we throw something, we will decide whether to keep it or throw it away because of its value (often the price). Those cheap ones will be thrown away without hesitation; What is easy to get may be recited, but it will still be thrown away; Finally, what is truly valuable to it will inevitably be left behind. I think it seems cruel to give up someone, but in reality, it may be true. So, what is your value to each other?
To put it bluntly, if it's someone who posts anti-posts, or even the title of this article, I want to name it "What posts anti-posts is always posted anti-posts" from the beginning, which is too rude and sharp, so I have to change it to a more euphemistic and intentional title.
Imagine, under what circumstances will you consider feelings? It must be that the feelings are so heavy that people give up considering the pros and cons, or that the value of being with you is far greater than the balance of those pros and cons. Only in this way can we think more about feelings. Think about it carefully, "Where does deep affection come from?" ",or as mentioned above, what is your value to each other? This value is sometimes multifaceted, varies from person to person, and is not necessarily material.
So, for those who are not valuable enough, that is, those who are not deeply attached to TA, if it were you, how would you treat TA? If it were me, I would weigh the pros and cons more and consider the gains and losses. That is, together, what can be gained at present and what need to be lost? Am I willing to do this? Therefore, for a person who posts backwards, TA may be enough to get what he wants without paying and cherishing, or he won't let himself lose anything. Why not? When one day, your existence will make TA lose something, or make TA feel that it is not enough to maintain the relationship with you, it will kick you away (kicking away is not nice, but it is true, even if it is passive, haha).
So please don't be moved by TV. Take it out, that's the sunk cost you paid yourself, and it doesn't matter to anyone. Even in the play, the person who has been paid doesn't know how much he loves until he loses the person who has been paying for him, but only if there is no better person.
All thoughts and statements are not absolute. What I say, what I think, what you say and what you think are not absolute. Therefore, you have no reason to experiment with your own happiness. Therefore, please don't use chicken soup famous sayings such as "I love well, I love with my heart, and my efforts can always be rewarded" to encourage the injured person to continue to pay or waste time for someone who doesn't know how to cherish you.
The only thing you can do is to love yourself and improve your value. A better self can stand upright and really wait for the person who appreciates and loves you. Otherwise, at my present level, I really don't know what other way can really lead to a happy love or even a happy marriage.
Blessing, you deserve to be cherished and cared for.