on this long road of life, many people don't know how to learn to be patient. People who live in the world will not be so happy, and there will always be such distress and frustration. People who can't restrain themselves will bring disaster. In this society, people should keep a low profile and learn many skills. One is forbearance. As the saying goes, take a step back and broaden the horizon. Yes, forbearance is also a skill, a skill that is difficult to achieve. Recently, I saw a piece of news on the Internet. A middle school girl was in an exam, and several questions in her test paper were the same as those of her deskmate. Afterwards, the head teacher thought that she was peeking and indiscriminately criticized her for cheating in the exam in front of the whole class. The girl was originally suffering from mild autism. When she heard the unreasonable accusations from the head teacher, she was ashamed and angry, feeling more wronged than Dou E. She immediately rushed out of the classroom and jumped off the fifth floor. Parents are sad, classmates are sad, and teachers are sorry. This is the result of the whole tragedy. The teacher in charge of the class didn't abide by the principle of "a little truth, only a little words", which was certainly wrong, but the girl's reaction was too radical, her psychology was too fragile, and the little grievance was suddenly amplified by her, turning into a hurdle that she couldn't overcome and an iron gate that she couldn't afford, so she chose the road of suicide, jumping and falling. Life is doomed to suffer many grievances, some of which are small and some are great. It should be said that the more successful a person is, the more grievances he will suffer. If he can't bear it, drinking poison as water every day is not enough. In the past years, there are indeed some outstanding people who committed suicide because they couldn't stand the injustice of gossip. The most typical example is Ruan Lingyu, the winner who became popular all over the country in the 193s. Due to the paparazzi's careful planning of her private life and the artificial rumors that she didn't know the truth, the public opinion became an unbearable pressure on Ruan Lingyu's heart. Coupled with the unfortunate marriage, she sadly wrote a suicide note that "people are terrible" and committed suicide by taking poison. The heyday of the generation of film queens is only 25 years old. Ruan Lingyu's death is not only the tragedy of individual life, but also the great loss of China's film industry. To the extreme, grievances can hurt people, even kill people, but we can't let death succeed easily. Everyone's life is precious, and it is also accidental, one-off, fragile and short-lived. If you want to make your life extreme and colorful, you can't care too much about those small grievances, and you can't let them tighten your heart and disturb your life. You should learn to laugh it off. The mouth is long on others, and if he wants to make a rumor, you let him make a rumor, and the rumor will eventually stop at the wise man; If he wants to talk nonsense, you can let him talk nonsense, because nonsense can't defile your personality; If he wants to blame for no reason, you let him blame for no reason, and he is not afraid of the shadow. Of course, you can also find a higher reference coefficient to convince yourself. Yue Fei, an anti-Jin hero in the Southern Song Dynasty, and Yuan Chenghuan, an anti-Qing hero in the Ming Dynasty, suffered great grievances. The former was killed by Qin Gui, a big traitor, on the charge of "unwarranted" in Fengbo Pavilion, and the latter was executed by Emperor Chongzhen on the charge of collaborating with the enemy and betraying the country. They all died so tragically. After all, history will give them true innocence and immortal fame. In comparison, what's the small grievance you usually suffer? Why are you sad? Why give up your life? ! You should learn to be aloof from it. Others have made mistakes and done stupid things. You shouldn't punish innocent yourself with their mistakes and stupid things. You should seek the right way to respond to them, that is, forge yourself into a tool, use strength, use achievements, use an aboveboard mind, use magnanimity to despise the gains and losses of chickens and insects, and use an indisputable day's calmness to put out the false fire lit by rumors, lies and false words.