As the saying goes: "endure a calm moment;" Take a step back. "In life, many people are deadlocked with others because they refuse to give in, and in the end they often lose both sides.
Knowing how to make concessions is a kind of wisdom in doing things and also a kind of self-cultivation.
1. The more cultured people are, the more they know how to make concessions.
A courteous person is respected. Xia Zi, a student of Confucius, commented on Confucius: "It's warm when you look at it."
Mr. Jiang Yang once said, "I don't argue with anyone, and I don't care who I argue with." High-level people are often gentle and generous, and do not fight for it. Because they have strong self-confidence and enough self-confidence in their hearts, they don't need to ask too much from the outside world to flaunt themselves.
People with low level tend to be competitive. Because they have no "lining", they have to fight for breath and face in everything, even at all costs and regardless of the consequences. However, it is not face that wins, but an image of haggling over every ounce.
"Caigen Tan" said: "Where the path is narrow, leave a step with pedestrians; When the taste is strong, subtract three points to make people eat. "
The more cultured people are, the more they know how to make concessions. To say the least, it seems that it has suffered, but it has won the hearts of the people. A newspaper once collected public opinion on the topic "When are you happiest?". A total of nearly 100,000 letters were received. After statistics, it was found that most people's answer was to give in. In their letter, they described it this way: "Concession is a kind of accomplishment, a kind of beauty, and it can bring happiness to yourself."
Their friend explained: "Because they know how to be modest, they feel comfortable with each other and they also feel that each other is trustworthy."
In life, maintaining respect and humility is not cowardice, but a rare accomplishment and virtue.
2. Love is knowing how to give in.
I have seen the TV series "Half-way Couple" starring Sun. In it, the old lady played by teacher Zhang Shaohua said a word before she died, to the effect that marriage is like two hedgehogs snuggling together for the winter, which will hurt if it is too tight; It's too far and too cold. Only when two people pull out some thorns will it not hurt and will it not be cold.
When two people live together, there is no one who is afraid of who, who is strong and who is weak. But you know, it's better to play the loser than to beat the person you love. The most precious thing is not a temporary win or loss, but the true feelings around you.
Be kind not only to your lover, but also to your relatives and friends. When there is a contradiction, if it is not a matter of principle, you may wish to take the initiative to give way. Taking a step back is also a way of love.
Not everything has to be right or wrong. Even if the winner wins the result, he loses his feelings. Those who persist to the end are lonely in the end.
Emotion is more important than reason. Love that knows how to make concessions can go longer.
Only by knowing how to make concessions can we make greater progress.
As the old saying goes, "One step higher in the world, retrogression is the foundation of progress." In dealing with people, it is wise to let others take a step, because letting one step is equivalent to leaving room for further development in the future.
The allusion of "offering a humble apology" embodies this point.
Lin Xiangru made a contribution at Mianchi Conference. The prince of Zhao named Lin Xiangru Shangqing, whose position was higher than that of Lian Po.
Lian Po was unconvinced. He said to others, "He doesn't have Lin Xiangru's ability. He just opened his mouth. When I met him, I had to let him down! "
This word reached Lin Xiangru's ear, and Lin Xiangru called in sick to avoid meeting Lian Po.
People in Lin Xiangru don't like it. They say that Lin Xiangru is afraid of Lian Po, like a mouse sees a cat. Why should he be afraid of him?
Lin Xiangru explained, "The King of Qin did not dare to attack our State of Zhao, because he had Lian Po and Lin Xiangru. If we don't get along, Qin will definitely take the opportunity to hit us. "
Lian Po was ashamed of this sentence, so he took off his shirt, put thorns on his back and went to Lin Xiangru's house to confess in person. Therefore, "living in peace" has become an eternal beauty talk. Sometimes, a step is often a potential victory.
In life, when you have a dispute with others, it is a kind of wisdom and grace to know how to make concessions in time. First of all, it reduces a lot of unnecessary arguments and keeps a clear head; Secondly, you also show your mind and tolerance, show good self-restraint, and others will respect and trust you.
Dealing with people and knowing how to make concessions is a realm, a maturity, a measure and a kindness. There is a famous saying: "the sky will compete with those who are competitive;" God will make way for the humble. "
It is a great struggle to take a step back, take a step further and make progress.
Of course, there is further joy, and it is easy to take a step back.
In the years to come, while being proactive, don't forget to "step back" appropriately.