Teachers’ methods and experiences in educating young children

Good behavioral habits cannot be developed overnight. As long as we have the patience and perseverance to persevere. Let’s take a look with me below.

Sharing experience in children’s education

1. Loving children requires learning and is not something you are born with.

Gorky has a famous saying: "Loving children is something that any old hen can do, but being good at educating them is a major matter for the country and requires talent and all the knowledge of life."

2. Distinguish different kinds of love:

A British female doctor of psychology said: "All love in this world has the ultimate goal of gathering, and there is only one kind of love that ends in separation." For the purpose, that is the love of parents for their children. The truly successful love of parents is to let the child separate from your life as an independent individual as early as possible.

Therefore, to clarify this point, we must be willing to let our children grow up, not ask for help, and let them do what they can do on their own.

3. There should be a good division of labor between the family and the school. The school is responsible for teaching, and the family is responsible for educating people. Both are indispensable.

Teacher Liu Limei, a nationally renowned and outstanding head teacher, has some very classic words to parents:

When people say that this child is different from that child, they actually mainly refer to the parent. It’s different from that parent’s. ?

?The level of a test score is accidental, but whether parents are responsible will inevitably determine the direction of their children's development. Teachers' equal treatment is always relative. For parents who have a particularly strong sense of educational responsibility and can work closely with teachers, teachers will naturally pay special attention to their children? This is fair. Because there is no cooperation from the family, the efforts of teachers are completely in vain. ?

4. If you want your children to change, parents must change first.

If parents want to educate their children, they must first educate themselves.

Parents must reflect on their own growth as their children grow up.

Parents should constantly reflect inwardly and sum up experience. The problem itself is not the problem, but how you look at the problem is the problem.

Parents should always think about the following questions:

1) How did your parents educate you when you were a child?

2) Did your parents educate you? Do you often discover your strengths and encourage you, or do you always find fault with your shortcomings? How do you feel about your children now?

3) How do you feel about your parents’ education methods?

4) Do you hope that your child will be like you? How you feel now is how your child will feel in the future, so what should you do?

5. Accompanying your child to grow is not for his tomorrow. To be happy, we have to sacrifice today's happiness and joy, but experience happiness in the current education process, so that children can feel different joys and happiness at each stage of growth.

(1) There is progress and there is retreat

We must go all out for the children’s why, habit development, personality, emotional intelligence, etc.

Retreat? Parents should be weak, leave the stage to their children, cultivate their children's independence, etc.

(2) How old are your children? When playing with your children in primary school, parents should maintain their childlike innocence

(3) Letting children realize the happiness of life is the ultimate goal of parents to accompany their children to grow up (kindness, gratitude, discovering the advantages of others, dedication, positivity and optimism?.)

6. Don’t put Imposing one's own views on children.

How old are your children?

Squat down and talk to your children

Don’t take it for granted.

For example, are they naughty or disobedient? These are all your evaluations. For children, they may be experiencing happiness

7. There are opportunities for education everywhere in life.

Education is not about sitting down and talking about big principles, but about bringing positive energy to children through the trivial matters in life. Everything can be an opportunity for education, it depends on how you look at it. This also follows the concept of "life is education" by American educator Dewey.

8. Both husband and wife are responsible for educating their children.

One is leading and the other is cooperating. The education of husband and wife must be consistent.

9. A good relationship is greater than a good method. A good relationship requires respect and understanding of children from the heart. Not to take care of the child, but to accompany him to grow.

10. If you love your child, you must respect him

The most essential need in everyone’s heart is to be noticed, recognized, respected, and understood by others, regardless of age, gender, or race. of.

Only by respecting children can they be self-respecting, confident, positive, loving, responsible, sensible, and at the same time able to respect and understand others.

Sun Ruixue said: Only by respecting children, children will be able to do their own things without any distractions. They do not need to use energy to observe words and emotions, guess adults' thoughts, etc., but focus on exploring various things. The mind is free, the thinking is active, and the child's intelligence, concentration, memory, etc. will be improved, which will enhance personal strength and lay a good foundation for life-long development.

On the contrary, children who grow up in an environment where they are often scolded and beaten will be particularly sensitive to things. They will look at things with caution and uneasiness, and lose the exploration of the original appearance of the things themselves, resulting in The concept of things is unclear, the cognition is unclear, and the thinking is rigid and rigid. Such children's academic performance is generally not ideal.

11. Follow the order of love.

German psychotherapy master Bert Hellinger discovered that in the family system, there are some hidden dynamics that are not easy for people to realize or detect, which control the relationship between family members. This It is the order of love. If we follow the order of love in getting along with our family, the relationship will be very good and everyone will be able to grow up happily and healthily; if we ignore it, the family will be troubled.

The adhesion between Chinese women and their children has become a blood instinct. After giving birth to a child, the child comes first. When a child is young, the relationship between mother and child has taken precedence over the relationship between husband and wife. At this time, the family is prone to crises, such as the husband feeling left out, leading to cheating; when the child grows up, he wants to get rid of the overly close relationship between mother and child and step out of the mother-child relationship. control, so reversal and other situations occur. Westerners abide by the order of love in the family better than we do. Their closest relationship is the relationship between husband and wife, children take a back seat, and parents take a back seat even more. Therefore, it is easier for Western family members to establish equal and harmonious relationships among themselves.

12. Parents should become confident through internal cultivation.

In addition to setting a positive example for their children by paying attention to their speech, behavior, and good living habits, the fundamental change is that parents must truly become confident in their hearts. Only when parents have self-confidence can they essentially follow the laws of their children's physical and mental development. This is the source of all scientific and reasonable educational concepts. Only when parents are confident can they achieve true inner peace and not care too much about other people's opinions and evaluations. Only by combining the success or failure of the child with one's own face and dignity can one maintain a peaceful state of mind when the child encounters various so-called "problems" and then turn the "problems" into opportunities for growth.

13. How to sign your child’s test paper:

Comparing yourself with yourself does not mean rejecting or fearing competition. After having a confident and calm mentality, you can focus more on improving yourself. As your strength improves, you will naturally not be afraid of competition. Because competition is the competition of the strength of various comprehensive factors.

14. Regarding the issue of letting children become primary teachers.

Issues that should be paid attention to are:

First, running a marriage and educating children requires learning. It is not an innate ability. It requires constant reading, surfing the Internet, and communicating with each other. Waiting to learn. Maybe you read a book or listen to a lecture and a sentence has a profound impact on you. This sentence will be internalized into an education method that affects your life. This is a great gain.

Second, educating children well and managing a good marriage are closely related. Educating children well contributes to the intimacy and harmony of family relationships, which in turn provides a good environment for the healthy physical and mental growth of children. In my long-term education work, I have also realized that parents who pay attention to educating their children are generally people with excellent qualities such as filial piety, happy marriages, sincerity in treating others, dedication to work, adhering to morality, cultivation, and self-discipline. Because such parents Know how to set a good example for your children. I also tell my friends who have a good relationship with each other but are separated in two places. Even if the other party is in a different place, they pay careful attention to every detail of their children's growth and pay attention to the guidance and education of all aspects of their children. Then there is no need to worry about the other party's inappropriate behavior. He thinks that he will resist temptation for the sake of his children and has strong self-discipline.

Third, the process of educating children is also the process of educating oneself. While educating their children, parents will set an example for their children and regulate their own words and deeds to improve their own quality. In turn, it will provide children with examples of how to behave, so that the whole family can achieve a virtuous circle of mutual promotion.

Fourth, educating children is no big deal, and educating children is no small matter. Educating children that there is no big deal means that every trivial matter in life is an opportunity for education, and educational resources are readily available. It’s not about spending extra time on anything, but every minute you spend with your children can give them positive energy. For example, when my son loses his temper, I realize that this is another opportunity for education. At the same time, I use the "five-step method" to solve the problem. While solving the problem, I help him learn how to control his emotions, consider other people's feelings, etc. Therefore, from this perspective, educating children is no small matter.

Fifth, the book lists my son’s remarkable progress and advantages, etc., with no intention to highlight or show off, but to prove through facts: if we pay attention to education in every detail, we will eventually achieve What kind of effect is it? It allows everyone to understand the process of children's growth and changes more intuitively and concretely.

Sixth, reading does not mean copying the practices in the book. Each child’s personality characteristics, family growth environment, parents’ education methods, etc. will be different. Parents need to analyze specific issues in detail and combine them with each other. The actual situation of the child is selectively learned. We learn the concepts through reading, and constantly reflect on the educational methods based on the actual situation of our children. For example, when a child has any problems, we must learn to reflect on what problems the parents had first. Only when the parents make adjustments and changes first can the children Change.

Seventh, it seems that I treat my husband and children carefully, but some parents think this will be very tiring. In fact, I didn’t put in any extra energy to do all this. For example, saying the same sentence from the throat, the energy it brings to the children and husband is completely different whether it is derogatory or praising and encouraging. Moreover, I feel comfortable when my husband is considerate and my children are worry-free. It allows me to feel the happiness and beauty of life, and then I can be focused on helping others with spare emotions and energy. In the process of accompanying children's growth, I relied on Teacher Zhou Hong's inverted triangle theory, that is, if you put in more energy now, you will put less energy in the future, forming an inverted triangle distribution. From this perspective, it is worth being tired now.

Eighth, don’t be fooled by the content of my book and think that I don’t have any confusion in the process of running a marriage and educating children. In fact, I will encounter different confusions at different stages. Just like happiness does not mean being carefree all the time, but that the probability of troubles is smaller, and more importantly, being able to adjust to problems in time. Similarly, various problems will arise in the process of managing my marriage and educating my children, and I will solve them in time through continuous learning, communication and other methods.

Empirical methods for educating children

1. Family education must first start with self-education

Parents who like to read books and forget about work will give their children six pats in return. Very impressed. It also plays a subtle role in them. When it comes to children's learning, you can't just talk and not do it. Parents must first do what they ask their children to do. Nowadays, children have many ways to access information, and the amount of information is also huge. This is a question raised by the Yamen

It will inevitably stump the adults. It’s impossible for adults not to learn. So we often buy and read books. When you are reading a book, your children will naturally read next to you, and sometimes they will ask some common sense questions when they go to exercise. In this way, you can exercise your body and satisfy your children's desire for knowledge, killing two birds with one stone. We require our children to do things seriously. After the child has finished his homework, we will check it over. If we find that his handwriting is very sloppy, we will ask him to erase it and start writing again. Sometimes, he is very reluctant, but he can't be soft-hearted. He has to remember that if he doesn't do it well the first time, he has to work harder. Therefore, you must be serious about doing things and try your best.

2. Don’t pamper your children too much, take over everything, but don’t let them go either.

Nowadays, parents know that they can’t pamper their children too much, and they can’t give them whatever they want in order to satisfy their requirements. What. This can easily make it difficult for children to restrain themselves in behavior, which ultimately leads to poor self-control, lack of self-motivation, and lack of courage and interest in overcoming difficulties.

The child likes to sing and dance, and is also talented in writing, so we created conditions for him to dance. I remember he cried when he first learned to dance, because learning to dance is a very difficult thing. The next day, he felt like My hands were sore and hurt even when I lifted them up. I asked him if he still wanted to learn, and he said he still wanted to learn. If he had to exercise his body well, he would definitely succeed. This time it took a longer time. I watched him sweating profusely practicing every move taught by the teacher. It hurt in my eyes and in my heart. I would cheer him on for every move he successfully performed. The child is also becoming more and more serious. When the child is younger, I say: Dad, I succeeded! Looking at the child’s bright smile, I feel proud of him from the bottom of my heart. Yueyue likes toys very much and has many toys at home. Now she goes to school, such as He really likes the work, so I set a goal for him, and if he completes it well, he can buy it. This can stimulate his interest in learning and get rid of some bad habits. The children's schoolbags are organized by themselves. After he goes to bed, I sometimes check to see if it is tidy and if the school supplies are complete. If there are enough, I will put them in for him. I will remind him to pay attention afterwards. As our children grow up, we will also let them do some small things in life. Sometimes I also help adults do what they can. We want him to understand that not only must he read good books, but he must also learn to live and care for everyone.

3. Expectations are not too high, but strict requirements are still required

Parents all hope that their children will become successful. We also have this mentality, but we will not force her to learn something she does not like. things. He likes picturesque paintings very much from when he was a few years old. Not only has his interest not diminished for many years now, but he regards them as an inseparable part of life. This is his innocent and childish thought. The best holy place to promote is to look at the animals, flowers, trees and animals drawn by children, with different expressions and flexible expressions to express clear meanings. I will have a happy joy. My idea is that it is enough for the child to be able to do the things he likes to do, and to become a person who has broad hobbies, is serious about work, and is useful to society.

4. Actively cooperate with the teacher’s teaching activities and learn together with the children.

If the teacher assigns homework that requires parents’ cooperation, I will complete it seriously with the children. If you need to read books, you can read them. If you need to collect or download information from the Internet, you can complete it on time. When my daughter wanted to make a handwritten newspaper, I went online to help her collect information, designed the layout with her, and stayed with her until she finished it. The bookish campus activity in the school allows parents and children to read together. I put a book on the bedside every day, and the children followed suit. Mother and daughter read together for a while before going to bed. From then on, Jia Changyi also developed a book. Love the good habit of reading. Every morning during the summer vacation, my daughter and I took a copy of "Inspirations from 100 Celebrities' Adult Stories" to Dahua Park. On the top of the mountain, I read a celebrity story to my daughter before returning home.

5. Provide multi-faceted training to increase children’s self-confidence.

Since my child was four years old, I have let her learn dance. The purpose is not to let her grow up to be a dancer, but to cultivate her temperament. Our child has loved drawing since she was a child, so we prepared watercolor pens, oil pastels, colored pencils and picture books for her, bought books related to painting, and enrolled her in art and painting classes. She started learning the electronic keyboard when she was six years old. Last year she really wanted to learn the piano, so I found a piano teacher for her and bought a piano for our family. The multi-faceted training gave Jia Changyi many opportunities to showcase her talents. When the school held talent competitions, she applied for six of them and won awards. This made her more and more confident and motivated to learn.

Methods and techniques for educating children correctly

1. Love children

As a teacher, you must love your students, and as a parent, you must love your children. Maybe you will say that this truth couldn't be simpler. What parent would not love their children? But the love of some parents cannot be accepted and recognized by their children. I often give my naughty son a kind hug, a shallow smile, a persuasive guidance, and a small gift. This will make the child naturally feel the love given to him by his parents, and also enhance his sense of trust in his parents. Therefore, both teachers and parents should use love to cultivate good behaviors in children.

2. Learn to respect your children and listen to your children

Parents should let go of their condescending attitude, learn to communicate with their children equally, and calm down to listen to everything their children have to say, even if this is No matter how busy or tired you are, you should listen attentively and ask your children from time to time: "Is there anything interesting happening at school? Are you satisfied with your performance in class? Has your smile increased again today? Every time When I ask my son this, he is always very excited to report everything to me. When he expresses his views on things, I will also respect his opinions, discuss with him, and give him enough confidence and self-confidence. I think this is very important for cultivating children's character.

3. Encourage children to dare to meet challenges

Today is an era of fierce competition, so it is necessary to cultivate children's sense of competition and the spirit of daring to meet challenges from an early age. When it comes to studying, I often encourage my son and say: "You are great and smart. You can answer such difficult questions correctly. Mom admires you so much!" He is delighted when he hears this. He always takes the initiative to think about problems and is motivated to study. Positivity. During the holidays, I encourage my children to participate in extracurricular activities. When they encounter difficulties, I constantly cheer them up. At this time, I will also work hard with my children to infect them with practical actions, which also achieves the purpose of moral education.

4. Be good at discovering and cultivating children’s interests

Einstein said: Interest is the best teacher. ?Only based on interest can children be happy to learn. There is a strange phenomenon in society now, that is, most children have to learn a lot of knowledge at a young age. Many parents do not consider how effective their children's learning is. It seems that the more content they learn, the closer their children will be to becoming talents. Completely Regardless of whether the child is willing to learn or not interested, the result is a waste of money, a waste of energy, and a waste of the child's innocent and happy time. Therefore, I hope that parents can capture their children's interests from their daily life and study, guide them, and then warm up their interests to make them burn. Only in this way will you obtain better results.