They all come from Confucius's "The Analects" of the Spring and Autumn Period. A gentleman is magnanimous and magnanimous, while a villain's long-term relationship comes from "Shu Er". "Don't use words to promote people, and don't use people to waste words" comes from "Wei Linggong".

The translation is as follows:

A gentleman is magnanimous, but a villain is always concerned. ——A gentleman is broad-minded and tolerant of others; a villain is petty and narrow-minded.

Don’t use words to lift people up, and don’t use people to trash words. ——A gentleman does not recommend a person based on what he says, nor does he reject a person's good words because he is not good.

Extended information:

"A gentleman is magnanimous, but a villain is always concerned" is a famous saying that people have known since ancient times. Many people often write this as a banner and hang it in their room to motivate themselves. Confucius believed that a gentleman should have a broad mind and be able to tolerate others and accommodate various events, regardless of personal gains and losses. It is impossible to become a gentleman if you are narrow-minded, have difficulties with others and yourself, are often sad, and feel uneasy.

Confucius believed that a gentleman should pay attention to the moral principles of righteousness, etiquette, humility and trustworthiness; he strictly demanded himself and tried his best to achieve the "three immortals" of words, virtues and meritorious service, and pass his name on to future generations; his actions Be solemn and harmonious with others, but do not form cliques for personal gain, do not use people's words to make good use of others, and do not use people to negate their words, etc. Of course, this is only part of the characteristics of a gentleman.

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