I've wanted to write this question for a long time. Have you ever found that when you are in the spring breeze, your whole circle of friends is full of impassioned articles, and the interaction between various friends will give you the illusion that you are standing in the center of a certain world.

and when you are depressed, you will feel that no one will greet you actively anymore, and the whole world has abandoned you. This is because the contrast is too strong.

I don't agree with the view that "human nature is evil", but many times, if we think of human nature more "evil", we can often work and live better.

1.

For others, assume a little "evil", never think too well, be good to you, be grateful, and be bad to you ... In other words, in fact, others have no obligation to be good to you.

especially when you're in a slump yourself.

Most of us grew up under the care of our parents. Few of us take the initiative to care about other people's feelings, and there is no obligation to take the initiative to care about others. I really don't want to watch so many idol TV series. How many people take the initiative to be nice to you for no profit at all, and don't ask for anything in return?

there are basically no such people except parents. To put it bluntly, even your parents have been wanting nothing from you since you came out to work?

"Raising children to prevent old age" is a "wise saying" that has been passed down in China for thousands of years.

In life, the few people who know how to be grateful are basically people with very high emotional intelligence.

Be reasonable. If you do something wrong at work or are framed by others, others have no obligation to come out to save you. A better boss may come out to help you save the scene. If you encounter something bad, you will be scolded.

Think of human nature as "evil". There are people in this world who are not self-protective and interests first. Why can office politics be passed down all the time? Because it can't be banned at all.

if you are always upset, you are the only one who is unhappy. why bother yourself?

To put it another way, think of others as "evil". When something bad happens, it won't be so hard. You can think about how to solve it immediately. When you meet someone who helps you, you will immediately feel that the world is full of love, won't you?

2.

When you are depressed, don't look at your circle of friends. Many times, people's sadness comes from contrast.

I have a good life, so why tell others? Because you want to share your joy? Let everyone be happy together?

it's unknown whether everyone is really happy, but you do become very happy because of other people's attitudes.

However, this has a very terrible consequence. When you are depressed, you may send a circle of friends and no one likes you. At this time, it is easy for you not to compare yourself. Is this comparison going to be very sad?

Du Fu said, "Don't rejoice in things, don't grieve for yourself."

the realm is very high, but it should still be very difficult to do it, right? Therefore, when you encounter this situation, I advise you not to look at the circle of friends.

In this world advocating positive energy, everyone is consciously or unconsciously "basking" in themselves and things around them. You should not be happy to see these things when you are in the trough.

without comparison, there is no harm.

since ancient times, there are many people who "add icing on the cake" and few people who "send charcoal in the snow", which is an eternal truth.

actually, you don't have to worry too much about this kind of thing.

First of all, maybe your relationship is really not that deep, or the other party feels that their relationship with you is really not that deep;

Secondly, everyone has his own life. You are not the focus of his life, or he is busy with his own affairs. Without air traffic control, are you experiencing hardships in life?

thirdly, there is really nothing he can do about your situation.

When you are depressed, the person who greets you probably has a lot of courage. He tries to let you know that you are being cared for by others. Try to be grateful.

do you feel much better at this thought?

isn't it a good attitude towards life to think of human nature as "evil" and the ending as "poor", to lengthen your "pain tolerance interval" and to lighten your situation?

Now, it is no longer important to think about why people don't greet you.

I quite agree with the saying that people are lonely most of their lives. Therefore, in your life, the only opponent is yourself, and the only one who can beat you is yourself.