Although the "gentlemen and villains" in The Analects still have differences in social status, they go beyond the standard of social status to some extent, and take "virtue" as the biggest difference between gentlemen and villains.

Although some "gentlemen" are often ridiculed as "hypocrites", this does not affect the beautiful connotation of the word gentleman. We should strive to be a gentleman and educate others. Sincerely ask for it, although it is not in the middle, it is not far away. Be closer to a gentleman than a villain in life.

So, how to distinguish between a gentleman and a villain? Confucius told us ten standards. Come and have a look with me.

First, look at the mind.

An upright man is open and poised while a petty man is anxious and worried.

Interpretation: A gentleman is cheerful and calm. Little people haggle over every ounce, be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, and often frown.

Feeling: The heart of a gentleman is always bright and windy. No matter how proud and difficult he is, he is naturally cheerful, optimistic but not blind, tolerant of others, and has no resentment or enmity, so he can bow down to the sky. There will always be something in a villain's heart, either feeling sorry for himself, or feeling that this society is wrong, or something is not good for him.

Second, look at making friends

The week of gentlemen is incomparable, and the week of villains is incomparable.

Interpretation: A gentleman is gregarious but not in cahoots, and a villain is in cahoots but not harmonious.

Feeling: no matter who you associate with, a gentleman can treat everyone fairly, treat everyone equally, and don't gang up; The villain always likes to form a small circle with close people, exclude dissidents and form a small group for personal gain.

Third, look at the standard

A gentleman is figurative, while a villain is figurative.

Interpretation: A gentleman values morality, while a villain values interests.

Feeling: When facing a problem or a choice, a gentleman will first measure it with moral standards and finally make a choice; When a villain encounters something, the first thing he thinks of is how to make a profit, which is the biggest difference between a gentleman and a villain when thinking about a problem or making a choice.

Fourth, look at right and wrong.

A virtuous person helps others to achieve their moral perfection, not their evil behavior. The villain is the opposite.

Interpretation: A gentleman fulfills the good deeds of others and does not encourage the evil deeds of others. The villain is the opposite.

Feeling: A gentleman with noble character has a kind heart. Whenever other people's affairs are ethical, a gentleman is not only happy to see other people's achievements, but also willing to help others achieve their beautiful goals and promote their progress and success. But if it is immoral and violates morality and law, a gentleman will certainly not be the evil of adults.

Fifth, look at words and deeds.

A gentleman is harmonious but different, and a villain is not harmonious.

Interpretation: a gentleman can tolerate different opinions and ideas with morality and create a harmonious atmosphere; Little people are used to pandering to others' psychology and echoing others' views on problems, but they have different views.

Feeling: A gentleman can tolerate different ideas and opinions, and will not hide his different opinions, and treat others with sincerity and sincerity. Unscrupulous people are not. They either hide their thoughts or have no thoughts at all. On the surface, he caters to others and obeys others. In fact, he has ulterior motives and even wants to calculate others.

Sixth, look at temperament

A gentleman is Thai but not arrogant, and a villain is arrogant but not Thai.

Interpretation: A gentleman is calm but not proud, while a villain is proud but not impetuous.

Feeling: More than 2,000 years ago, Confucius taught us to "mainly look at temperament". A gentleman is solemn, peaceful, calm, carefree and has no sense of pride; The villain is arrogant, aggressive and arrogant.

Seventh, look at ambition.

Gentleman, villain.

Explanation: There are many explanations for this sentence. It is said that gentlemen grow up day by day and villains sink day by day; It is said that the gentleman is getting more and more sophisticated and the villain is getting more and more dirty. Gentlemen pursue high-level access, while villains pursue low-level access; The gentleman is in the Tao, and the villain is in the device.

Sentiment: The ancients said that they have lofty aspirations. There are two directions for being a man, one is upward, called "reaching", and the other is downward, called "giving". Upward means doing good, constantly correcting mistakes and pursuing morality; Downward means that you don't know how to change, you don't know how to cultivate yourself, and your sense of decadence is getting stronger and stronger. It is always difficult to go from good to evil, and it takes a lot of effort; It's easy to go down, but the result is to ruin yourself.

Eighth, look at the pursuit

Gentleman likes virtue, villain likes earth; A gentleman is guilty of punishment, but a villain is guilty of profit.

Interpretation: what a gentleman thinks and worries about is virtue, while what a villain thinks and worries about is the status of Tian Zhai Lu; What the gentleman thinks is not breaking the law, but how the villain thinks about getting benefits.

Feeling: A gentleman abides by the law, while a villain is mercenary, regardless of punishment. Gentlemen and villains think and worry differently, so the actions they take are naturally different, and the final result is even different.

Ninth, look at character.

A gentleman seeks for himself, while a villain seeks for others.

Interpretation: Confucius said: "A gentleman demands himself, while a villain demands others."

Feeling: When there are problems and contradictions, a gentleman has the characteristics of introspection and self-reliance. Gentlemen always reflect on their own practices first, find their own shortcomings, so as to correct their own shortcomings and make continuous progress. The villain, on the other hand, never reviews himself, always puts the responsibility and fault on others, and naturally there will be no progress.

Tenth, look at the choice.

The gentleman is poor, and the villain is poor.

Interpretation: when a gentleman is cornered, he still adheres to the principle; If you are a villain, you will run amok.

Feeling: Whether you can stick to the principle and bottom line when you are down and out is not only the difference between a gentleman and a villain, but also the difference between a true gentleman and a hypocrite. The more in the most difficult environment, the more you can see the essence of a person.