People who look forward and backward are the most confused, because they don't know what they want. People who look around are the most tired, because they always feel that their life is more difficult than others. Seeing this sentence, I silently wrote it down in my notebook. Why do you like this sentence? First of all, I saw the epitome of contemporary people in this sentence. To be exact, this sentence pokes the psychological state of a large part of people in today's society. They always feel that they are very hard, and they feel very hard every day. So many troubles are bothering them that they can't get what they want. Obviously wrong, why others can accept it so indifferently; Some mistakes seem to be successful but miss a trick; In short, my heart is full of negative energy every day. If I get another blow, I'll get stuck in the corner. First, I will be depressed. If I can't get rid of it, it will gradually extend into anxiety, which is also the reason why the society urgently needs psychological counseling.

Secondly, this sentence also points out the causes of the problem. The most important thing is that such people don't know themselves clearly, and they don't know what they have, what they want and what they can have. That's why I'm in a state of aimless and at a loss. In addition, when you encounter something, you always look forward and think about it. I have a bunch of blind concerns, and I have failed to make an accurate analysis of my own situation, distinguish between primary and secondary, and see the essence and source clearly; Because I can't make up my mind, I just want to see how others are and find some advice for myself. However, if this contrast is too big, I will be very picky and will be attracted by something irrelevant. I will get farther and farther away from the real goal. When I find that something is wrong, I will feel how bad it is, and I will start another round of aimless and meaningless fooling around. Repeatedly, it is not good to exceed the hair. A vicious circle.

How to change it? This sentence also points out the direction. In fact, confusion is temporary and normal at the same time. Everyone will be more or less confused when growing up. To get rid of this situation, we need to set a goal for ourselves according to our own ability, social environment and future needs. The goal can be anything, such as finding a job we like or determining a required skill training. Then set some stage goals. Of course, you have to choose what you can achieve in one jump, not too high, which will hurt your confidence. After reaching it, set a goal that can be achieved by hard work, so that the ultimate goal can be achieved step by step. In this way, I can make a little progress every day, accumulate experience in a down-to-earth manner, and reap the harvest; Then set a new stage goal, work hard and reap again. Sticking to one goal after another is like climbing a mountain. Seeing a different sky makes you feel happy.

Give it a try, start with a small goal of your own and achieve a brand-new self.