Mao Xiaotong has been on the hot search again, but many people don’t know that Mao Xiaotong’s father was once very popular.

This father went on the show to accuse his daughter: She has become a big star but does not fulfill her support obligations.

The accusation is secondary, asking for money is the key.

He asked his daughter to give him 50 million in the show, and threatened: This is just the beginning.

When the host asked, would it be a little frustrating to ask for so much at once?

Mao Xiaotong’s father responded with a matter-of-fact expression: 50 million is just a scientific request. If you want it out of anger, it would be 50 billion.

In the eyes of Mao Xiaotong’s father, his daughter is a big star and it is easy to get money. Asking 50 million in one breath is not excessive at all.

He said that his ex-wife and daughter both live in a villa and drive a Hummer, and of course he must enjoy this treatment. If not, then they will go to hell together.

After hearing this, many people across the screen felt ashamed for this father.

This attitude of squeezing her daughter dry will mean she will die if she does not achieve her goal. This kind of selfish mentality is hateful!

Mao Xiaotong’s father is Li Chao. He married Mao Xiaotong’s mother Mao Huiling at the age of 35. Mao’s mother was only 22 years old at the time. Their marriage was not happy, so they separated when Mao Xiaotong was ten months old. We were officially divorced when we were 2 years old.

In fact, Mao Xiaotong is not a cold-blooded person. She has never been stingy about her love for her mother and often expresses her gratitude to her mother on Weibo.

But none of them are about the father.

Mao Xiaotong previously said on Weibo that her father seemed to have never existed in her life, and she was grateful to her mother for picking her up from the trash.

In the days when she and her mother were dependent on each other, she had never seen her father. Now that she has achieved a little bit, her father comes to her door.

Fortunately, netizens have sharp eyes. After the video was exposed, many netizens sided with Mao Xiaotong.

Some netizens went to Weibo to leave messages, full of encouragement:

"It's so heartbreaking, I hope you cheer up." "You have done your best. Be filial and don’t be blackmailed by family affection.”

Seeing Mao Xiaotong’s father act like this, many people will think of Angela Chang’s family.

Angela Chang’s father also complained to the media that his daughter did not provide money for support and threatened to destroy his daughter’s career.

Not to mention Angela Chang’s mother, who took advantage of her career to be in trouble and fell ill to take away all her savings without saying a word.

Not only that, but it was also widely reported that Angela Chang was taking drugs and her sexual orientation was unclear, in order to gain attention, which caused her daughter's career to plummet and no one cared about her.

Look, just because "we are family", I can ask you for anything unconditionally and treat you badly. Who makes you my family?

In the past, I particularly believed in the saying "Everyone in the world is a perfect parent", but now I have begun to doubt that not everyone is worthy of being a parent.

02 Human nature is selfish, and no one will always bear the burden for you

Fan Shengmei in "Ode to Joy" has a famous saying: "A person's family is her destiny."

When she said this, her brother had just gotten into trouble, and her parents took their nephew to seek refuge and crowded into her rented cabin. Misfortunes never come singly, but at this time, my father was seriously ill, and the medical expenses and living expenses all fell on the weak shoulders of a woman.

Most girls like Fan Shengmei who are burdened by their original families long to use the power of men to escape from the sea of ??misery. But the essence of this is to find someone to share the burden of the original family. The conflict is just a different form of existence.

However, human nature is selfish, and no one can always bear the burden for you. In the end, you can only rely on yourself to get rid of the shadow of your original family. Including material and capabilities in hardware, determination and determination in software.

Enough money, ability and capital can invisibly enhance a person's confidence and courage, and obtain the most basic conditions for breaking away from his original family.

03 I have experienced it, but I can choose not to be it in the future

“Everyone wants to be born into a good family, but you can’t choose your parents. What kind of cards are dealt to you, you We just have to try our best to play it as well as possible." Each of us may be dealt a harsh blow in life and be tested by a bad hand.

At this time, some people will run away, avoid, or feel sorry for themselves; but some people can rely on their strong self to choose to fight their fate and insist on self-responsibility and self-responsibility. Maybe you will also attribute your misfortune to the trauma of your family of origin, but after watching this episode of the talk show "The Unspeakable" about Dink, you may have a different view.

Of the six interviewees, three always insisted on DINK, and the other three held different views, but they had one thing in common: they all came from unfortunate native families. But when they grew up, they led completely opposite lives.

One of the interviewees: Li Zuofeng, 39 years old, DINK.

The reason why I don’t want children comes from the shadow given to me by my father. His father has always been a terrifying presence in his heart. He set various rules for him when he was very young. If he didn't obey, he would be slapped one after another.

Are you afraid that this will happen to you when you become a father? Li Zuofeng said: Yes.

Parents who did not speak the same language at all and a rough father made him lose confidence in his marriage and children.

Another interviewee: Wang Yanyun, 26 years old, mother of a child.

Her parents were divorced and she could only passively obey the consequences of their separation. The arrival of her child made her realize that being a parent is a matter of initiative. She wanted to become a mother and told The parents of her original family, what are truly good parents?

Having a child is like picking up a lottery ticket.

Similar misfortunes have led to two completely different outlooks on life:

One is that I believe I can create my own happiness; the other is that no matter how hard I try, I will never succeed. Misfortune will only be repeated. No one can avoid the imprint left on us by our family of origin. When you were a child, you were just a blank piece of paper. You could only let others scribble on it and draw on it. There was no room for resistance.

But a comment below the video caught my attention: If you fight with the dragon for too long, you will become a dragon yourself. For the rest of my life, I will try my best to avoid becoming like them.

I have experienced it, but I can choose not to be it in the future. This is the lesson given to us by our original family.

04 Understanding the original family is to find a way to "counterattack in life"

I have long been familiar with the concept of "original family". Moreover, more and more people are beginning to realize that the parenting style of one's parents during childhood has a crucial impact on a person's personality, outlook on life, and even various relationships in life.

But the reality is that we almost never see children who grow up in a completely happy atmosphere.

Many people’s families of origin have this kind of relationship: when they were young, they faced unbounded control from their parents and had no room for free development; when they grew up, they encountered endless demands and losses from their parents. The right to make independent choices.

But when we overemphasize the impact of the family of origin on a person’s life, the vast majority of people will attribute all the situations in adulthood (mostly negative) to their parents’ problems.

In fact, psychologists put forward the concept of "original family" in order to find solutions, not just to dig into the root of the problem and find the responsible party.

Think about it, why do we need to heal the imprint of our original family?

Because if you don’t heal, you will always be a child who only rebels against your parents. In this case, you will set the most difficult path to success for yourself.

Those who resent and hate their parents, who always hate their parents, complain about their parents, and hate their parents, are the enemies of good luck. For example, your health will not be good, your luck and marriage will not be good either. The obedient boy who has always been obedient will not be able to be himself when he grows up. Because I have never expressed my opinion since I was a child. If there is really any victory in life, it is probably just that when you were at your worst, you did not give up, but chose to persevere bravely.

Then, you can proudly tell the people you love and the people who love you: "Fate did not destroy me."

Cai Shaofen, who now has a successful career and family, once fell into the "quagmire" of her original family for a long time and was unable to escape.

Cai Shaofen’s mother has been addicted to gambling all year round and owes huge gambling debts. Therefore, Cai Shaofen had to enter the entertainment industry at a young age to pay off her mother's debts, and even often received threatening calls from loan shark companies. In the end, he was forced to sever the mother-daughter relationship with his mother because he was unable to repay the huge amount of gambling money he constantly owed.

In a subsequent interview, she said: "I used to hate my mother, but I don't hate it anymore because she loves me so much, but I really don't have the ability to help her anymore."

So, regard your parents as part of your destiny, not all of it. Learn how to face your own destiny, accept it, let it go, and change it, and then you can be yourself.

All living beings suffer. Our parents are just ordinary people who are forced and squeezed by life. They cannot avoid the weaknesses and shortcomings of human nature.

Understanding the difficulties of parents and forgiving their faults is the sign of a person's true maturity, and it is also the only way to reconcile with the family of origin.