2. Stay away from them: keep an unremarkable superficial relationship and never be as close as friends, because the villains are sweet-mouthed and ruthless, which makes you unprepared and at a loss. ....
3. Speak cautiously and politely: if you criticize or talk about other people's privacy, it will definitely become a handle for them to make waves or as a bargaining chip for revenge in the future; If they criticize or talk about other people's privacy, you should stop immediately and don't listen to a word, because they will definitely set you up anyway ... especially when they talk on the phone and often record your voice! Don't doubt ~ Are they that happy? Why are you so tired? This is the villain mentality!
4. Don't be interesting. They are sociable and engage in small circles. They look lively and have many benefits ... but you must never rely on them to get benefits, because they will definitely ask for double returns, and you will definitely lose more because of small things.
5. It doesn't matter to eat a small loss: because you are not only hard to get justice, but even more hateful; They are narrow-minded, cruel, endless with you, and you are more tired; The ancients said: endure a calm moment; Take a step back and broaden the horizon. You should take it as a practical lesson, so that you can grow up and win more respect. Besides, justice lies in people's hearts ~ who dares to be friends with villains? Everyone will associate with others, and it is inevitable to deal with villains. The phenomenon and performance of villains are everywhere, and you can't hide them. How to get along with villains? There is a good article that we study together:
It is true that you do your job well, and it is also true that colleagues trust and help each other, but you can't "turn a deaf ear to things outside the window." You should pay attention to those little people who like to make trouble everywhere. Be careful.
1. Watch out for the bad guys
Villains are characterized by flattery, sowing dissension, spreading rumors and making trouble, making enemies and holding grudges, and hitting people when they are down.
Little people have speculative psychology, fearing that the world will not be chaotic, and jumping up and down at the slightest sign of trouble, which is manifested in the following aspects:
(1) curiosity. Villains like mixed news, like a "collector" who doesn't distinguish between true and false; I am interested in all kinds of topics, and I regard them as treasures.
(2) the psychology of verification. Such people are always suspicious and hesitant about people and things, hoping that their ideas can be confirmed, and once they hear rumors related to this, they will confuse the fake with the real.
(3) Convergence psychology. Like to follow the crowd, afraid of taking responsibility and unwilling to show their special personality, so as not to shoot a bird with one gun. This leads to a mentality: I should believe what most people believe. I should be like everyone else. Why do I wake up alone when everyone is drunk? Just drunk.
Three hobbies of villains:
(1) likes to collect sensational news. The mysterious death of a movie star; A celebrity has been married several times; How many people were killed in the plane crash; How long did the train stop when it exploded? How many prisoners with guns are at large? Where are they now? The bank was robbed and the criminal left no trace; Infectious diseases are prevalent in a big city, how many people have died, and where the infectious diseases have spread at present, they will be prevalent in this city in a few days.
(2) like all kinds of gossip. Pay special attention to the erotic news of people around you.
(3) I like to pay attention to gossip related to myself. A lady, on the bus, saw several people gathered together and whispered, not too loud or too low, just enough to hear but not clear. She thinks these people are unpredictable, so she pays special attention to listening: "She is a man ... and ... going to the park ...", and she feels that the speaker seems to be looking at her and thinks she is talking about her own man. Reminiscent of his man's consistent behavior, he quarreled with his husband immediately after returning home and secretly followed him the next day. Finally, the husband and wife turned against each other and parted ways.
Eight characteristics of villains:
(1) spread rumors and cause trouble. Their stories are all planned and purposeful, not for fun.
(2) sow discord. For a certain purpose, they can alienate each other to provoke the feelings between colleagues, so as to compete and benefit the fishermen.
(3) kiss up. Although this kind of person is not necessarily a villain, he can easily speak ill of others in front of the boss because he is favored by the boss.
(4) One set on the surface and one set on the back. This kind of behavior represents the style of people like them, so they may regard you differently, which is also a kind of villain behavior.
⑤ Smith. If you gain power, you must depend on him; if you lose power, you must abandon him.
(6) harming others and benefiting themselves. They are used to stepping on other people's blood: that is, using others to open the way for them, and they don't care about other people's sacrifices.
(7) to hit people when they are down. As long as someone loses power, they will catch up and rob the fish in troubled waters.
(8) Irresponsible. You know you are wrong, but you refuse to admit it, and you are determined to find someone to take the fall. If we summarize the discussion about villains in history, we can roughly divide them into seven categories:
First, the surface is clean and honest, but in fact, the heart is despicable, purely for self-interest, not thinking about things, always thinking about people, flattering and pleasing people;
The second is the villain who speculates and gangs, and his appearance does not match his fame;
The third is a villain who is greedy for enjoyment, mercenary, heartless and disowned by his six parents;
The fourth kind is a villain who is jealous of talents, frames loyal ministers, has nothing to learn and is committed to destruction, and does all kinds of evil;
The fifth kind is a dissolute, greedy and forgetful villain;
Sixth, the pursuit of fame and fortune, unscrupulous, unscrupulous, Smith, purely for self-interest, regardless of the world's reprimanded villain;
Seventh, pretend to be gentle and arty; Pretending to be lofty, passive and misleading.
2. Learn to deal with bad people
When getting along with colleagues, no one wants to deal with villains, but no matter whether you like it or not, everyone will inevitably meet villains. Because those despicable people who work around us, their eyes are firmly fixed on the interests around us, big and small, always ready to make more money. To this end, they are even prepared to use various means to calculate others at all costs, which is hard to prevent. Maybe they'll stab you in the back at any moment.
The villain is an expert in thinking of others. Dare to pay all the costs for the smallest grievances, so how to deal with villains in dealing with people really needs a set of effective countermeasures. It is impossible to deal with and use villains without a set of methods. What shall we do? According to the theory of contingency in troubled times, if you don't want to lower yourself to the same level as a villain and lose both sides, then turn a blind eye and ignore him; Or can't afford to hide, try not to have a direct conflict with the villain. In short, if it is not necessary, then don't offend the villain.
In dealing with villains, the wisdom of the ancients provides a useful mirror for our "workplace safety" today.
Guo Ziyi, a great Tang Dynasty star who made great contributions to the revival of the Tang Dynasty, was not only invincible on the battlefield, but also a master in dealing with villains. Guo Ziyi's secret to dealing with villains is "it is better to offend a gentleman than a villain"
After the "An Shi Rebellion" was pacified, Guo Ziyi, who was in power, was not proud. Instead, he is more careful than before to prevent the villains from being jealous. Once, Guo Ziyi was ill, and an official named Qilu came to see him. This man is a notorious treacherous villain in history, with an ugly face. He was born with a livid face, a wide and short face, a flat nose, two nostrils facing the sky and surprisingly small eyes. At that time, everyone regarded him as a living ghost. Because of this, most women can't help smiling when they see him. Guo Ziyi heard the master's report and immediately asked the people around him to avoid appearing. He waited alone. After Qilu left, the concubines went back to their beds and asked Guo Ziyi, "Many officials came to see your illness, and you never let us hide it. Why did this man come and let us all hide? " Guo Ziyi smiled and said, "You don't know that this person is extremely ugly and insidious. If you see that he can't help laughing, then he is jealous. If this person comes to power in the future, our family will suffer. " Guo Ziyi knows this official too well, so be careful when dealing with him. Later, this Qilu became the prime minister and tried his best to retaliate and framed all those who had offended him before, but he showed more respect for Guo Ziyi and stopped provoking him. This incident fully embodies Guo Ziyi's brilliant means to deal with the bad guys.
We must be considerate in dealing with villains, and it is best not to have direct conflict with them. In terms of strength, the villain is not strong. But they do whatever they want by hook or by crook. Conflict, even if you win the villain, will pay the price and get into trouble. As the saying goes, "new shoes don't step on smelly shit", it is still the best policy to hide.
"Little people" can be seen everywhere, and they are often the trouble of a group. They spread rumors, sow discord and make waves, which is very annoying, so some people are not only far away from them, but even hostile to them. Hating villains is enough to show your justice, but it is not wise, but it highlights the unreality of your justice, because your "justice" publicly exposes the meanness of these villains.
No matter how bad people are, they don't want to be considered "bad". They always put on a false coat. However, you want to use hand of justice to unveil their veil, but it reveals the true colors of many people. Isn't this a deliberate act against them?
A gentleman is not afraid of gossip because he has a clear conscience. Seeing that you have exposed his true colors, the villain will definitely retaliate against you in order to protect himself and cover up. Maybe you are not afraid of them fighting back, maybe they can't help you, but you should know that villains are villains because they are always in the dark and always use improper means, and they will not let it go. Don't say that you are not afraid of their attacks on you. Look at the blood of history. How many loyal ministers can resist the treacherous court official's frame-up?
So when dealing with villains, don't be as knowledgeable as they are. At the same time, don't deliberately expose their faces or keep their distance.
In addition, for shameless and desperate people, it is better to avoid it. The villain is very powerful, but you are not afraid of him. Avoid villains just because you are not worth wasting too much energy on meaningless things. Once you don't grasp the boundaries of your behavior and offend the villain, he will try his best to calculate you, destroy your business, distract your energy, and make you uneasy in work, study and life.
People are proud of their face, and when challenged by villains, they also need to be flexible. The phrase "it is better to offend a gentleman than a villain" left by our ancestors can be described as a wise saying to deal with villains in dealing with people.