Situation is created by the mind. Whether a person's situation is painful or happy is always subjective. Some people are content with a certain kind of life, and some are not. Therefore, those who can be content with their current situation may as well continue to live like this, and those who can't must try to find another way out. You cannot tell where success will be, nor can you be sure whether you will be happy when you reach a certain point. Some people will never feel satisfied. His happiness is only based on the process of continuous pursuit and striving, so his goals continue to move far away. Such people may have less happiness, but may have greater achievements. Bitterness and happiness are all determined by one's own judgment, which does not necessarily have a direct relationship with the objective environment. Just like a woman who does not like jewelry, even if she is in an environment that attaches great importance to vanity, her self-esteem will not be hurt. A poor scholar with thousands of books does not want to exchange diamonds or stocks with a millionaire. People who are content with pastoral life do not envy any scholar's honorary title or high official position and salary. Your hobbies are your direction, your interests are your capital, and your temperament is your destiny. Everyone has his own ideal paradise and a world of flowers and flowers that he is happy to enjoy. Big and Small A friend talked about his relative's great-aunt who had never worn shoes that fit her in her life and often walked around in huge shoes. If her son asks her, she will say: "Big and small shoes are the same price, why not buy the big ones?" Every time I tell this story, some people always break out laughing. In fact, we will see many such "aunts" in life. A writer without any ideas writes heavy and bitter works; a painter without any content paints huge paintings; a businessman who is often away from home has a very huge home. Many people continue to pursue greatness, but in fact they are just driven by inner greed, just like buying extra-large shoes and forgetting about their own feet. No matter what kind of shoes you buy, the most important thing is that they fit your feet. No matter what you pursue, you must always stop in moderation. Decisions: People are always faced with decisions throughout their lives, such as: Which university to go to? Which career to choose? What kind of woman should you marry? ...Wait for the nerve-wracking stuff. The presence or absence of a person's decision-making power can show whether his personality is mature or not. On the other hand, those who have no independent opinions do not suffer from the pain of choice. Because when he needs to make a decision, he always asks others: "Hey, what do you think we should do?" People who can achieve great things are people who have strong decision-making ability. He knows that the success or failure of a matter all depends on no one who can do it for you, and no one can decide for you. At the moment of decision-making, success or failure is revealed. This is how people live their lives. I often warn myself and persuade my friends with the phrase "This is how people live their lives." These seven words are easy to say and simple to listen to, but they are very profound when you think about them. It makes me brave when I am weak, humble when I am proud, active when I am decadent, happy when I am in pain, and can afford to take up or let go of anything, so I call it a "wake-up call". "Seven-character motto". ——I often think that if there is anything that cannot be resolved or tolerated in the world of labor, sorrow, gratitude and resentment, wouldn’t it disappear in just a few decades? If so, what can't be solved? People spend their whole life thinking about this sentence, if I am a hero, I will create greater achievements; if I am a scholar, I will gain higher knowledge; if I love someone, I will tell her boldly. Because if today passes, it will no longer come; if this life passes, everything will disappear. If a book is not read and a sentence is not spoken, there will be no chance again. This is a precious life, I must grasp it well! Human life is just like this, you can grasp it actively; you can also face it indifferently. If you can't think about it, think about it for relief! Think of it when you are feeling down and be grateful! Because no matter what, you are always lucky to have this life, and you can’t live this life in vain.

Like a flower A smile is like a flower, true love is like a flower, hope is like a flower, and life is like a flower. Everyone has their favorite flowers, and everyone has many reasons to be kind to themselves and condense their lifetime into a lasting fragrance in the river of time. When in full bloom, it attracts all attention with its dazzling brilliance. The flowers are so weak, no matter how beautiful they are, they still cannot withstand the cold rain in the morning and the wind in the evening. Chun Hong hurriedly withered, leaving only full of sadness. Flowers are beautiful warriors. Even though they become greener, fatter, redder and thinner in the wind and rain, they never bow their heads. The same goes for life, like a delicate glass wine glass, it often cannot withstand the impact of natural disasters and man-made disasters, and is shattered into pieces of brilliance, each piece of which is a transparent heart. Life is often like an epiphyllum, watered with years of tears and sweat, mixed with hard work, only then can you have a moment to look at the world with a smile. In today's world, there are fewer people who love flowers. When people are running for a living and can't even hold on to their own lives, who will listen to the flowers? However, in this irritable city, please don’t forget that this world is a mirror image. Everything is like a flower, and flowers are like everything. Therefore, Buddha picked up flowers and Kasyapa smiled; this smile is the whole world. Life Life may be the only element in the universe that should be worshiped. The gestation, birth and manifestation of life's essence is an extremely exciting process. Life, like music and pictures, secretly carries a destined tone or color. When it encounters the tide, when it hears the urging of the horn, it will suddenly perk up, revealing its essential splendor and excitement. Of course, this essence is more likely to be mean, cowardly, and boring; its owner has no choice. It should be admitted that life is hope. It should be said that despicability and vulgarity should not be prematurely complacent, and should not mistakenly believe that they have successfully eliminated nobility and purity. Pretense cannot last either, because time is flowing like a long river, and despicable people, profiteers, and vulgar sticks cannot always wear the crown of educators, poets, and warriors. At the end of their unhindered career, their descendants will be left with a lasting sense of humiliation. I worship life. I worship the secret of noble life. I worship the steel fireworks that burst out when this life is born, grows, fights, becomes disabled, and sacrifices. I admire the freedom of a living life floating in mountains, rivers, oceans and continents. Yes, life is hope. It floats freely and freely, and it makes human beings always have a bloodline that is not willing to fail and pursues its own golden pasture without regrets. Every pond has the breath of the ocean. Every stone has the breath of the ocean. , all have the shadow of the desert. That's why the poet said: A clover, plus my imagination, is a vast grassland. Walking on the fields in the autumn moon, I remembered a poet's question to the old Tolstoy: Do all / mature / must / bow their heads? That's right, every step we take will become a thing of the past, whether they are happy encounters or painful partings, but please believe that whether it is eager anticipation or affectionate remembrance, every song we have sung will become a thing of the past. A song will never disappear in an instant, as Rosa Luxemburg said: "No matter where I go, as long as I live, the beauty of the sky, clouds and life will be with me!" A narrow and selfish mind , can become one's own hell, but a broad and cheerful heart can become the paradise of others. There is only one layer between hell and heaven. And all the flames of jealousy always start by burning yourself. An old writer told me: "How much time have your feet been crushed? But don't regret it. As long as you tread truly, everyone's steps will have depth.

"When you finally win the flowers of success, don't you miss the intersection of the past? When you rebuild the luxurious house of success, don't you miss the wood of the past? Love, sometimes is very simple

Love is sometimes very simple. In the falling rain and snow at the gate of a primary school, the parents who picked up their children were so cold that they rubbed their hands and stamped their feet. Several grandfathers who came to pick up their children on tricycles had hair and eyebrows. It was covered with snowflakes. Finally, the children were over from school. The grandfathers who had been looking forward to it for a long time hurriedly carried their grandsons or granddaughters onto the tricycle, hurriedly took off their cotton coats to wrap them up, got on the car and disappeared quickly. In the heavy snow...

Love is sometimes very simple. Because it is the birthday of the grandson of a laid-off worker, there is a plate of braised prawns on the table tonight, which looks golden and bright. The grandson's eyes showed joy at the oily prawns. His father pretended not to notice and gave his grandfather and grandma each the largest one. However, grandma hurriedly picked up the prawns in her own bowl and put them in her grandson's bowl. Li, said: "Prawns are hard to digest, so I'll let my grandson help me get rid of this one." The grandson quickly picked it up and put it back into grandma's bowl: "Our family only eats prawns once a year. If grandma doesn't eat them, I won't eat them either!" Just like this, everyone's bowls ended up having shrimps. There was a red and bright prawn. This extraordinary meal brought so much warmth to the family...

Love is sometimes very simple one morning. , the wife got up first as usual, and prepared breakfast for her husband and son like a gust of wind. Unlike yesterday's noodle soup and millet porridge the day before yesterday, today was a "foreign meal" - hamburgers and milk. One day, my wife felt unwell at night. When she opened her eyes the next day - oh no, it was past the time to make breakfast! When she hurriedly put on her clothes and rushed into the kitchen, she was stunned - her husband was carrying As she walked out with a bowl of her favorite noodle soup, she suddenly stopped her legs and muttered: "The alarm didn't go off today, I want you to sleep a little longer. I got up first. I wonder if the noodle soup is to your taste..."

2. Precious gift

Doc is a messenger, he always believes in himself His mission is to deliver happiness to people. Therefore, he always carries many small notes with encouraging words in his pocket. When he delivers letters and telegrams to people, he also leaves them a small note. Notes telling them "Today is a good day," "Smile a lot," and "Stop worrying."

During World War II, Doc did not enlist in the Army because he was too old. , but he volunteered to be a volunteer in the field hospital to assist the hospital in saving lives and healing the wounded.

One day, he had a sudden idea and wrote a sentence on the wall of the hospital: "No one will die here. . "His behavior attracted everyone's attention. People in the hospital said he was crazy. Some people thought that this sentence was innocuous and did not need to be erased.

No one cared about that sentence, so it stayed there. Later, not only the wounded, but also the doctors, nurses and the director gradually remembered this sentence.

The sick and wounded were determined not to let this sentence fail. For these words, doctors and nurses try their best to provide patients with the most meticulous treatment and care. This hospital has become a strong hospital, with an expression of hope and perseverance on everyone's face.

Sometimes, it is not a giant who creates miracles, but an ordinary word. A word of encouragement is a free but precious gift to the other person. It is insignificant in our lives, but often as important as a thousand. 3. Stones make soup

Many years ago, three soldiers returned from the battlefield.

Tired and hungry, they came to a village. Due to the continuous war, the villagers' harvest was very bad. They hurriedly hid the little food they had, and then went to the square to see the three soldiers. They lamented the lack of food and clothing and were unable to entertain the soldiers with a hearty meal.

The soldiers whispered for a while, and one soldier said: "You have nothing for us to eat, but we do have something for everyone to share: we have a trick to make soup from stones. ."

The villagers were very curious. Soon they lit a fire and set up the biggest pot in the village. The soldiers placed three smooth stones into the pot. "This can be cooked into a delicious soup in a while." The second soldier said, "But if you add some salt and some celery, it will taste even more delicious." Upon hearing this, a village woman Said: "What a coincidence! I just remembered that there is still a little bit left somewhere." The villagers remembered something one by one. After a while, radishes, beef, and cheese were added to the cauldron. When everyone sat down to drink soup, someone pushed a barrel of wine.

The villagers gathered happily in the square. They ate, danced and sang until late at night. When the three soldiers woke up the next morning, they found the villagers standing around them and a backpack of bread and cheese. "You have given us the most precious gift: the secret of making soup with stones," said an elder. "We will always remember it in our hearts."

The third soldier said to everyone: " In fact, there is no secret, but one thing is certain, as long as everyone brings something, it can be a banquet for everyone to share. "4. Suffering is a school

Gorky has it. There is a famous saying called: "Suffering is a school." We should let our children know the real situation of the family and let her share some of the difficulties. This is good for the children who grow up day by day...

My daughter is 13 years old and in the first grade of junior high school. This year, the factory where my old cow pulled broken carts declared bankruptcy, and I became unemployed with no work to do. The house leaked and it rained all night, and his father was suffering from liver cancer and was lying in the hospital. The family's livelihood depended on his wife's meager salary.

When my father was not sick, his daughter had always been the apple of his eye. When she came back from get off work, she would always scream "Lingling" and "Lingling" non-stop. When my daughter wants to buy sports hoops, she immediately takes out her wallet; when she wants to buy dancing shoes, she goes to the store with her without saying a word. In short, my father’s point of view is that “what other people’s children have, our Lingling should also have.” At that time, Lingling always liked to boast to her classmates: "My grandfather is an engineer and loves me the most!"

But now, the family situation has completely changed. In order to supplement the family expenses, I had to go to the streets to shine shoes for others, and I had to hide it from my daughter and only said that I was going to work. My ignorant daughter came home from school and still wanted this and that.

On this day, my daughter saw that other children had vision protection glasses, and when she got home, she insisted on buying them. "It's only 100 yuan a pair. You can't be too stingy!" Oh my god, 100 yuan is a quarter of her mother's monthly salary as a fitter. I can only earn more than ten yuan a day at most when shining shoes. Money really doesn't allow her to be extravagant. Because she did not meet her daughter's request, she even refused to eat dinner and stayed alone in the hut crying for half the night.

The wife wiped away tears and said: "If her grandfather knew, I don't know how sad he would be. It's better to buy a pair for the child!" I shook my head: "Gorky has a famous saying, which is called 'Suffering is a pain'. We should let the children know the real situation of the family and let them share some of the difficulties. This is good for the children who grow up day by day." I knocked on my daughter's door and said softly to her: "Lingling, Do you know what disease my grandpa is suffering from? It's liver cancer. The doctor said he won't live for more than a year. My father's factory has gone bankrupt and I haven't gone to work for a long time. I go out to help others shine their shoes every day, and that's not why. Home? It’s not that my father is cruel, it’s really difficult for us right now.”

My daughter stared at me and suddenly threw herself into my arms and burst into tears. It took a long time before she raised her eyes filled with self-blame and said, "Dad, it's my fault that I'm ignorant, I'm too selfish.

Please rest assured that I will make corrections in the future. ”

In order to help my daughter strengthen her psychological endurance, I set up a shoe shine stall at the door of their school the next day. When the wind blows, I hide in a corner; when it rains, I move it to the eaves. One day after school, my daughter quietly walked up to me and said with tears in her eyes: "Dad, I watched you all morning, and you just polished a pair of leather shoes for me. ”

From then on, my daughter no longer asked for money to go to the stall for breakfast. She used to dislike eating porridge, but now she calls her mother to cook porridge early in the morning, and says she loves porridge cooked by her mother the most. ; In the past, she would pester her grandfather to go to the Children's Palace to ride the bumper cars every weekend, but now on Sundays, she takes the initiative to clean the house and go to the hospital to deliver soup and water to her grandfather; in the past, she had to buy homework books for three days and two days, but now it is homework books After finishing writing on the front, I wrote on the back...

Not long ago, my daughter learned that Xiaowei from next door did not do well in the high school entrance examination and spent 8,000 yuan to enter a key high school, so she stopped watching TV every night. Instead, she concentrated on doing her homework on the table in the small room. When her mother saw that she often turned off the lights in the middle of the night, she asked her to pay attention to her rest. She said: "Our family's conditions are not as good as Xiaowei's. If her grades are not good, what will happen in the future." Do you have the money to go to a key high school? If I work harder now and lay a good foundation in various subjects, I am making money for my parents!"

Seeing that my daughter is becoming more mature and sensible day by day, my wife and I Looking at the tears, I feel unspeakable joy in my heart. 5. Three sentences that will benefit me for life

I have been my brother's "follower" since I was a child. My brother got first place in every exam, and I was like. I am so happy that I got the first place. When I meet people, I say: "My brother is awesome. He always takes the first place in the exam." "No one can understand that kind of joy. One time my father said to me: "It's not that you got first place in the exam, why are you happy! Remember, don’t use other people’s things to show off! "So I remembered the first sentence about "showing off" - don't use other people's things to show off yourself!

In the future, I will always get the first place in the exam with my own intelligence and diligence, so I will I was secretly happy. I felt that everything became insignificant in my eyes. When my classmates asked me questions, I ignored them and curled my lips and said, "You can't even do such a simple question. Look at me!" "While I was feeling triumphant, my father spoke again: "You can be confident, but you can't be arrogant. Remember, don't always show off yourself! "So I remembered the second sentence about "showing off" - don't always show off yourself.

After entering college, I won a prize in a chess competition organized by the school and took home a trophy. My nephew saw it and played with it. He took the trophy and "bragged" to his friends, saying how great his uncle was. His friend immediately "revere him as a god" when he saw it. Said: "Don't let him hold your things, it will only spoil him. Remember, don’t let others take your stuff and show it off! "So I remembered the third sentence about "showing off" - don't let others show off your things!

What my father said was just three short sentences: but they benefited me throughout my life. 6 , Honesty is not simple

An equipment engineer came to the cable factory. He used to work in a large enterprise in Hubei and had more than 20 years of equipment management experience. Somehow, he brought his wife and daughter to Hangzhou to find a job.

When applying for jobs, he specifically selected those industrial enterprises located in remote areas, and finally reached a preliminary employment agreement with the cable factory. When negotiating wages, he had few requirements for personnel. The manager was surprised and asked him tactfully why his request was so low, but he lowered his head and remained silent. Who didn't have any privacy now?

A few days later, that person signed the contract. Say to the HR manager: "I think I should tell you the question you asked me a few days ago. "

He said: "I was expelled from the original company. I knew too many people there and I couldn't hang out anymore. The HR manager immediately put away the contract and told him that he could not make the decision and that whether to hire him now required the approval of the chairman.

He came to the chairman of the board. After listening to his explanation, the chairman looked at his resume, pondered for a while, and said, "I still decided to hire you."

This surprised the HR manager. The chairman said: "Experience is valuable, and honesty is even more important."

This story was told to me by a friend who is the manager of the human resources department. He said that the equipment engineer is now the head of the company's power department and has excellent work performance. Now many private companies want to poach him, but he has not left.

Stream water

The transparent stream water is as clear as mother’s eyes.

In spring, your eyes are full of colors;

In summer, your eyes are full of deep green;

In autumn, your eyes are full of green Chengbi;

In winter, you are tired - you close your eyes and stop singing.

You took in the clouds in the blue sky, the sunset in the dusk, and the stars in the night sky; you also left behind the figure of my childhood.

Ha! The rustling sugarcane forest beside the stream and the sweet wind once blew my childhood dreams! I lie next to you and feel the happiness of leaning on my mother's chest...

You are an ancient song in our lives——

You see the man riding the donkey The wedding team came, and a few suonas played sad music;

You saw a few strong men carrying a heavy wooden coffin, carrying the old man up the hillside;

You also heard: the wheelbarrow at the foot of the mountain, with a squeaking sound, groaned through the poor land...

Without you, who would have left us with the natural colors;

Who recorded for us the sorrow and joy of the mountain people?

Transparent stream, you gave me a pair of eyes that can distinguish colors.

When I am by your side and find myself becoming a teenager, I have to travel far away.

You are like the mother who raised me, send me out of the mountains!