Silent son: strange, strong, chaotic, divine.

Confucius does not talk about weirdness, violence, chaos and ghosts.

First, strange.

The master has heard strange things like mountain gods, water monsters, wild monsters and serial stories. He won't comment or discuss these things. Confucius only talked about ordinary things and common sense, not about these strange things.

For example, we will see some news on our mobile phones now. As soon as you see that title, you will feel very shocked and want to have a look. But in fact, these strange things, eye-catching things, can not make people learn, progress, reflect, and even delay your time, energy and future.

We often hear people around us say that they won millions of lottery tickets and married billionaires. What does it have to do with you? I always say strange things, but these have nothing to do with you and have no meaning. I always like to eat instant noodles with beer, direct the war situation in the Middle East and care about the international situation, but these have nothing to do with you. What you should be most concerned about is your family, your job, your three meals a day, your wallet, and how you can make progress.

Master never talks about these things. He only talks about daily life and these ordinary things. The greatness of Confucianism is that it only talks about people's daily use, not about those mysterious and strange things.

Second, force.

Masters don't discuss force. What is force? It is power, which is the opposite of the power that ordinary people have seen. For example, Li Yuanba took two big hammers weighing 800 Jin. The master doesn't discuss this. Why? Because we are all ordinary people, we don't hold two hammers like Li Yuanba. We cultivate self-cultivation and cultivate self-cultivation, because people rely on virtue, not strength. When a person advocates strength, his virtue will be weakened, and when a person advocates fighting capacity, his IQ will be reduced. We can look at those particularly powerful people in history. Usually, their brains are useless and they have no wisdom. Strength can conquer people's bodies, and morality can conquer people's hearts.

Third, chaos.

Those negative things, such as insurrection, rebellion and disorder, are not discussed by the master. One should never say negative things in one's mouth. When you talk to others, send a gift. You always say that your husband is so lazy at home. If you always say that, he will be lazier. The more you quote the negative side, the easier it is for him to relate the negative side. Children don't contradict their parents, but when they see other children contradict their parents, they learn to contradict their parents. This is what people think, because he is exposed to messy things. There are many negative examples circulating on the Internet now. It was originally for education.

As a person, never say anything negative. You don't know what others will think and do after listening to you.

Fourth, God.

Master doesn't talk about God. Is there a God? Confucius told us that he was "far away from ghosts and gods" and did not deny the existence of God, but no one had seen him. He has great respect for God and is very cautious about offering sacrifices, and generally does not discuss them. Confucius believed that a person should do his own personnel well, instead of offering sacrifices to the gods every day. Lutz once asked Confucius how to serve ghosts and gods. What did Confucius say? You can't even be a good person, and you still want to serve ghosts and gods? Be a good person first. Don't talk about immortals, just talk about human things.

We always talk about self-cultivation. What is this? What you cultivate is your behavior, and the most important thing in a person's behavior is your language, especially women. You will find that a woman almost lost in this mouth, and women should never say anything negative. People often say that it takes three years to learn to speak, but it takes a lifetime to learn to shut up. If you gossip every day and there is nothing serious in your mouth, it will be difficult in your life.

To stop him, Zhuangzi said, "People should stop at running water and stop at people." Man can't see himself in running water, and only when the water is still can he watch. People are the same. If you are like an eight-legged cat every day and you can't even settle down, you can't gather the energy around you to finish one thing.

Most of us are in a fog, and we often make mistakes in playing chess, which complicates our lives. It's because we like to talk about Machamp's confusion and don't pay attention to our daily use, but waste our time on those weird things, instead of cultivating our virtue and righteousness, thinking that we can get what we want by taking shortcuts. Trying to ask God to bless himself instead of doing practical things.

Everything in the world is everyday and ordinary. If you can do every ordinary little thing well, this person will be great.