In the workplace, everyone has their own way of doing things, especially the elderly who have worked for a long time. When they meet new comrades who are out of tune with their own atmosphere and work pace, they will easily become anxious and hate each other. Therefore, it is inevitable to complain about these new comrades and feel that they have something to do when they are tired, such as insufficient communication and lack of initiative. My mood has changed from anger to depression. After some mental anxiety, I will inevitably become depressed and feel that life is not worth it, and the workplace is not worth it.
Of course, after that, you have to cheer up and keep fighting. Although you don't like that new comrade-in-arms, you should continue to work with him, but there is always a thought in your heart and you feel a little embarrassed everywhere. Such a situation, for introverts in the workplace, should be a frequent occurrence. On the one hand, you dare not say that the other person is not good, on the other hand, you have a knot in your heart, and you are tired of smiling at each other. This tangled quagmire is very uncomfortable and distressing.
Why do you see many people in the workplace who are familiar with each other and good at communication and cooperation? Maybe you will say that people are extroverted, can be human and can talk. What should introverts do? Does he have to make the same mistake every time? No, personally, introverts are usually more rational and objective, because they listen more and talk less, and often observe. Many times, they know what the world in their hearts is like. We know very well that there is no small information error in the communication between people. Language communication does not mean empathy, words can't express meaning, and the probability of reaching the wrong meaning is very high, especially when communicating with a new stranger. However, due to the natural psychological distance between you and strangers, you will express less and more formally, and so will the other party, so there will be less communication information and low efficiency. Sometimes even based on my own experience, I take it for granted what the other party will do next, and I don't verify the communication, which leads to inconsistent work rhythm. Therefore, the difficulty in communicating with new comrades-in-arms is that he is a stranger, and the cooperation of strangers can be imagined, especially for old workers who already have a fixed working style, it is easy to go their own way and the rhythm does not match.
How to avoid this situation (it's really a waste of feelings). That's the first sentence: be friends first, then do business. In the workplace, we can first become friends and then work. Only in this way can the psychological barriers brought by strangers be eliminated, and the freedom between friends will make your communication smoother and fuller. Of course, some people will say that it is too much to make friends every day in a job. In fact, if you really understand the phrase "make friends first, then do business", you will know that this friend is a very shallow friend, and there are no real friends in business, only real interests. So you don't need to make friends with others, just make friends at a shallow level, so it's enough to break the barrier between strangers, which is better than building a basic relationship with strangers.
Some children asked how to make friends with people, do you want to buy something and take him out to play? Yes and no, being friends here is a kind of psychological construction. Before meeting a strange colleague, we should do a good job in psychological construction that he is a familiar colleague. Thinking of meeting an acquaintance, be caring and attentive, the director department is short, and the relationship is close at once. When you meet an acquaintance, he thinks that he can speak freely when he meets an acquaintance.
Hit the snake seven inches, your anxiety comes not from the wrong rhythm behind you, but from the establishment of interpersonal relationships in the early stage. A good interpersonal foundation will make the work much smoother.
New comrades-in-arms are old comrades-in-arms, so that there can be new comrades-in-arms constantly.