? In constant reflection, I suddenly understood that it is not about how many teachers you have worshiped, how many spiritual classes you have taken, how many books you have read, how many thousands of mantras you have recited, or how many times you have prostrated yourself. First, no matter how many prostrations you have done, or how many hours you can sit in meditation with your lotus lotus, you will be able to become enlightened as if you were reborn. In the end, what you have to face are the dark sides and negative personality traits in your own heart.
We must take full responsibility for the people, things, and things that come into our lives. Learn to accept your own unhappiness and the imperfections of life, and willingly learn the lesson of "surrender" to find a shortcut to pursue a better life, and the best shortcut is to start from now.
When you encounter something you don’t like, accept it, face it, deal with it, let it go, and be at ease!
Yes, it’s just an idea! Why do you allow it to strangle you and keep you in a dilemma, making you unable to be happy? What really makes you miserable and unhappy is not your parents' behavior or stance, but your thoughts. Obviously, when you think this way, you suffer. When you don't have such thoughts or thoughts, you are free. Whose problem is that?
Remember, “Whatever you resist, endures.” Because when you resist something or an emotion, you focus on that emotion or event, which gives it more energy and makes it stronger. These negative emotions are like darkness, you cannot get rid of them. The only thing that can be done is to bring in light. When light appears, darkness dissolves. This is an eternal law. Remember, joy is the best light to dissolve negative emotions.
"I" has a body, but "I" is not "my" body, nor is it "I". The name is just a code name, and the work "I" does cannot represent "I am" who". Whether it is the sympathetic self or the excellent self, it is an identity, a perspective of looking at oneself, not the real self.
You can only be treated the way you deserve, so how do you deserve to be treated by others? Each of us is equal, no one is superior to anyone else, our value actually depends on how we treat and view ourselves, which is an important factor in determining how we are treated by others.
The higher your level of personal responsibility, the more inner strength you have, the greater your freedom, and of course, the deeper your joy and freedom.
Many times, most people don’t know what they really want. Once, I received a text message that I particularly liked: Those who have no money in their pockets are the most miserable; those who have money in their pockets are the most troubled; those who have no money in their hearts but have money in their pockets are the happiest. ; People who have no money in their pockets and no money in their hearts are the coolest. Do you want to be a cool person, a troubled person, a painful person, or a happy person? In fact, this is optional.
True freedom is not external, but internal. I feel like life patterns are like strings tied around our bodies, immobilizing us and keeping us alive like a puppet. Only when you cut off the constraints and restrictions given to you by your life pattern bit by bit can you truly gain freedom.
When you ask "Who am I?", there is actually no answer to this question. Because, all your answers, such as "I am a woman", "I am a mother", "I am a writer", or even saying that "I" is a spirit body, soul, consciousness, etc., are all using language in a world of duality. What you express is not the real you.
If you let go of your current identity and stop struggling, will you lose what you rely on and cannot find what you should rely on or your sense of identity? If you let go of your husband's affair, your children's learning problems, your health, your career struggles, the unsatisfactory work, etc., will you feel at a loss, as if you have lost the goal of fighting, and your life is meaningless?
Our experiences are caused by certain emotions that we need. This is a pattern and habit of ours. For example, if you often feel unloved, you can write: I see that I seek the painful feeling of not being loved, and I accept this feeling wholeheartedly and let go of my need for it. The more you reject this kind of thing, the more it won't go away, and it will become stronger! Therefore, after you see it, you must first accept it, and then tell yourself, I don’t need this emotion, and I have to let go of my need for it.
Too many times we think that the thing that makes us feel empty is external, and so we keep searching in vain for it. If you are willing to reflect on yourself, return to your inner self, accompany yourself, and be your best friend, you will find that your inner space has increased, your inner strength has increased, and your external world will also change accordingly. .
Everything we do is based on feelings. The methods may be different, and many may even be harmful and wrong, but the purpose is the same: hoping to feel better.
. Our mission in life is actually to experience this true self - to find the unchanging essence in this dream-like world of real illusions.
Busy, busy, everyone is busy. Pursue, pursue, everyone is pursuing. But why this society, this world, us humans. Isn't it getting better?
Embrace the shadows in life-----Live a state you don’t know
What is the real purpose of our coming to this world?
Karma refers to the collection of results caused by an individual’s past, present or future actions. The results of karma will dominate present and future experiences. An individual’s life experience and the experiences of others are all affected by one’s own actions. behavioral impact. Individuals have the possibility and responsibility to take responsibility for their own lives. And karma is also the cause of reincarnation, so karma is not only the result of this life, but also extends to the next life endlessly.
Life pattern = personality tendency * external environment * various education * life events * past life karma
How to get out of the victim prison?
Savior: helper, doer, restorer, generous giver, sacrificial giver, planner, solution seeker, analyzer, guide, apologizer, peacekeeper, forgiving one , a people pleaser, a charitable person in a high position, a capable person, a "knowledgeable" driver.
Persecutors: impatient trainers, bullies, scoffers, self-righteous perfectionists, suspicious people in high positions, angry, critical, sadistic, harsh, blamers. Zhang Defen's famous quotes
Victims: scapegoat, rebel, dependent on others, incapacitated, pitiful, desperate, depressed, abused, tired, doubtful of oneself, injured , dependent, melancholic, indulgent, unfairly treated, self-pitying, stagnant complainer.
There is no engagement between the two parties, so why can’t the other party change his mind? If your deep love for him can turn into such hatred in an instant, then what you give is not true love, you are just taking 50 steps to laugh at 100 steps. Because both parties are in love for the needs of the "ego", it is not true love.
It’s your thoughts that don’t let go of you
Don’t think that negative emotions are unhealthy. When negative emotions come, what is your attitude towards them? The crux of the matter. When negative emotions come, treat them with a normal mind and try to experience them calmly in that moment instead of blocking your feelings. Warn yourself: I cannot be sad or lose my temper, and then suppress it. Doing so for a long time will bring health risks to the body, mind and spirit. Whenever negative emotions come, feel them in your body and be completely with them. This is called experiencing your negative emotions completely. Don't run away, don't suppress, and don't project it outside. We can vent appropriately, for example, beat the pillow and cry bitterly, go to the mountains to yell and scold the other person, and let the emotion flow through you naturally like a kind of energy. At this time, you are just a conduit through which negative emotions flow, not a container to hold them.
. Instead of looking for fish in the abyss, it is better to retreat and build a net. Once you build the net, you can catch the fish.
Unconsciousness is the source of all human troubles. We must turn over every unconscious "stone" and see clearly. When anyone triggers an emotion in you, it's time to look for that "rock."
The so-called "responsibility" means venting your anger in a way that does not harm others. You can acknowledge your anger towards your parents by punching the pillow hard and give your anger an outlet. Then, forgive them and forgive yourself. Anger does not know how to forgive, anger cannot forgive, it only wants revenge, then let it take revenge
. After you take revenge, you can still go back to being your good boy, but your inner anger has been liberated and will not suddenly jump out and do bad things at a certain moment in the future when it is triggered.
Admitting that you have anger is the most important step. The second step is to express it in an appropriate way so that the energy accumulated within you can flow freely. Dissolve revenge with forgiveness.
The only enemy is yourself. What's the best way to deal with your enemies? Just accept it with love, humility, and patience. Love can dissolve everything. Learn to love yourself and build your inner strength. You don't need to be like a fire brigade every day, putting out all the fires in your life.
What is supernatural power? The magical power is that you don't feel happy when others praise you; you don't get angry when others slander you. That is to say, you are not surprised.
How to resolve the dilemma? The richness of the universe is boundless, and it also shares its richness with every sentient being selflessly. Its abundance will flow to me if I am willing to receive it. The way to solve the dilemma is to choose neither of them, or choose one of them, but we can happily bear all the consequences, be content with our choices, and try to live in every moment without looking back.
To live fully, you must first accept death. Death is not terrible. What is terrible is that you have not lived well, fully living in the moment, embracing life and enjoying life. Of course you should still do all the medical treatments you should do, just surrender completely to the flow of life.
The truth is the greatest, because what has happened cannot be changed. If you don't accept it, it's like banging your head against a wall and hoping to knock it away. This is completely futile and futile! The art of surrender is to accept everything in front of you and know that there is a higher power that controls everything. You can tell it your wishes, and then live in harmony with everything at the moment, live happily, and continue to work hard for your wishes. Then maybe one day what you want will come to your life effortlessly.
The shadow of death. There are only three kinds of things in the world: my things, other people's things and God's things. How long a person can live is a matter of God. No matter how hard you try to protect your loved ones, you cannot defy destiny. No matter how much you love him, unnecessary worry is the worst gift. Why not give him blessings?
There is a gift at the end of the tunnel
How to deal with negative emotions: 1. When you have an uncomfortable feeling, go deeply into it and feel it. 2. When your emotional feelings are at their highest, speak the truth about yourself. You are infinite spirit, you are light, unconditional love, peace. 3. Welcome back your power. The emotions that cause us extreme discomfort contain extremely powerful forces. 4. Be grateful and appreciate your own creations. Thank the people in the incident for accompanying you to perform this scene. After all, there is no one else in the outside world. You are the best director and best screenwriter of your life, always bringing you the lessons you need most. You, let you win the jackpot!
The first step to face emotions maturely is to accept and admit that there are emotions at the moment; the second is to recognize that it is not real, but you feel that it is real; the third is to Find out what emotions really are. Any emotion, as long as you fully experience it, it will return to its true appearance - strength, love, joy, and peace. This is something that our minds cannot experience and understand. It can only be experienced through your heart and actual enlightenment.
Expecting others to change simply doesn’t work. The road to hell is paved with expectations.
If you have a way to identify and accept the feeling of darkness, you will see that your anger contains great power, your sadness contains infinite compassion, there are many opportunities hidden in crisis, and there are many opportunities hidden in the unknown. There are many possibilities, and there is a lot of wisdom hidden in the darkness.
Our fate in the first half of our lives is determined by fate, while our experiences in the second half of our lives are shaped by our beliefs, behaviors, and personalities. Of course, in the first half of our lives, various factors in our genes will shape our different values ??and behavioral reactions, which will then affect the rest of our lives.
There are two "wolves" in everyone's heart. Subpersonalities: inner child, inner parent, loving adult. There are two wolves in each of us, a bad wolf and a good wolf. Which wolf will survive? Everyone will guess that the evil wolf will survive, but actually it is not the case. The only one that will survive is the wolf you nourish.
Therefore, in the process of self-observation and awareness, if you identify too much with a certain voice, whether it is an inner parent, an inner child, or a loving adult, you will confuse yourself with that voice, and Strengthen his momentum.
.When you feel that others are superior to others, it is because you have a inferior self inside. When you need to be despised by others, you will be despised by others. A person with a high sense of inferiority will naturally experience many feelings of being disrespected by others in his life. A person who feels that there is no warmth in this world will be looked down upon by others everywhere. How you view the world is how the world treats you.
In constant reflection,
I suddenly understood that it is not about how many teachers you have worshiped, how many spiritual classes you have taken, how many books you have read, or how many thousands of times you have read it. Mantras
how many times you kowtow, how many prostrations you do, or how many hours you can sit in the lotus position, you will become enlightened
as if you were reborn. In the end, what you have to face are the dark sides and negative personality traits in your own heart.
We must take full responsibility for the people, things, and things that come into our lives
. Learn to accept your own unhappiness and the imperfections of life, and learn the lesson of "surrender" willingly, and find a shortcut to pursue a better life, and the best shortcut is
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Start from now.
When you encounter something you don’t like
Accept it, face it, deal with it, let it go, and be at ease!
Yes, it’s just an idea!
Why do you allow it to strangle you and keep you in a dilemma, making you unable to be happy? What really makes you miserable and unhappy is not your parents' behavior or stance, but your thoughts. Obviously, when you think this way, you suffer.
When you don’t have such thoughts and ideas, you are free. Whose problem is that?
Remember, "Whatever you resist
will persist." Because when you resist something or a certain emotion, you focus on that emotion or event, which gives it more energy and makes it stronger. These negative emotions are like darkness, you cannot get rid of them.
The only thing that can be done is to bring in light. When light appears, darkness dissolves. This is an eternal law. Remember, joy
Joy is the best light to dissolve negative emotions.
"I" has a body,
But "I" is not "my" body, nor is it "I". The name is just a code name, and what "I" is engaged in Nor does work
represent "who I am." Whether it is the sympathetic self or the excellent self, it is a kind of identity, a perspective of looking at oneself, not the real self.
You can only be treated the way you deserve
So how do you deserve to be treated by others? Each of us is equal, no one is superior to anyone else, our value actually depends on how we treat and view ourselves, which is an important factor in determining how we are treated by others.
Your assumption of personal responsibility
The higher the level, the more inner strength you have, the higher your degree of freedom, and of course, the greater your joy and sense of ease. deep.
Many times, most people don’t know what they really want. Once, I received a text message that I particularly liked:
Those who have money in their pockets are the most miserable when they have money in their hearts; those who have money in their pockets are also the most troubled in their hearts;
Those who have money in their pockets are the happiest; those who have no money in their pockets and no money in their hearts are the most unrestrained. Do you want to be a cool person, a troubled person, a painful person, or a happy person? In fact, this is optional.
True freedom is not external
but internal. I feel that life patterns are like ropes tied to our bodies, making us unable to move and making us live like a puppet. Only when you cut off the restraints and restrictions given to you by your life pattern little by little can you truly gain freedom.
When you ask "Who am I?"
There is actually no answer to this question.
Because, all your answers, such as "I am a woman", "I am a mother", "I am a writer", or even saying that "I" is a spirit body, soul, consciousness, etc., are based on the second Those expressed in language in a world of meta-opposition are not the real you.
If you let go of your current identity
and stop struggling, will you lose what you rely on and cannot find what you should rely on or your sense of identity? If you put aside
the fact of your husband's affair, your children's learning problems, your health, your career struggles, the unsatisfactory work
etc., would you feel At a loss as to what to do, as if the goal of resistance has been lost, is life meaningless?
Our experiences are produced in conjunction with a certain emotion that we need. This is a pattern and habit of ours. For example, if you often feel unloved
then write: I see that I am seeking the painful feeling of not being loved. I accept this feeling wholeheartedly and let go of it
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It needs. The more you reject this kind of thing, the more it won't go away, and it will become stronger! So, after you see it,
you must first accept it, and then tell yourself, I don’t need this emotion, and I have to let go of my need for it.
Too many times we think
that the thing that makes us feel empty is external, and so we keep looking for it in vain. If you are willing to reflect on yourself,
go back to your inner self, accompany yourself, and be your best friend, you will find that your inner space has increased and your inner strength
As your energy increases, your outer world will change as well.
Everything we do
is done based on feelings. The methods may be different, and many may even be harmful or wrong, but the purpose is the same. :
Hopefully I feel better.