How to be filial? There are several paragraphs about filial piety in The Analects of Confucius, of which four are the most touching. The first one is Meng Wenxiao. Confucius said, "No violation." "Life is alive, and things are polite; When you die, you will be buried and sacrificed. " When discussing something or truth, Confucius is not consistent, but "watching people eat vegetables", giving different answers to different objects. In this dialogue, Confucius said that "filial piety" is "disobedience" and emphasized "courtesy", because Meng belongs to the third ring road of Lu, and the third ring road is the most lack of courtesy for the monarch of Lu. They are basically above the monarch and are the actual rulers. So Confucius has this answer. And "no violation" and "courtesy" are also desirable to treat parents today. Sometimes because parents are family members, we will do whatever we want, listen to them, turn a deaf ear if we don't want to, and even object badly. This is not filial piety, is it? Even if we don't agree with our parents' reasons and practices, we can be "disobedient" and "polite" on the surface. I believe that parents will be much happier, and making them happy is our filial piety. If death burial and sacrifice can also be carried out according to etiquette, we can continue "filial piety", effectively form a good family tradition of gratitude and filial piety, and thus accumulate family details.
The second place is that Meng Xiang asked about filial piety. Confucius said, "Parents only worry about their illness." Meng is the son of Meng. There are two explanations here. One is that parents are worried about their parents' illness, the other is that parents are worried about their children's illness. Mr. Yang Bojun adopted the second viewpoint and thought about how to be "filial", that is, not to let parents worry about their health. Personally, I think the second explanation is better. Most people can worry about their parents' illness, but not everyone can understand how to take care of themselves in order not to let their parents worry about their illness. "Parents with physical problems" hurt their children and their mothers' hearts. A child's little discomfort can cause parents' deep concern. Then, taking care of yourself can relieve parents' worries. Isn't it a deeper expression of filial piety?
The third place is Ziyou asking filial piety. Confucius said, "Today's filial piety means that it can be raised. As for dogs and horses, both can be kept; Disrespect, why not? " Ziyou is the only disciple of Nanzong among the 72 sages of Confucius. He often asked Confucius for advice and was called "Nanzong". When Confucius lobbied Confucius for "filial piety", he vividly and profoundly explained this problem with comparative examples.
It is the duty of every child to support his parents. So when parents need money, they will give it to them. When parents need to take care of them, they will manage three meals a day. If they can do this, they will basically be praised for their filial piety. However, in Confucius' view, this is not "filial piety". Livestock at home can also be raised. What is the difference? Especially now, many families' pets have received high standards of support. Therefore, Confucius said that filial piety should not be judged by "nurturing" but by "respect". So, have we ever respected our parents?
The fourth place is Xia Wenxiao. Confucius said, "Color is difficult. If something happens, the disciple will handle it; There is wine and food, sir. Have you ever thought that this is filial piety? " Confucius believes that young people are easy to serve, and old people are easy to eat and drink first. This is not true filial piety. The "filial piety" that is not easy to achieve is to always look friendly in front of parents. "Book of Rites" said: "A dutiful son who loves deeply must be kind, and if he is kind, he will be happy, and if he is happy, he will be kind." A dutiful son who loves his parents deeply must be submissive and modest in front of his parents. Every day, we are happy and elegant to our parents. Did we do it?
The filial piety of all virtues comes first, and everyone becomes "filial piety". Therefore, if everyone tries to be close to "filial piety", our future should be happier!