People with strong interpersonal skills tend to achieve their goals and requirements more easily, get more recognition and appreciation, and thus get happiness more easily.
People with weak interpersonal skills tend to have greater psychological pressure, and many things have to be pondered and digested by themselves, making it easier to think. If you can't get through, it will be even more troublesome.
Indeed, people should be independent, self-reliant and independent-minded. However, according to your own actual situation, it is beneficial to improve and improve your interpersonal skills on the basis of your current state.
If you feel that your interpersonal skills are weak and you are worried about how to improve them, here are six steps to follow, hoping to give you some inspiration and guidance.
Step 1: What kind of interpersonal relationship do you want? What suits you is the best. Very introverted people can't talk to anyone naturally. Kan Kan likes extroverts. Forcing people who are not good at words to get familiar with themselves will make them miserable and uncomfortable. In fact, a good interpersonal relationship is not that you are talkative and good at chatting, but that you can sincerely share with others, learn from each other, make progress with like-minded people, have empathy for others' positions and experiences ... Remember these aspects, and then communicate with others in a comfortable way according to your own personality and rhythm.
Step 2: What do you value most? The most efficient interpersonal communication is to find the similarities between you and each other as a breakthrough. Everyone has a good impression on like-minded people. If you have something in common, then the other person is actually looking at himself while looking at you. Everyone is narcissistic, and the other person will project his good impression on you. So, first get to know yourself, what you value most, what your interests and ambitions are, and then find out if the other person has the same thing as you.
Step 3: Reflect on your previous relationship. Reflect on the interpersonal relationships that have had a great influence on you before, and analyze your performance in those interpersonal relationships, which are good, which are not good, which have suffered losses, and which are to be avoided in the future. Interpersonal communication is mutual. Dealing with bad people will consume your positive energy, make you feel inferior, make you feel inferior, and make you treat interpersonal communication more negatively. Therefore, through reflection, please deliberately keep a distance from bad interpersonal relationships, or even cut off contact. Build more interpersonal relationships that are beneficial to you.
Step 4: Increase the interaction frequency of interpersonal relationships that are beneficial to you. The phrase "once born and twice cooked" is the essence of interpersonal relationship. With more contact and interaction, we can turn strangeness into familiarity and indifference into enthusiasm. What is "good interpersonal relationship"? People who can boost your positive energy and make you smile when you think of these relationships. This is a positive spiral. The more comfortable the beneficial interpersonal relationship-enhancing self-confidence and familiarity-the better the feeling-the more frequent the interaction. Therefore, interacting with people who can bring you laughter and happiness will help you improve your self-confidence as soon as possible, have more favorable feelings and expectations for interpersonal communication, and enter a virtuous circle as soon as possible.
Step 5: Work hard and be normal. When you start to improve your interpersonal skills, don't expect too much, let alone too much return. The higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment. Once disappointed, it will especially dampen your enthusiasm. Nothing can be achieved casually, everything is difficult at the beginning, work hard, and then wait quietly for the flowers to bear fruit. Don't be impatient, don't be anxious, don't push, be calm, and one day, you will be surprised.
Step 6: Take a step back and broaden your horizons. Many people's interpersonal skills are weak, often because they are too stubborn and unwilling to compromise, which eventually leads to rigid relations and parting ways. After all, everyone has many choices. If the other party thinks that you have to fight for everything, refuse to let go and refuse to give in, over time, they will get tired of arguing with you and hold the mentality of "can't afford to hide" and stop pestering you too much. However, the compromise and step back mentioned here should also pay attention to one degree, and we should not blindly compromise and give in. Compromise is to calm down the dispute, calm down, find a solution acceptable to both sides through consultation, and really broaden your horizons and be suddenly enlightened.