Everything has two aspects, internal and external, so stimulating a person’s potential is nothing more than internal and external incentives.

Internally, inspire his self-confidence and let him believe that he can do it; externally, give him trust and believe that he can do it. Between the inside and outside, he combines "grinding on things" and constantly motivates him to move forward through the realization of small goals.

Let’s talk about external affairs first.

There is the famous Rosenthal effect. Among a bunch of students, a few students were randomly selected and told to the teacher that these students had great potential. As a result, after 8 months, these selected students As expected, the students have made great progress and performed better, but the students did not know it. In fact, it is just because when the teacher saw this list, he unconsciously had more recognition, trust and expectations for these students. It is this kind of trust and expectation, which may be just an affirmative look, a casual praise, or a smiling nod, but it affects the child in a subtle way, stimulates the child's potential, and makes the child perform better and better.

Therefore, when educating and motivating children, many times, we just need to affirm that he recognizes him. But it is a pity that most of the time, we always blame our children, saying that they are playful, unconscious, bad-tempered, etc. When facing children, when we unconsciously show impatience or disgust, we are actually saying that they are The subtle influence affects children's self-confidence.

Sometimes we even just need blind affirmation and approval of our children, which is far better than preaching.

Let’s talk about internal affairs.

The so-called inner, in fact, the core is to stimulate children's self-confidence. The best thing is to use self-fulfilling prophecies. The so-called self-fulfilling prophecies mean that people will act in accordance with known prophecies and eventually make the prophecies come true. For example, if you believe you can do something, then you can really do it. This also corresponds to the wise saying - "You can do anything you want to do."

Let him feel that I can do something well. With such a belief, there will be enough internal drive and strong confidence to achieve it. It will eventually develop in the direction you want.

In fact, no matter internal or external, in the final analysis, the most fundamental thing is to establish self-confidence. Because you believe it, you can. This is why confidence is said to be more precious than gold.

Of course, just believing is not enough, we also need to constantly verify the validity of this belief. Through the achievement of some small goals, we can verify that this belief is true and not a whim.