A good meal is not afraid of cold smoke and food, that is to say, as long as you are good inside, the whole thing will be fine. First of all, don't try to share your feelings with others. When many people quarrel with their partners, they like to talk to their girlfriends and brothers and denounce each other's unfairness to them. In fact, this is a very wrong way to avoid saying angry words. To a great extent, this kind of behavior will give others a preconceived mode of thinking and make others make wrong judgments. So there are a lot of personal emotional factors in your persuasion, which will definitely have a bad influence on your love relationship. Secondly, everyone has their own values. At this time, other people's values will also give you a great degree of misleading, making your love relationship short-lived and regrettable. Second, because there are many differences between boys and girls' thinking patterns, boys often choose to convince each other with logic in quarrels, while girls usually talk about their feelings by their own perceptual thinking. Therefore, when an argument occurs, we should think and look at the core issue of the argument from the other side's perspective. Girls should never try to ask, "Do you know where you are wrong?" Such a boring and meaningless question; Boys should not try to look at the reasons why girls are angry through various logical thinking. Only in this way can two people understand each other's thoughts and ways of doing things in the process of getting along. Third, when quarreling, try to explain it face to face. Many real examples show that the correct way of quarreling has a great influence on this relationship. If we only use communication tools such as WeChat, SMS, QQ, etc., there is often no way to fully convey the meaning of both parties, and the influence of words is far less than that of language. Coupled with the emotional excitement caused by the quarrel, it will misinterpret the meaning of the words and bring both sides into an irreversible situation. Therefore, if conditions permit, the correct way to quarrel is face to face. Only in this way can we correctly obtain the information sent by the other party and maintain our feelings. Fourth, don't expect to meet the most suitable soul mate. There will never be an absolutely suitable candidate in the world. Even the perfect person in your eyes will have something you don't like more or less. Therefore, how to treat each other is the most important thing, that is, the tolerance between two people. Only by mutual tolerance and understanding can we gradually run in and evolve into the "most beautiful couple" in the eyes of others. It is useless to expect and imagine blindly, so if two people are in love, they must be tolerant and understand each other in the true sense. Be his friend, don't limit his freedom all the time, and don't cut off his hobbies. A person has a wide range of interests. Don't let him change old habits and ways for you, then he is not himself. Sometimes, watching football games with him, playing games with him and exchanging experiences, both of them relax in this life. Understand his difficulty, don't force it, don't think of yourself as his boss. Men have their own careers and pressures. They have their own dreams and roads. Don't think that you are the only one. Don't let him keep talking to you. The key is to understand him, make him feel close, and then he will never leave you again. Help him become a more successful person and find the position of both sides in a subtle way. Preaching is a failed way, and only sincere conversation can make both sides trust each other more and have a tacit understanding. When a man's shortcomings become more and more prominent, don't order him. In life, teach him slowly and let him get rid of them with his own consciousness. Why not? Everyone has a past. Don't always ask questions. Aren't you a man with a story yourself? Men have their own past and ex-girlfriend, but you don't have to compare yourself with her in the past. The man has chosen you now, and you are the one in life. Why are you struggling? Besides, everyone has a past. Relax, he will love you more. If he loves you, he doesn't have to talk about it all the time. Why do you force him to say "love you" every day for a little comfort? Women need comfort, and so do men. But women should not always remind that person that "I love you" is not a formal word, but a natural expression of their feelings. Don't force him to have this task every day, everyone will be tired. Avoid letting him buy you this and that for a little vanity and comparison. You need love, and so does he. Men sometimes don't understand women's thoughts, why they quarrel over a chain or a skirt. If you love luxury goods, spend your life with them. A man needs to love a woman, but he spends money on things for you. How can you repay him? Learn to be independent and rely on him, but don't waste a man's energy and time to let him always serve you. Whether you are a big woman or a small woman, you should have your own career and think independently, so that men will pay attention to you and communicate with you equally. Only when two people solve problems at the same time can they enhance their feelings. Especially now, under the financial crisis, I will never be afraid of the wind and wolves again. Allow him to make friends with the opposite sex and let him have his own circle. Of course, you should also learn to communicate and become an indispensable part of both sides. A normal person must have friends of the opposite sex, which is a proper way of life. It is also inevitable that a man has a friend of the opposite sex. If you are not at ease, you can make friends with her. Don't limit the range of male friends, otherwise it will be counterproductive and intensified. Enrich his role identity, not only as a girlfriend, wife, mother, lover, but also as a confidante, so that he will never do anything outside. Of course, if you can enrich your identity, you don't have to worry about men outside socializing. You can give him all kinds of comfort he needs, and you will inevitably become an indispensable figure in life. What man would refuse such multiple identities? However, to do this well, you must run in with each other in the process of getting along with men and let them find more advantages in you. Don't lose your temper easily. No one is born to love you. You have to love him and love him to consolidate this relationship. It's natural for women to be angry, but don't extend it to the interaction with men just because of a little thing. He can stand your troubles, but he can't stand your daily noise. Put yourself in the other person's shoes and you will know what the other person needs. Let him love you, will be more considerate of him, let him feel at ease and comfortable. Adjust well the mental attitude