There are always some people asking questions, and some people answering questions. Some questions are boring, and some are interesting, like the good and bad life.
For example, someone asked: I have a monthly salary of 20,000, a house and a car, am I living a low life?
This kind of question is quite boring, because rich people will laugh at your shallowness, and poor people will think that you are too pretentious. You will not get any meaningful answers because you are not a person. reality.
There is another kind of question, which is very interesting, because the entry point of the question is very shallow, but the answer can be very profound. The essence of the question is close to human nature. Any discussion of philosophy and human nature makes me feel It’s very interesting, and I’m willing to think about it in depth.
For example, the following question:
Why? Because everyone's nature is good, and everyone's wish is like a beauty pageant: they hope for world peace, no war and death, everyone is friendly, and society is harmonious everywhere. But each of us, after experiencing social growth, most of us have become pebbles by the river. Those who can keep their original aspirations unchanged may become the questioner in the article. He is a good person, but his life is not happy. .
It is a beautiful wish for a good person to have a peaceful life. In fact, there are many things that happen to good people without reward.
In fact, netizens are not alone in their doubts. In 2003, his brother Leslie Cheung jumped from the 24th floor of the Mandarin Hotel, and a generation of superstars disappeared. He left a suicide note, and at the end he asked the world: "I have never done anything bad in my life, why am I like this?" How can my brother be so kind and experienced so many ups and downs, but he still can't understand this question? The answer?
I saw a lot of answers to the questions, but very few people can really give the answers, because everyone has a kind heart, and their own knife cannot cut their own handle, and most of them are talking about how they do it. A good person cannot get good rewards everywhere, and the problem becomes unsolvable.
This may provide an invisible clue to the answer: although it is not easy to get good rewards for being an honest person, some troubles seem to be brought about by honest people. Because kind people always think carefully when doing things. They don’t want to take advantage of others, nor do they want others to live up to their kindness. To put it bluntly, they want their good deeds to be understood by others, but they don’t want to show too much. Too many, making others feel that they are doing good deeds just to gain fame.
This reminds us of the celebrity who did good deeds without leaving his name, but wrote them in his diary. This becomes a self-contradictory proposition: if you do good deeds without leaving your name, , so who knows you are a good person? Maybe a good person is an oxymoron!
Leslie Cheung has been in the entertainment industry for most of his life. No one in the entire industry misses his brother. This should be a miracle. There is no problem in his life, and his career is at its peak. As for life, it has long been He has no worries about food and clothing, so what worries does he have? But this depression made him unable to think about it, and he came to the end of his life. Everyone knows the truth. It was the torment of illness that made him unable to control himself. The world is still a place where he misses, but the question in the suicide note still makes me think that in addition to the reason for the illness, there is another possibility, that is, my brother's heart is too kind. If there are too many, it is easy to be fettered and unwilling...
When bad people do evil, they never think about whether it is right for their own conscience or worthy of others. What is abominable is that bad guys can live for thousands of years. If you have a good attitude, eat well, sleep well, and enjoy each day, you will certainly live a long life. From this point of view, good people should learn from bad people. Don’t think too much. If you want to do good deeds, just do them. Don’t think about whether you should leave your name if you do good deeds, whether you can be understood by others, and whether you will not be rewarded. This way you will suffer less torture and not become more and more frustrated the more you think about it.
In "Ashes of Time", why did Hong Qi, who traveled around the world with his wife, survive the days of licking blood from the edge of a knife? But Ouyang Feng and the unknown swordsman couldn't do it, and Huang Yaoshi couldn't do it either. They could only numb themselves with drunkenness. Dugu Qiubai even had a split personality because they all had things they couldn't let go of. Only Hong Qi's idea was the simplest and could He went to avenge a village girl for an egg, and he had no regrets even if he broke a finger. He was a good person and was not burdened by the reputation of a good person, so he lived the most free and easy life. This may enlighten those good people who can’t figure it out!
Someone answered: I believe that the reason why I do good deeds but am not understood is because the time has not yet come. When the time comes, good things will come of it.
This reminds me of a friend who is a Buddhist. He keeps to himself all his life, considers others in everything he does, says good things to everyone, and does good deeds. However, he himself spends his whole life frugally, Do the most tiring job, receive the lowest salary, and use your savings to support your relatives and friends. He often said, I do one good thing every day, not for myself, but to accumulate virtue for my children and the people I love. The suffering and sins I suffer in this life are to repay the debts of my previous life... He gives all the good things he does now to For others, he does not feel bad about the suffering he has experienced, because he regards incurring sin as a practice of repaying debts.
He suffered for half his life. His children were adults. He should have enjoyed the rest of his life, but he was terminally ill. He endured the pain for the rest of his life. In the end, the pain was unbearable and he was sent to the hospital by relatives and friends. He asked Children, please do not resuscitate or intubate him, just let him go with dignity.
The person who was admitted to the hospital in the morning passed away peacefully in the afternoon. When he left, he was really peaceful. Compared with the other people in the ward who were struggling to survive, it should be a kind of happiness! Some people were well-dressed and glamorous when they were young, but ended up living in desolate old age. It suddenly occurred to me that perhaps, this relative and friend’s life-long study had brought them peace when they left!
Buddhism is vast and profound, and karma is not always retributive. I don’t know if you believe it or not? But at least, good people with such thoughts can always find some psychological comfort, so that you don't have to be too stubborn when you are a good person but there is no reward, and you can live with peace of mind even when you are not a good person. When I do good deeds, I am accumulating virtue. If I do bad deeds, I will suffer in my next life. You should have thought about what to do, right?
Actor Huang Xiaoming has a famous saying from a domineering president in a variety show: I don’t want you to feel, I want what I feel. When it comes to being a human being, we tend to consider other people's opinions more and spend less time following our true intentions. Slowly, we become ourselves in the eyes of others. While saying in my heart: I don’t want you to think, I want me to feel, at the same time, you can’t help but do what others think you should do.
If I do this, others will be unhappy, so I’d better not do it, right? When we are children, we want to be good babies in the eyes of our parents; when we grow up, we want to be good employees in the eyes of our leaders; when we have a family, we want to be good husbands and wives in the eyes of our partners, and good fathers and mothers in the eyes of our children; In society, we must also be law-abiding and caring good citizens, so we must carefully maintain a good image of ourselves, even if it hurts our hearts and makes our lives miserable.
This may be another reason why people who do good deeds every day feel unwilling to do so! Maybe you don't want to be such a good old person. You are already very tired, so you reluctantly give up your seat to the old man for the sake of image. It has nothing to do with you, but for the sake of face and favor, you have to work overtime on behalf of your colleagues. It is what you deserve. Rewards, for the sake of a few kind words from others, you give up your performance indicators against your will; you didn’t want to donate money, you didn’t want to donate blood, you didn’t want to lift up the fallen old man, you didn’t want to help people take care of cats and dogs, you didn’t want to lend that money to your friends... ...In the end, did you do everything?
I didn’t want to be a good person at first, but I did a lot of good deeds that I didn’t mean to do, but I became a good person in the eyes of others. Later, I couldn’t even remember what I wanted to do. That's why you feel tired, dissatisfied, and feel wronged. Good people don't get rewarded, alas...
I won't advise you to do good, and of course I won't encourage you to let yourself go. After all, the mainstream values ????of our society are there. You just need to understand: the stronger the sunshine, the thicker the shadow left on the ground. "Book of Rites of the Great" says: If the water is clear, there will be no fish, and if the people are clear enough, there will be no disciples.
Human nature is complex after all, and will react differently in different environments and mentalities. As long as it is not a bad thing like breaking the law or violating discipline, it is difficult for you to judge whether the behavior that happens to a certain person at a certain moment is right or wrong, whether it is out of good intentions or whether it comes from evil intentions. Because you judge a person's quality based on your own experience and values, you have a subjective bias.
Based on my personal experience and experience (of course, this is also subjective and for reference only), this is how I behave:
The mainstream idea of ????following the good is correct, no one To say that it is not good to be a good person is just to say that being a good person will be more burdensome. As Spider-Man's uncle said to Spider-Man: With great power comes great responsibility. Of course, being a good person is not that simple. It is difficult for people who do not have great love in their hearts to stick to good people and good deeds to the end.
For this reason, you must stick to your own principles and don't lose yourself just to be a good person in the eyes of others. If being a good person really makes you tired, and may even make you depressed, crazy, and jumping off the building, then don’t be a good person. In the end, we have to save our own lives first, right?
If the little mermaid wants to get a pair of beautiful legs to pursue the prince, she has to sell her good voice to the witch. The so-called tit for tat, being a good person requires sacrifice - good people do not necessarily get rewarded. As mentioned in the previous paragraph, it is difficult for a person without great love to be a good person, because he will be entangled between the ego and great love, worrying about gains and losses. For people like Zhong Nanshan and Yuan Longping, you don’t need to talk to them about whether good people can be rewarded, because when the people are in need, they have already rushed to the front. If their first consideration is to save their own lives and be depressed, When it comes to making money, it is no different from ordinary people like us.
In "Three Kingdoms", before his death, Emperor Liu Bei of the Shu Han Dynasty advised his son Liu Chan: "Do not do evil because it is small, and do not do good because it is small." Although as ordinary people, we can't do it People with great deeds like Zhong Nanshan and Yuan Longping can still accumulate small good deeds into great good deeds. Although your good deeds are as small as fireflies, they can still illuminate the dark road ahead. A great man once said: It is easy for a person to do a good deed. , the difficult thing is to do good things in your life. Indeed, the most difficult thing for people to do is to still have kind thoughts in their hearts when they are not understood.