1. Making friends is indispensable. Choose good and follow it, and change it if it is not good. Otherwise, you will lose your virginity, and you will violate the law and discipline of the imperial court. Those who are dangerous and tired of their parents and brothers may be careless in choosing friends! -

Family Instructions of Hanyin Shen Shi, you must be cautious in making friends. When making friends with people, we should choose their advantages to learn, and pay attention to correcting their shortcomings. If you don't, you will lose your integrity and attach yourself to evil people. It is also possible to violate the laws and disciplines of the imperial court, and some people may even harm and implicate their parents and brothers. Therefore, how can you choose the people you make carelessly?

2. As the old saying goes, "Get rid of everything that is near, so that you can swim wisely." That's a good enough warning, boy! -Wang Yangming's "Ganzhou Book Shows Four Nephews' Righteousness, etc."

The ancients said: "To stay away from those vulgar people, you should make friends with those clever people." This sentence is good enough as a warning. You children must understand this truth.

3. A friend lives in the five ethics, and needs his help to teach all his life's studies, and his children will respect him as their father. This is called a friend who takes kindness and helps others. If you help each other with evil, you will be a traitor. Although friendship is better than lacquer glue at the beginning, you will be bound to form a cold car. If so, there are countless people. Instead of regretting it later, why not be cautious first? -"Yao Jiang Wang clan? Make friends with caution

Friends belong to the five relationships. People need the help and guidance of friends in their studies all their lives. One day, when their children grow up, they will call him a friend of their father. This is called a good friend who can learn from their strengths and cultivate their benevolence.

if we do evil together and collaborate to do evil things, even if we had close friendship at the beginning, we would have forgotten the friendship between the poor and the humble because of the change of the rich and the poor. There are many examples of such people who have no friendship. It is better to make friends carefully in advance than to regret it later.

4. Those who are honest and faithful and can attack us are good friends; Its flattery is frivolous, arrogant and insulting, leading people to be evil and harming friends. However, if you are afraid of low interests and can't restrain yourself from being good, then those who benefit will be far away unexpectedly, and those who lose will be close to each other unexpectedly. This must be corrected with painful discipline, and it is not possible to gradually learn and become a villain. -Zhu Xi's

Generally speaking, people are honest and faithful, and those who can criticize my mistakes are useful friends; That kind of flattery is not serious, arrogant, frivolous and solemn, and those who lead others to do bad things are friends who are harmful to themselves. I'm afraid that your interests are vulgar and you can't strictly ask yourself to follow good advice, so the beneficial friends have no intention of alienating and gradually alienating, while the harmful friends have no intention of getting close. We must make great determination to correct it, and we must not gradually become a habit and fall into the circle of villains.

5. If you don't have a strong will, you won't be wise, and if you don't believe it, you won't succeed. Those who can't divide people according to wealth are not friends. Those who don't keep the way, don't be knowledgeable, don't observe right and wrong, and don't swim. -"Mozi"

If the will is not strong, the wisdom must not be high; If you don't keep your word, you won't be bold in your actions; He who has wealth and refuses to share it with others is not worth making friends with; People who are not firm in keeping the Tao, have not extensive experience and are unclear in distinguishing right from wrong are not worth making friends with.

6. When people are young, their expression is uncertain, and they are naturally similar to each other, being stained with money, talking and laughing, being unwilling to learn, and sneaking and darkening. What's more, those who are more knowledgeable and easy to learn can perform arts? Therefore, living with good people, such as entering the room of Zhilan, is long and self-fragrant; Living with the wicked is like entering the place of abalone, which stinks for a long time. A gentleman must be careful in making friends. -

When people were young, their spirit and temperament were not yet fixed. They lived with friends who were congenial to each other day and night, and were stained by them. Although they didn't intend to learn, they were naturally similar to them. Besides, ethics and skills are relatively easy to learn. Therefore, getting along with good people is like entering a room full of grass orchids, and after a long time, you become fragrant; Getting along with the wicked is like entering a shop full of abalone. Over time, you will become stinky. A gentleman must be careful when dealing with people.

7. When children come and go, there must be people who make friends with them. When choosing a dignified person, knowing the general idea, being honest and ashamed, and worshiping propriety and righteousness, it is beneficial for me to learn from my mistakes and tell others when I smell good. -"Ten Family Rules of Dong Shi"

In children's daily life, there must be people who are close to each other. We should choose people who are strict and upright, know the general situation, know the sense of shame and respect the propriety and righteousness as friends, advise our children when they are at fault, and tell them when they hear good words, which is beneficial to their children in the world.

8. My friends and I climbed to the top of the tower, saying: Generally speaking, to be an upward person, we must be inspired by a gentleman. Only such a tower is very high. If you don't take advantage of it with you, you will have no reason to be alone. If you are tired of going to Grade 4 or 5, and you have to rely on the encouragement of the gentlemen, it is not far from the top. Not only to the extreme, but also to have a broad vision and a high status, but also to rely on the warnings of the gentlemen, and it is easy to fall down. -Chen Jiru's

I accidentally climbed to the top of the tower with a few friends, and sighed: Generally, to be an upward climber, you must be inspired by a gentleman's friend. Just like this pagoda towering into the sky, it is impossible to climb to the top of the tower alone, not with friends. After climbing four or five steps, I felt tired. Fortunately, my friends encouraged me that it was not far from the top of the tower, which strengthened my confidence. Climbing to the top of the tower, the horizon is broad, the terrain is steep, and thanks to the support and reminder of friends, otherwise a slight slip will easily overturn and fall.

9. If you can seek benefits everywhere, three people will walk together, and there will be a teacher; If you are self-sufficient, then the sage and the residence will not benefit me. -Yuan Lefan's "The Theory of Disciplining Children's Custom"

If people can seek progress anytime and anywhere, then if three people walk together, there must be a teacher who can be my study; If you are stubbornly self-righteous, you can't get any benefits even if you live with saints.

1. There are three friends who benefit and three friends who lose. Friends are straightforward, friends forgive, and friends hear more, which is beneficial. Friends make friends, be friendly and soft, and friends will be ruined and damaged. -"The Analects of Confucius Jishi".

there are three kinds of beneficial friends and three kinds of harmful friends. It is beneficial to make honest friends, honest friends and knowledgeable friends. It is harmful to make friends with people who go astray, flatter and flatter, and flatter.