First, talk less about your troubles. Everyone likes to associate with optimistic and positive people, so when encountering difficulties, we should adjust our mentality and don't tell everyone about our troubles. If you tell everyone what you are unhappy about, the other person will slowly leave you, and life will lose many opportunities and the support of noble people. Second, don't tell your secret, but it often backfires. When we hand over our hearts and tell secrets, the other party will not only be ungrateful, but also spread it around, and even your secrets will become the control of the other party? Handle? , so it is subject to people. There is a divination in the Book of Changes, which means don't act rashly. When dealing with people, you should keep a secret. On the one hand, we should treat people sincerely, on the other hand, we should abide by the bottom line. Third, don't discuss the right and wrong of others. Don't discuss others' right and wrong behind their backs. Being yourself is actually the most important thing. We can't change the good and evil of others. This can only be learned and cultivated by yourself, and it will also make the other person feel uncomfortable when discussing others. In the long run, there will be fewer and fewer friends.