The information about "why kindness has no bottom line" is what kind of mood it is for an orphan girl who lost her mother when she was a child, and whether she wants to hide in her mother's arms and cry when she dreams at midnight. Father is gone, too. Maybe she had this premonition when she was sent to Beijing. How can she go without the protection of her parents? Is her heart more fragile or stronger?
In fact, many times I can understand but can't forgive her provocation to Baochai, because vulnerability is my own business, inferiority is my own business, and jealousy is my own business. Some people say that without Baochai, she wouldn't have so much anxiety. This is puzzling. Is Dai Yu the only one in this world? Does she look at anyone who is not pleasing to the eye in order to give her a good life? No one has the obligation to tolerate you because of your youth and ignorance. However, because of her beauty, kindness and intelligence, we chose to tolerate her more often.
Daiyu's hostility to Baochai is not only out of concern for Baoyu, but also in other components. No sooner had Baochai arrived in Jia's house than Daiyu felt unhappy. "I don't want to see Xue Baochai suddenly coming over now. Although young, she has a square personality and beautiful appearance, and many people are far behind Dai Yu. Besides, Baochai is open-minded and not as arrogant as Daiyu, so she is more ambitious than Daiyu. Even those little girl leaders are happy to be with Baochai. " This has nothing to do with Baoyu. At this time, Daiyu was still a little girl and felt a certain degree of inferiority because her mother ran away from home. However, she was also the apple of her parents' eye since she was a child, and her study and appearance have always been outstanding. Even when she arrived in Jiafu, she knew all about it. No one could disturb her order except Baoyu, so she also had a certain sense of superiority and conceit in her character.
(At this time, Daiyu was just a visiting granddaughter who was temporarily taken in by the old lady because of distress. She was not an orphan girl who had no one to rely on, and people might not dare to neglect her; As for Zhou Ruigu's section, first of all, Zhou Ruigu thinks he is a respectable slave, and concubines are not necessarily in his eyes. Naturally, she went to flatter Feng first, which was an accommodating favor. Secondly, the fact that Zhou Ruigu bumped into flowers made her unable to compare with women and girls who sent flowers specially, so she didn't follow the principle of putting guests first and didn't mean to dismiss Sister Lin. )
Originally, everyone thought this was a beauty in a Chinese Odyssey, but now a treasure chai has come, which has overshadowed her "fairy-like beauty" and is quite graceful. She doesn't care about small things, and she doesn't lose herself. She dabbles in high-flying situations. All this has become a comparison coordinate in the heart of a conceited little girl. The result of inner inferiority is that external conceit is more obvious. Daiyu hoped Baochai could compete with something, but she found that no matter how she compared it, it was a draw at most, and Daiyu must be very sour in her heart. However, such acid does not involve Baoyu.
When it comes to the war between Daiyu and Baochai, the most important factor is Baoyu. The affection between Daiyu and Baoyu gradually deepened, but as the affection deepened, Baoyu's performance made Daiyu uneasy. In addition, Daiyu was even more uneasy and regarded Baochai as her rival in love. Looking at Daiyu's unkindness to Baochai, I often think of the sentence "Can others sleep soundly by the couch?" .
Baochai seems to have completely seen through Daiyu's little girl's mind. When Baochai first entered the Jia family, she did not fully understand the emotional relationship between Baoyu and Daiyu. After all, the ancients were different from modern people. It is understandable that a pair of cousins who grew up together are closer than others, and it is not so easy to associate them with peach news. Baochai's team should take some time to understand this emotion. When Baochai understood Daiyu's dual hostility to her, one came from the little girl's competitive psychology and the other came from treating herself as an emotional opponent. Baochai kept a straight face and ignored Daiyu's ridicule most of the time. Sometimes I suspect Baochai is smiling at Daiyu's irony. After all, now I feel ridiculous when I see some unreasonable taunts from little girls, and my attitude is the same, so I ignore them.
Looking at the Red Mansion, we can clearly see Daiyu's growth step by step, but we can't see Baochai's growth trace. I think Daiyu's cuteness lies in that she clearly put her growth process in front of us. She is not cute, but she doesn't hide it. She often hurts others easily, even if she doesn't mean to. It also shows that she doesn't know how to protect herself, and the harm to others is often to dig traps for herself, so she often makes me feel that she needs protection very much. The most unpleasant thing about Baochai is that she seemed very old when she came out. She is old and scheming, and refuses to reveal her heart to others and express herself truly. But most of the time, she didn't express herself in order to leave room for others, save face and remind me to take a step back. This shortcoming has become her lovely place.
Baochai's edge is inadvertently revealed, which is a natural beauty, making people feel that she intends to make friends with talented people. But in short, everyone in the book thinks that she is very talented and hidden, but in fact she has inadvertently revealed a lot. Otherwise, how can people feel her talent? In fact, she hid to show off, and Zhuge Liang pretended not to come out of the mountain. Baochai is confident. She is always confident that she can be recognized by most people, so she is in no hurry to show herself. It is an art to show her ability in a measured way on different occasions. Baochai knows this very well. Take your time. So she won a reputation for being generous and knowledgeable, but she is not arrogant. As always, she hasn't changed.
On the contrary, Daiyu knows that she is very conceited about her talent by watching Yuan Chun Mothering Day, and that she is very confident about her beauty by watching her self-admiration overwhelm the peach blossom in the mirror. She hopes that she will always be the focus of people's attention, fearing that she will not be recognized by everyone. In the final analysis, this comes from her inferiority complex, which, like Tan Chun's inferiority complex, is deeply branded in her heart because of her life background. She has written carefully in so many poetry clubs, except. Every time I notice Baochai, Daiyu always seems a little lonely. She was afraid that others would identify with Baochai and no longer identify with her. I'm not saying that Daiyu is narrow-minded, but she is not as calm as Baochai, because she is afraid and worried too much.
Daiyu is a real person with a real temperament. She doesn't hide her preferences, and she is not necessarily good to anyone, but her attitude towards anyone is basically from her true nature, and proper behavior is the lowest bottom line. At that time, I met Aunt Zhao's attitude in Baoyu's room, and everyone got up and gave way, only she and Xifeng continued to talk. When she doesn't see it, people she doesn't like look down on it to save face. She sneered at Baochai for hiding traitors, but she thought Baochai was a good person and became like her sister. Sometimes I really envy her for doing whatever she wants, and I envy that there are so many people around her who don't care about her-she has been ill for many years, and if no one visits her when she is sick, she will feel sad. If she visits people for a long time, she will still feel bored and tired. Thank these sisters and understand her, regardless of her manners. Seeing her and Xiangyun, they bickered as soon as they met. After the fight, we still sleep together at night. They always make fun of Xiangyun, who will accompany them for the Mid-Autumn Festival. Even Baochai, a sister who is often mean to her, doesn't care about her, and then she is so harmonious and envious. Are people with true temperament so lucky? I wouldn't believe it if it weren't for Baochai's popularity here. I'm glad to see them in harmony. )
However, having a true temperament is not always a blessing. A real and excellent woman like Daiyu can easily become the object of jealousy. She never tries to please anyone against her will, which makes me feel that she is real and doesn't know how to create a better living environment for herself. Daiyu's appreciation of elders is far less than Baochai's, and her cognition of interests is far less than Baochai's. I remember once-Mrs. Wang met Lin Daiyu and asked, "Big girl, did you take Dr. Bao's medicine?" Lin Daiyu said, "That's all." . "The old lady told me to take Wang Dafu's medicine." -the gentle inquiry of the elders means caring, no matter true or false, always save face. I can't praise her for not bowing to dignitaries. I can only say that Mrs. Wang's lukewarm attitude towards her is understandable. Daiyu's words are obvious, only to see grandma's concern and aunt's troubles. The speaker didn't mean to listen. This old saying is a wise saying. If Baoyu hadn't happened to stop, I really don't know how to continue this topic.
From this little thing, Daiyu is good at etiquette, but she doesn't pay much attention to many details. Indeed, it seems that she really did what she thought and lived an easy life. But is she really relaxed? She also feels that her living environment is not good, which she attributes to relying on others. In fact, it is not impossible to do so, but there are still differences. If Daiyu said these words to her mother at home at this time, it's nothing. Parents will forgive her if she doesn't understand her parents' feelings occasionally. Parents never care about these things with their children, but Daiyu is in the guest room, talking about menstruation. If she doesn't understand this woman's feelings, she will be a sensible child in the eyes of her elders. This is the difference between being a sponsor and being her parents, and it has little to do with any girl or old woman. Later, Daiyu seems to be gradually changing, for example, accepting the accommodation of Aunt Zhao and giving the woman sent by Baochai several hundred dollars. However, at that time, Daiyu's reputation for being stingy, stingy and lofty was already outside.
Speaking of Daiyu, her feelings for Baoyu will always be an unavoidable topic. I'm talking nonsense again, I know. If Baoyu hadn't appreciated each other, Daiyu would have become good sisters, and there was no need to make such a big bend. Even if Daiyu takes Baochai as an opponent, she will not be as sour as Baoyu. In fact, I like to see Daiyu jealous and cute, but I'm afraid to see her sad for Baoyu and then start to lament for her life. At that time, I always felt that Daiyu was a child with nothing. I'm glad I didn't become a bird outside the wall of Yee Hong Courtyard, or I fell into the flowers before flying far.
The marriage of gold and jade is a black hole in Daiyu's heart that scares her, but for Baochai, it is an unspeakable embarrassment when facing Baoyu. When Daiyu satirized Baochai, she didn't notice that she was actually paying special attention to herself. Every time Daiyu satirizes Baoyu, it is about Jinyu. For a piece of "golden jade", two people with one heart made two hearts. How can I not sigh?
Baoyu thought: "Others don't know my heart and forgive me. Don't you want me to have only you in my heart! You can't worry about me, but you taunt me with this. It can be seen that I have you in my heart for a moment, and you don't have me in your heart. " I just can't say it in my heart. Then Lin Daiyu thought, "You naturally have me in your heart. Although there is a saying that "there is nothing but gold and jade", you should not take this heresy more seriously than me. I often mention this' golden jade', but you just know it but don't know why. You worry, you know you always have' golden jade' in your heart. When I mention it, I am afraid that I am oversensitive and deliberately anxious, which makes me feel at ease. " Every time I see this passage, I am always worried about it, but I pity them for saying nothing, so I can only guess each other in my heart. This situation increases the sense of beauty and danger, and it turns from doubt to doubt carelessly.
What is kindness with low IQ? It takes time and energy to help others without principles, and you still take your help for granted. Or forgive others for not having a bottom line and let others hurt you all the time.
I just feel that my efforts are not as good as others, but in fact others can't understand or directly hurt others.
Kindness without knowledge level. Moral kidnapping, forcing others to do good.
Regardless of good and evil, we are not sympathetic to the injured party, but to the evil party.
And mud type adjustment mode.
Self-masochistic kindness: kindness to the wicked
Uncontrolled help sometimes backfires.
Is to give money to beggars. . . . Beggars go to town just to make money. I don't often say work for three years. Might as well knock on the door and kneel. That's all I said.
People who are full of love are using you, and you are too stupid to tell good from bad.