"Husband and wife are originally birds of the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster strikes." This passage was adapted for later generations. The source is as follows:

1. Volume 65 of "Fayuan Zhulin": Someone When he was plowing the fields, he was bitten by a snake and died. His wife said to people: "It's like birds that stay in a tall tree at dusk, stay together for the night, wait for them to get up early in the morning, and fly away separately to seek food and drink. If they are destined, they will be together, but if they are not, they will be separated. , the same is true for us husband and wife. "

2. (Ming Dynasty) Feng Menglong's "Warning to the World" Husband and wife are originally birds in the same forest, and they fly separately until dawn.

3. "Zengguang Xianwen" Life is like birds sleeping in the same forest, flying separately when the deadline comes.

The old saying "Husbands and wives are birds of the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster strikes", on the one hand, it does reflect that in the past dynasties and in real life, we cannot share joys and sorrows, and we cannot overcome difficulties together. The true nature of couples who have shallow love and righteousness, but on the other hand, this sentence also misleads people. The impression it gives will make parents and children, husbands and wives encounter major or not so major life changes. At that time, I thought it was reasonable for people to think this way, thus finding a "theoretical basis" for my "forced" or irresponsible "flying separately".

Extended information:

The meaning of the "old folk saying" that "husband and wife are originally birds of the same forest, and fly separately when disaster strikes" that people say every day should be consistent with the original meaning of ancient sages. There are some deviations. In "Zengguang Xianwen", there is a sentence like "Parents' deep love will eventually be separated, and husband and wife's deep love will also be separated. Life is like birds that stay in the same forest, and fly separately when the end comes." This sentence is in the 257th chapter of "Modern Chinese Dictionary" Page, "Da limit" means the time limit when life is over and death is destined.

Thus, the above statement can be understood as: No matter how deep the love between parents is, and how deep the friendship between husband and wife is, life is like birds that sleep together in the forest, and they will naturally separate at the end of life. From this point of view, this should also be the original meaning of this sentence, because the sages who persuade people to do good will never teach couples to leave behind the shared joys and sorrows, the deep kindness and righteousness, and the long journey together when "disaster is approaching" Husbands and wives walking hand in hand say "goodbye" and then "fly separately".

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