As long as you care about other people’s opinions, it will affect your judgment and decision-making on things. So what you have to do is not care about other people's opinions and be true to yourself. There is a famous saying in "Awakening the World" by Feng Menglong, a writer of the Ming Dynasty: "It is never acceptable to listen to criticism and praise, and right and wrong will eventually be self-evident." People who care about other people's evaluation often take reputation and reputation as very important. When you are praised, you feel confident, arrogant, and even self-inflated; when you are denied or criticized, you feel discouraged, give up on yourself, or feel resentful.

A painter once conducted an experiment: he asked someone to point out the shortcomings of one of his paintings, but was criticized as useless; the next day, he asked someone to point out the advantages of the same painting, and was praised. Perfect. He concluded: There will always be people who appreciate you, and there will always be people who criticize you. Just feel free to draw your own painting.

Huang Weiren, a Chinese-American psychologist, said that people who particularly care about other people's evaluations are like willing to be other people's "puppet". Every word, deed, and smile of others controls his emotions. This is a manifestation of the lack of "backbone" in the heart and the lack of self-affirmation. People should clearly know their most valuable points and shortcomings. When others slander you, you should remind yourself of your advantages and tell yourself: "Others don't understand me, but I know myself best." When others praise you too much, you should also remind yourself of your shortcomings and tell yourself: "Others don't understand me." Don’t know me, I can’t stand such compliments.

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