This is a highly controversial issue, and there is still no unified and convincing statement. The question is: Do you need skills to chase girls? Is skill or value more important?

There are two distinct factions within and outside the academic circle. One is represented by those within the circle who can get any woman with the right skills. There are even some purely technical sects that specialize in technology. Go against convention and apply models; the other school is widely circulated outside the circle. Personal value is king, sincerity is the greatest weapon, techniques are all eccentric and ingenious, and low-level abuse cannot be promoted on the stage.

In fact, these statements are all manifestations of an "incomplete" understanding of love and a failure to understand the essential laws of attraction between men and women.

I use three sentences to express the complete point:

1. Skill itself is worthless unless...

Have you heard this? Well, a woman said: "The pressure you used on me just now was great, I am attracted to you."

Or, "You pushed and pulled my emotions so skillfully, I felt so comfortable and enjoyable." , I'm in love with you. ”

When a man comes into contact with private schools, he becomes obsessed only with the so-called “skills”, and they are superficial skills taught by superficial tutors, so he goes astray, which is my definition.

When a woman falls in love with a man, she always likes his bravery, his strength, his kindness, his ability, his professionalism, and his concentration. , his filial piety, his cooking skills, his dedication to love...

I define a man’s charm and value as “charm elements” (a special term for the love spectrum), which will be discussed in detail later. Talk.

Therefore, men who think that they have won women with their superb skills should wake up...

Skills themselves are worthless to women unless they are skills. It is based on the "charm element" of men.

2. Among emotions, the simplest and most straightforward expression is the laziest and the worst...

Again. A common misunderstanding in society: the emotion between two people is true only if it is ordinary.

This sentence is very unhuman for ordinary people in ordinary realms. It itself is not in line with the "Cinderella" of women. Complex" is also not consistent with the value scarcity theory.

Perhaps a man who gets up early every day to cook porridge and breakfast for a woman for ten years cannot compare with the romantic passion of a woman who takes a woman to watch the fireworks at the Eiffel Tower. The emotional impact and attraction brought by men

Perhaps, the simple and straightforward expression of the former is "Today is the anniversary of our love, and I cooked breakfast for you again. It is true that it is ordinary." ; And the latter is not simple or straightforward at all. He pretended to have forgotten this day, was busy at work, and did not contact the woman. As time went by, the woman's expectations began to decrease, and her mood became irritable. When the night came, the man came back, and the woman was about to explode. The man said, "I will take you to a place." It turned out that lights, candlesticks, dinners, gifts...all the romantic things that can impress a woman were already prepared. The man said: "Fool, you really think I forgot. I have been preparing for this for a long time..." The woman was already crying with joy...

Compare this and feel my wise saying "The simplest and most straightforward "The expression is the laziest and the worst." I realized that the former's ten years of cooking porridge every day was not mediocre, but too lazy to think about it, and it was also extremely bad. The latter used the "spring theory" ", "low expectations, high performance", "contrast method" and other techniques can be said to be exhausting. Isn't this a quality worth recommending? Isn't this what a good man should have?

How many "good men" have fallen for this misleading statement?

Note that I added double quotation marks to the word "good man", because I don't think this is a real good man, a good man. It does not mean that he is an old scalper, he does not mean that he is dull, and he does not mean that he is incompetent and only has a sincere heart. Such a heart is not true either!

A good man should be "romantic, sexy, and understanding" "Women" are relatively high-level charm elements.

How do those who insist that "sincerity is king over face value" refute?

Many people are indeed rich, but the way to show their wealth is so lazy and bad! It's so vulgar that I can't bear to look at it.

Many people have strong bodies and think that showing off their muscles directly or bullying the weak is a show off. This is also lazy and bad.

Showing, delivering, and making women feel is definitely a skill!

You just rely on inner cultivation, your appearance, your value, and your sincerity. Even if you have face, value, and sincerity, but who cares? Who cares? !

Handsome guys are everywhere, rich people are everywhere, sincere people? Who would feel that they are insincere? !

Do you use these to pick up girls? To put it nicely, it’s just that I moved myself. To put it more bluntly, it’s YY! In love, everything that is not felt by the other person is meaningless.

There are a lot of reasons to despise people who strike up a conversation. When there is a woman you like in front of you, it is 100% the woman at first sight. You want to get to know her, but she walks her own way and looks at her. Mobile phone, how do you know her?

As I said before, most of the experience in picking up conversations is so small that it can be ignored. It is impossible to have an elegant, smooth and charming conversation. The first time you meet a woman is often not the best. Add points, but deduct points!

For example, how would you respond to a woman saying, "Why should I know you?"

Think about it...

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What does it feel like? Was it like driving hard into a wall?

People who have received inspiration and training behave completely differently from those who have not!

3. Complete love skills, which are also skills in a broad sense, should include three parts:

Men’s charm and value - skills: accurate, maximized and efficient delivery For women——→Women’s needs, deficiencies and values

These three parts are indispensable!

Anyone who only talks about skills apart from charm itself is a scoundrel; and anyone who talks about value apart from skills is a "good guy".

Now you understand, the skill in the narrow sense is to accurately, maximize and efficiently convey the charm elements of a man to a woman, meet the needs of the woman, and be in line with the woman’s view of love and values.

Let’s continue to broaden your knowledge and make you more complete:

1. What does a man’s charm and value (ie, charm elements) include?

Not only can I tell you a complete "men's charm element model", I can also tell you that this model is a pyramid structure. In a general sense, the lower level is the basis of the upper level, and as you get to the upper level, , the rarer it is, the more valuable it is. For different women, this charm element model will also undergo elastic changes, changing in a myriad of ways based on women's needs and personalities.

You must be curious, where is the face? Where does wealth and power rank?

It must be beyond your expectation.

You need to fully understand yourself, understand your own characteristics and talents, and tap your potential. Everyone is unique, but many people are rusty, abandoned, or " "Castrated", the lack of belief in oneself is particularly obvious. Most people are very dissatisfied with themselves, even disgusted and disgusted. They open their mouths as if they are "self-examination". How can a person who does not love himself win others? What about your love and appreciation?

Among the hundreds of male love counselors I have had face-to-face contact with, almost 90% of the men were unable to name their own strengths. They completely ignored the qualities that they should be proud of. Unfortunately, The thing is, it’s not that there are no advantages, it’s that you can’t find them yourself, or you look down on yourself. The influence of excessive conservatism and moderate traditional concepts makes most people unable to “love themselves”, so they become very unconfident. Inferior self-esteem and lack of faith!

After knowing yourself, you need to create your charm. Love Spectrum has its own "book club", "180 decibel fitness club", various offline salons, social activities, and interest exchange activities. There are class president elections, debate competitions... and even a more advanced organization, the "Elite League."

2. Women’s needs and deficiencies, women’s views on love and values ??

If you don’t understand the essence of love skills and lack self-charming recognition and shaping, it’s like using your bare hands Going to the battlefield, the lack of understanding of women's thinking makes many men go to the battlefield blindfolded.

Women's thinking is extremely divergent, emotional, and ever-changing, especially the bright and hidden lines, which make men confused, like the radar of an airplane has failed.

Women’s needs and deficiencies are also very obvious, which can easily affect women’s consciousness. Most people are just thinking about what I want to do, what I want to pay, what I want to show and express, but This is just the first half, it's like trying to throw a bomb, this is the first half, but what is really important? It must be the lethal effect after the explosion. This is the second half, what effect it has on women! But most people just keep doing the first half over and over again. No matter how much they do, it’s just useless! This is almost a common mistake made by 99% of men, and the problem lies in their lack of understanding of women!

When these are universal and regular, then collective teaching is feasible and reasonable, because love is originally the mutual attraction and influence of human nature, and human nature has many similarities. Therefore, we have a mentor who has figured out an "assembly-line method of picking up girls", which is almost automated and modular. Based on the premise of large numbers and high speed, it is possible to pick up many girls. Among them is taking advantage of women's needs, deficiencies and weaknesses.

This is only limited to experiments and demonstrations, and it must have its limitations. I am not encouraging such operations. A man's taste must be manifested in having more abilities, but being picky about only choosing the best.

3. Skills - accurately, maximize and efficiently convey the same charm and quality to women. Why are some taken for granted and ignored, while others are not? Be valued and cherished.

It has to do with the level of charm, and it has to do with technique.

Note: These three words, precision, maximization and efficiency, are in order.

To accurately match, to cater to her preferences, to be preconceived, to actively pursue, to assert one's charm, to pass the woman's test, to reverse pressure, to "oppress" her, to subvert her, to act like a man The role he should play has strong control and guidance over love!

The charm of 100 should make women feel the charm of 200. Of course, this is just an expression of meaning. Numbers cannot be used to describe accurately. Moreover, charm itself cannot be used for quantification. The key is that there is no need for false or pretentious methods, because those are just simple and straightforward expressions. Do you really think that the fake high-value method is still effective now? Besides, do you really understand what truly high value is? You absolutely have value that can be appreciated, and everyone should have it, and I ask my students to casually name at least five things that can "brag about their awesomeness for a lifetime". Moreover, there are definitely more advanced techniques to make your These real charms are displayed in a more subtle and detailed manner to maximize their delivery to women. So, why lie when it’s true? Why do you have to play low-level LOW to force yourself to use bad moves if you have high-level skills?

Efficient, there is no such nonsense as "What are you doing?" "Have you eaten?" "Have you slept?" because these words are worthless for showing your charm!

Skills should be everywhere!

It’s not just about showing, it’s also about delivering, and most importantly, making it effective!

The more master you are, the more internalized your moves will be, and you can win without any moves. However, no one can go beyond the rigid and rigid stage of practicing one move after another.

For novices and rookies, the best way to learn is to completely listen to me and copy what I say, because this will ensure that you don't make detours. Then, step by step, you upgrade and evolve, and begin to have your own thinking and personality. In the end, everyone's love style should be different and a hundred flowers bloom.

By that time, if you say "no skills required", in fact, the skills have been completely internalized, just like if you learn to swim, you will not remember the movements of one, two, three and four when you swim again. break down.

It’s just that you are already too familiar and accustomed to this routine: what charm elements does she need and like, what charm elements do I need to show in my relationship, and what techniques can I use to maximize my charm and make it more efficient? . And so on, playing in a loop.

Therefore, what Love Spectrum does is:

Focus on the recognition and shaping of men’s charm, understand men’s complete charm model, the levels of charm elements, and understand themselves Talent and personality;

To understand women’s thinking, gain insight into women’s psychology, distinguish between bright and dark lines, and be able to synchronize with women’s psychology at all times;

The most exquisite thing is that Those techniques of displaying the elements of charm are precise, maximizing and efficient, and make these charms effective in women!

Let us answer the opening question: What do men need when they learn to fall in love?

If you start to have some ideas, it proves that you are starting to form some firm "beliefs".

You should understand that mature people shed their defenses and disguises layer by layer and become more and more true to themselves. And deception is the opposite. It doesn’t look like we’re pretending to be like that. We’re already men. Why are we pretending like that? !

You should understand that you must start to learn to respect yourself, love yourself, and discover yourself. Only in this way can you say goodbye to brainwashing.

Should you love your true self more, or live in emptiness and huge self-denial?

However, you also need to understand that love is such a big proposition. It is so big that you will always feel your ignorance, so you will remain humble and indifferent. What you come into contact with should not be just some trivial skills that will make people laugh...

There are so many so-called experts and great masters, but in fact, in our social and cultural system, most people have never been in love at all. . Most of what the great gods teach is based on imagination and the influence of novels and multimedia.

Our society is a regulated environment under the moral and legal system. People outside the circle talk about morality, while people inside the circle talk about marketing hype.

The result is that people who talk about morality have no real love experience; and people who talk about marketing and hype have no cultural connotation...

People who have these at the same time can have several?

By the way, I haven’t mentioned my face yet.

Look at image, not just looks. In my opinion: handsomeness is also part of strength! It also requires practice!

If this man has a bad image, is slovenly, and has no taste, it basically means that this man does not know how to pick up girls. How can he teach others? Whoever is as ugly as a ghost or as slovenly as Shi, but still shamelessly says, "I'm so ugly and such a loser, but I still have skills and can pick up girls, learn from me." Remember to stay away and call the 110 hotline.

A man’s appearance is a direct external display of various inner qualities such as cleanliness, self-control, requirements for oneself, life rules, dress sense, aesthetics, financial resources, etc. And most men are unqualified and do not know the basic way of dressing. They are full of basic mistakes! Do women really not care about faces? Can this be changed by studying so-called bubble learning skills?

The article may spread, and people inside and outside the circle will point fingers, so I would like to add this: To put it bluntly, love is a human level thing, a very purely human thing, but how many people Are you talking about love in terms of morality? Such a person must not understand love and be careless. What I am talking about is human love, not moral love.

I am talking about human nature, and those talking about morality, the alley is so wide, you can go wherever you want, I will not let you go~

The first article is extremely long, but I think What I have said is far more than that. It shows how difficult it is to form a person's faith belief. I hope this article can help you. You have gone astray in the past or almost gone astray in the next step, or you have gone to the battlefield blindfolded and bare-handed. of you, can inspire you.

For the classic "Seven Deadly Sins" series corresponding to the Seven Virtues, you can listen to it by searching for "Seven Deadly Sins of Love Spectrum" on Penguin FM.