1. Shakespeare has a famous saying, although habit can be a devil that makes people lose shame, it can also be an angel.

In daily life, good habits may include exercising every week, reading every day, going to bed early and getting up early, and eating less junk food; bad habits may include refusing to exercise, being addicted to games, staying up late for a long time, and eating unhealthy foods.

Habits are very important to everyone. Once a habit is formed, our behavior will enter a state of automatic driving. The so-called habit becomes natural, and the results accumulated over a long period of time will either benefit for life or cause endless harm.

Therefore, if we want to become a better version of ourselves, we must stay away from the devil and stay close to the angels, abandon bad habits and establish good habits.

The truth is not difficult to understand, but we always say it, but cannot do it, and become a dwarf in action.

Whenever we are defeated, we will sigh and develop good habits. It is not easy to say that I love you. The reason why it is not easy is because the way to develop good habits is to replace the original behavior with a better way.

In other words, habits cannot be acquired directly. You cannot establish or remove a habit immediately. It is shaped in a long-term process that is constantly repeated.

Three feet of ice does not freeze in one day. It is never easy to keep yourself repeating for a long time. It is human nature to resist new changes and maintain the status quo.

So what we want to ask is, apart from those with strong self-discipline, ordinary people who are dragged down by laziness and lack willpower, do they still have the opportunity to make themselves better?

2. In the United States, there is an otaku whose figure is so out of shape that he can’t stand it. Ten years before that, he tried to exercise every day, but failed repeatedly.

Exercising for thirty minutes is harder than reaching the sky. Before he had done anything, he already had strong resistance. The frustration caused by his previous failure experience made him afraid to challenge himself again.

Suddenly, he came up with an idea. Thirty minutes of intensity were terrible, so what would happen if he switched to a push-up? It sounded too easy to refuse, so he got into position, intending to do just one push-up and then stop. In fact, after he finished the first one, he didn't stop and did a few more in one go.

Immediately afterwards, he planned to challenge a pull-up. It was the same as before. It was completed. One more, it was completed, and two more. Every time he used a super simple challenge to seduce himself, he would Able to complete or even exceed the target, and the inner experience is great.

In this way, the thirty-minute full exercise was broken down into several small tasks, and he successfully challenged the big goal that he thought was impossible.

The actual amount of exercise was the same as the original plan, but because he divided the big task into smaller tasks and completed them step by step, he was not scared off again or retreated midway, and successfully completed the original plan.

This unprecedented experience is completely surprising for a person who has not had the confidence to achieve self-breakthrough for a long time.

This is exactly the personal experience of Stephen Gass, the author of "Little Habits".

From that day on, for a whole year, he insisted on completing at least one small push-up task every day. His fitness habit gradually formed, and he achieved the good figure he wanted.

Gaining success made Stephen realize that he was unable to persist in exercising before because he just used the wrong strategy!

So what is the right strategy? Stephen uses his life experience and insights to provide a unique and innovative set of habit-forming strategies, namely mini-habits strategies.

3. The mini habit strategy is to do things with the mindset of turning big things into small things. That means breaking a big goal into steps that are small enough not to fail. Being too small to fail will prevent us from being burdened with inner pressure and afraid to reach those lofty goals.

Although there are many benefits to using the mini habit strategy to deal with things, there are also some things that need to be paid attention to.

1. Don’t treat chicken blood as vitamins.

This means never rely on momentum for action. The so-called motivation is like a bowl of chicken blood. The moment you drink it, your blood will boil and you can go up to the fifth floor in one breath. But after three days, you can't move.

There is a law of diminishing marginal utility in economics. To put it simply, when you eat the fifth piece of pizza, your pleasure will be slightly lower than that of the fourth piece, and when you eat the fourth piece of pizza, your pleasure will be slightly lower than that of the fourth piece. When eating the third piece.

So our mood will be high at first, but after a few days we will feel bored. When the enthusiasm passes, no amount of vitamin drinks can save a heart that does not want to take action.

Enthusiasm can only be the icing on the cake, but it cannot provide help in times of need.

2. Willpower is limited, don’t use it up.

Those who are self-disciplined always seem to have inexhaustible willpower and are never tired or want to take action. Is it true that human willpower is infinite?

One study showed that there are five factors that will cause willpower depletion: effort level, perceived difficulty, negative emotions, subjective fatigue and blood sugar levels.

Among these five factors, except that blood sugar level is related to personal physique and health status, which cannot be solved by mini habits, several other losses become no problem in the face of mini habits.

How much effort does it take to run 100 meters, read two pages of a book, and memorize ten words every day? You are embarrassed to say that it is difficult. When you complete these small goals, you will feel happy and your negative emotions will disappear.

3. Keep a distance from the source of temptation

Have you ever observed people holding mobile phones in the subway? Most of the men are playing games, while most of the girls are watching TV shows. People who read books to learn are rare.

Sometimes even if you have reduced your goals and just read two pages of the book, you still haven’t finished it. Why? Because binge-watching TV shows and playing games seems to be much more enjoyable than reading books. Sleeping in is much more comfortable than running.

Temptations are everywhere and laziness comes every day. What should we do? Just like you know full well that a scumbag who tempts you to give your sincerity may give you some sweetness, but the result is hurting you. If you don't leave him, do you want to remain hurt?

Stay away from people who harm you, and stay away from things that tempt you to lose self-discipline.

4. Find ways to make yourself take action and make good use of time management

For example, if you don’t want to get up, just set the alarm clock further away. This does not mean that you can’t hear the sound of sleeping. When it gets dark, but because the alarm clock is not beside the bed and you can't reach it, you have to get up and turn off the alarm clock. Now that you're all up, why not stop sleeping and get down to business.

Make reasonable use of fragmented time. After reading two pages of a book on your way to and from get off work, you can do a set of fitness exercises in ten minutes. Treat time as your friend, and time will not delay your progress.

Not having enough self-discipline is not scary, but knowing your own problems and not changing them is the most terrifying thing. So, from now on, let us start by persisting a little bit, slowly change, and look forward to the emergence of a different self! A long and reasonable healing talk: People are destined to be different from each other

1. “We write our desires on our faces

We extend our palms to the world

We only think about what light we can shine when we don’t get it

2. I have always felt this before

I should be a qualified lover

I'm gentle and considerate and won't lose my temper

But I accidentally liked you too much

So everything was messed up

I have become childish and petty

A jealous and annoying person

3. Our appetite depends on the strength of our hands

You What can you do

People are destined to be different from each other

If they are different

What can you do

4. When you reach a certain age, you must throw away four things:

Meaningless drinking parties, people who don’t love you,

Relatives who look down on you, and hypocritical friends.

But you must have four things:

The confidence that shines on your face, the kindness that grows in your heart,

The bones that are blended into your blood, engraved in your life The same sentiment in different lives

1. What you can learn is exercise, what you can’t learn is tempering.

2. Frequently teach your family. Even if they say they don’t want you,

3. You have enough reasons to admire people who get up early every day. If you don’t believe it, you will find that many people admire you after you do it.

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4. We can accept that you can get drunk sometimes, but you must understand that only by getting drunk with a true friend can the sad things end. Otherwise, you will only be the subject of conversation and the laughing stock of others.

5. Don’t always complain about unfairness. Your unfairness is fair to others. Dialectics - I learned it in the third year of high school. Have you forgotten it?

6. Don’t be obsessed with online games. Never.

7. Don’t say this to many people. I hope you only say it to one person. This is to respect the person you love. Respect your own feelings.

8. If your personality makes many people stay away from you, then your personality is a failure. The success of your personality lies in its ability to attract, not to repel.

9. If you regard not sleeping in class as a kind of exercise and you do it, then you are very strong, and remember, in fact, you should be like this. No matter how bad the teacher is, he is still better than the students, because they are teachers.

10. Crazy English words: Don’t be afraid of embarrassment. If you really can’t do it, don’t be afraid of embarrassment. If you can, I suggest you pursue embarrassment. It is a successful attempt. As for laughing at you for it People, you can exclude them from the list of your future opponents in life, so you should not laugh at those who are embarrassed on stage.

11. Find hope from despair, and life will eventually be brilliant.

12. If you don’t smoke, your energy will be much better than when you smoke. This is absolutely true.

13. You do have to learn to be scheming, but remember, always remember, there is always only one way to win in society, and that is strength, there is no need to doubt it.

14. Don’t complain when faced with unfair things. Your unfairness may just be someone else’s fairness. Therefore, you might as well work hard and strive for the most appropriate fairness for yourself.

15. Life is full of different situations. Don’t get angry at new things that you don’t understand. It doesn’t matter. For example, the problem of lovers living together has nothing to do with many of us.

16. Don’t always invite people to dinner, and don’t always let others treat you to dinner—except friends! ! ! ! !

17. Never laugh at your teacher for being ignorant or monotonous, because one day when you find out that you are actually stupid for teasing your teacher by being sleepy, you will have already hit a lot of nails in society.

18. Don’t imagine that you will be the darling at the job fair. When you understand that 70% of junior high school students can go to college, you should understand that people will not worship the majority of a group. .

19. You must learn English well, but English will never be the complete guarantee for your life, so learning more things may sometimes save your life!

20. You can dislike some things, but you should learn to accept them - if you can't change everything.

21. For strangers, either treat them as a blank sheet of paper, or treat them as your friends. In short, don’t treat them as enemies, no matter how many bad things you hear about him or her. rumors.

22. For those who love you, whether you accept it or not, you should thank them. This is respect for you.

23. Make time to exercise every week. There are many benefits.

24. Listening to the radio at night is also a kind of joy and happiness.

25. If someone around you is jealous of you, then you can exclude him from your list of competitors. People who are jealous of others will rarely achieve great things.

26. There are many ways to succeed. Don’t accept methods you don’t like.

27. Men, you don’t have to be handsome, but you can be handsome, and that’s what makes you truly handsome. (Of course, the same goes for women.) So, you don’t have to put too much thought into dressing up.

28. Entering society is a new environment and contact with new people. All your past is a blank sheet of paper to them. This is the best time for you to reshape your own image. No matter how you get rid of your previous shortcomings or enter a new environment, you should appear with a brand new image.

29. Those who persist for love, remember that it is okay to persist, but don’t get hurt by love!

30. Whether it is literature or martial arts, I mean you have to have a place where you can do it. It is a taboo for people to be good at everything and loose at the same time. Being able to understand a few things is the state of being more understanding.

31. QQ is a tool for contacting friends. It can be a tool for making friends, but don’t easily believe in friendship on QQ, let alone imagine what friends on QQ look like.

32. Being impulsive means that you still have passion for life. Being always impulsive means that you still don’t understand life.

33. If you can't have it, then tell yourself not to forget it - if you can bear the pain.

34. Nothing is too straight and nothing is too smooth. Just make the outer circle and the inner square.

35. Never aspire to be a person who cannot offend anyone. It is a wonderful life to have people who oppose and support you and then make your own decisions.

36. Be courageous. Even if you fail, don’t let your life be mediocre.

37. If you like someone, tell him or her bravely. I said in Tianya that university is a place for learning, but I understand the power of love. Pursue the person you truly love, as long as you think it is worth it, then it is worth it.

38. You should believe in one sentence: Nothing is impossible! ! ! Really no, just do it. Now we are students, think about it ten years from now or twenty years from now.

39. I don’t think about whether I can succeed. Since I have chosen a distant place, I only care about the hardships.

40. Regret is an emotion that consumes energy. Regret is a greater loss than a loss and a greater mistake than a mistake, so don’t regret it. But remember to reflect!

41. There is only one way to distinguish levels in society, and that is competition. You must work hard, otherwise you will end up being pressed at the bottom of society.

42. We do live a difficult life. We have to withstand all kinds of external pressures, and we also have to face our own inner confusions. When you are struggling, if someone looks at you with understanding, you will feel the warmth of life. Perhaps just a brief glance is enough to make me excited.

43. Everyone has potential energy, but it is easy to be covered up by habits, blurred by time, and consumed by inertia.

44. Among millions of people, meet the person you meet; among millions of years, in the boundless wilderness of time, there is neither a step too early nor a step too late, and you just happen to catch up. ...

45. You can choose to persist or give up. There is no right or wrong. I mean for love, but the important thing is to stick to your choice.

46. Believe in the power of time, which can dilute many things.

47. Insisting on doing the same thing every day can train us. You will know after trying it.

48. Smile more and you will slowly become truly happy.

49. There are many ifs in life, but not one but.

50. When you don’t know how to give up, you can tell yourself that you still know how to persist.

51. The older we get, the less obvious right and wrong are. This is not a mistake, this is a fact, and it cannot be changed.

52. When you are bored, don’t forget your friends. When your friends are bored, don't forget that you are their friend. Remember to make every friend worth making.

Different celebrity thoughts

1. Takeshi Kaneshiro’s monologue: Every day you have the opportunity to pass by others. You may know nothing about them, but maybe one day, He may become your friend or confidant.

2. Takeshi Kaneshiro’s monologue: When we were closest, the distance between me and her was only 0.01 centimeters. 57 hours later, I fell in love with this woman.

3. Takeshi Kaneshiro’s Monologue: Everyone falls in love sometimes, and every time I fall in love, I go for a run, because running can evaporate the water in your body and make me less I shed tears easily, how could I shed tears? In Ami's mind, I am a very cool man.

4. Lin Qingxia’s monologue: I don’t know when I started to become a very careful person. Every time I wear a raincoat, I wear sunglasses. You never know when it will happen. When does it rain and when does the sun come out?

5. Takeshi Kaneshiro’s monologue: I don’t know since when, there is a date on everything. The saury will expire, the canned meat will expire, and even the plastic wrap will expire. I began to doubt, in Is there anything in this world that never expires?

6. Brigitte Lin monologue: "Actually, knowing a person doesn't mean anything. People will change. Today he likes pineapples, but tomorrow he can like something else."

7. Takeshi Kaneshiro's monologue: On May 1, 1994, a woman said "Happy Birthday" to me. Because of this sentence, I will always remember this woman. If memory is also a can, I hope this can will not expire; if I must add a date, I hope it will last ten thousand years.

8. Tony Leung’s monologue: After she left, many things in the house were very sad. I had to comfort them every night before they could sleep.

9. Tony Leung’s monologue: One day, I suddenly had a whim, and I had a feeling that she seemed to be back. I don’t know if I forgot to turn off the faucet, or if the house is becoming more and more emotional. I always thought it was the strongest, but I didn’t expect it would cry the hardest. (Famous Quotes) When a person cries, you only need to give him a pack of tissues, but when a house cries, you have to do a lot more work.

10. "No one wants expired things. If they want to buy them, they have to buy fresh ones."

"Fresh and fresh, what is fresh? That's the kind of person you are. You are greedy for the new and forget about it." Old, hey, do you know how much effort it takes to get a can of pineapples? You have to plant them, pick them, and cut them. You just don’t want them. Have you ever thought about the feeling of canning them?

11. "Hey, she's gone, she's gone"

"Gone?"

"Are we waiting for you? Women can't wait. The more they wait, the worse they will get. It will be late, and the later you get, the more worried you will be. In the end, you will worry like crazy.

12. Jin: "There are only three reasons for a woman to wear sunglasses so late. The first one means that she She is blind; the second one means that she is trying to be cool, so she wears sunglasses; the third one is because she is lovelorn and does not want people to see that she has cried."

Lin : "Then which one do you think I belong to? "

Jin: "Lovelorn! "

Lin: "Humph..."

Jin: "Actually, it doesn't matter. Falling out of love is very common, why do you need to cry like this? I've tried it when I'm broken in love. When I'm broken in love, I'll run, and then run, run, run, until I'm covered in sweat. This way I have no tears to shed. Really, do you want to try running? "

Lin: "I have been running all night today and I am very tired. If you want to find someone to chat with you, please find someone else. ”

Jin: “I’m not looking for someone to chat with, I just want to be with you, because I understand the feeling of falling out of love. What a woman needs most when she’s falling out of love is a shoulder. In fact, you regard me as... Your boyfriend doesn't matter either.

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13. "Huh? She didn't ask you to call me, so what do you want from me? Go for a run. Are you out of love? ”

“No, then why go for a run?” Contest? ! Are you nervous? How can something as personal as running be revealed to others? That's it, for nothing! ”

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