It was an ordinary autumn. I wore a pair of white sweatpants bought by my mother and went to school in high spirits. At school, many teachers and classmates praised me for my white pants. I'm very proud. I feel very chic today.
That day, there happened to be physical education class. I was so excited that I didn't even care that I was wearing white pants, so I started playing. I was playing basketball with some girls when suddenly a figure jumped out. I passed the ball without seeing it clearly. Just at that moment, Qiu hit his clothes impartially. When I looked intently, the unfriendly classmate left a black mark on his light blue shirt. I quickly apologized, but he flew into a rage and kicked my leg. Look at my white trousers, and they have left two deep footprints. In the past, I would pay him back, but this time I calmed down unexpectedly. I don't know what suppressed my inner anger, but I continued to play ball ... After school, my classmates went home one after another. This is when I found a classmate anxiously looking for something. I walked over enthusiastically, and when I saw it, it was the classmate who kicked my pants. I turned to go, but I thought: Why? Just help him find it together and embarrass him. When I reached out to help enthusiastically, I was greeted by that classmate's grateful smile, and my heart was full of warmth and happiness.
I remember another time, just after class, two junior high school students who came to primary school bumped into me. I only heard them swearing: "You are looking for a fight!" When I heard this, my face turned red with anger: it's outrageous that you should be so righteous when you obviously hit me. I was about to get angry, but I thought, forget it! Forget it. I smiled and said, "I'm sorry!" "You see that unreasonable middle school student, who is also ashamed at the moment, walked slowly. I also do it one brace up, let a person sex should be changed!
When one foot stepped on the petals of a violet, he left the fragrance on that foot. This is Jane. A mental patient broke into a doctor's house and shot his three daughters in the mood for love, but he still cured the mental patient. This is also to make. If a person chooses to care, he will spend the rest of his life in darkness; And if a person chooses to give in, then he can shed sunshine on the earth. There is an old saying: "If you know your mistake, you will change it. There is no benefit at all. " That being the case, why can't we make way for the mistakes that a person made unintentionally? When our hearts choose to give way to ourselves, we get the freedom we deserve, because we put down the burden and should give our friends and enemies a sweet smile. If you can make friends, when you can make other people's mistakes with an open mind, you will naturally have more friends. Let's make more concessions, make life more relaxed and happy, and make more friends.
Letting others free oneself is also a pure heart.
Learn to let go.
Concession is a quality, a quality and a virtue. Letting go is not cowardice, but generosity. To be a man, you should learn to let go.
In history, there was a minister named Lin Xiangru, whose official position climbed all the way because of his meritorious escort, which aroused the jealousy and dissatisfaction of General Lian Po and turned against Lin Xiangru everywhere. But in the face of Lian Po's unreasonable troubles, Lin Xiangru just laughed it off and avoided it, so there was a story of "offering a humble apology". Lian Po was deeply ashamed of Lin Xiangru's generosity. Since then, the two have joined hands to help Zhao. Therefore, learning to give in is good for both people and themselves.
On the other hand, people who are good at jealousy in history complain about others when they encounter a little dissatisfaction. No matter how good their knowledge is, it is difficult for these people to achieve great things. Zhou Yu is an outstanding strategist, with outstanding talent and resourcefulness, who managed the huge Soochow Navy in an orderly way. But when he learned about Zhuge Liang's coup, he knew that he was not as good as Zhuge Liang, but he was not willing to lose. So he spent all day thinking about how to win Zhuge Liang, issued a lament of "He Sheng Liang Chu", and finally died of vomiting blood. Oh, why bother! If Zhou made a lot of money like Lin Xiangru, I don't think he would end up like this!
In life, we will inevitably have friction with others. When someone accidentally steps on you, you should wave and say it doesn't matter. When someone breaks your things and apologizes to you, you should also laugh. Life is so short and hurried, why waste every day on these unnecessary frictions? The world is so vast, and what is broader than the world should be the human heart!
Learn to let go! If we can make some concessions, then our life will become more harmonious and beautiful!
Jean 3
Before I begin my speech, I want to tell you one thing: I really feel guilty about losing my classmate Wang Chunwei's pencil box two days ago. I didn't apologize then. I think Wang Chunwei is angry and will have ideas. But strangely, he laughed and laughed with me, but he also blamed me for telling me about the loss of his pencil box, but the friendship between classmates was great. This pencil box is not worth it, what's more, I didn't mean it.
I am very grateful to my classmate Wang Chunwei for letting me think about the entanglements in my life and think more about each other. I can forgive others wrongly, so you went out of the concession.
There is a famous saying: "The sky is wider than the sky, and people's minds are wider than the sky." Ears seem to hear calluses, but it is often only in language that giants act. How many people in the dwarf's life have the courage to breathe all the rivers?
I once told someone that a noble family taught girls to take a taxi together. The driver took the wrong route, so she looked at the driver nervously. I'm confused. Maybe I'm not as gentle as her in social situations. However, at the moment when the driver repeatedly apologized, I just said from the bottom of my heart: "Never mind". Maybe I'm not familiar with the terrain. Maybe I accidentally drove at the wrong intersection. In short, work and driving are just like work and study. I lost points on the test paper, but it took a lot of effort to ask ordinary taxi drivers. Why do you think it is the worst?
It can be seen that the word "simple" is different from the category of "smiling without showing your teeth" after all. You can train for a short time, so that you can understand others with your heart and learn to put yourself in your own shoes.
As I said just now, understanding can only give in. What about letting go in a deeper sense? Always have to deal with people you don't like, and often say "I don't like people" because you don't get along with someone, and you often don't get along in character. I think sometimes people are accommodating each other's personality or doing things, but think about whose fault personality is. Perhaps the only question about who is right or wrong is whether there is room for people around you. Simply asking others to cater to what you are used to, then selfishness and autocracy will get in the way. You learn to say, "I'm not used to people, but I also have the right to choose." Then you will make concessions.
But the hardest thing is to tolerate others being better than yourself. People will ask, "We can tolerate the shortcomings of others at most and allow things different from ourselves to have something to do with the advantages of others."
In fact, the last line of defense is the weakest-jealousy is so good? Better than me? You're right. So, like many people, you also have a prescription for pinkeye-let's imagine that those who are above you in the world have countless gains. How can you compare with others? I'm one step ahead of you, people should respect you, narrow-minded people can't tolerate being better than you, and people can only respect you in their hearts, so you will always surpass others and yourself.
It is really necessary to have the cultivation of letting go, but the principle of letting go blindly has also slipped from letting go to connivance. So how should the boundary between "laissez-faire" and "connivance" be divided? When not, everything is self-evident; But sometimes, it is extremely difficult to grasp the "let" section in this big book, or it is not easy!
Learn to be modest
There is such a story: American boxing champion Joe? Louis is invincible in boxing. Once, he was driving with his friends. On the way, he had to brake urgently because of the abnormal situation ahead. Unexpectedly, the two cars collided slightly because the car behind them was too tight. The driver behind jumped out of the car angrily, thinking that he braked too hard, and then cursed Joe? There is something wrong with Louis's driving skills. He is waving his fist, hoping to beat each other to pieces. Joe? Louis said nothing but an apology from beginning to end until the driver got bored and left. Joe? Louis's friend asked him inexplicably afterwards, "Why didn't you give him a good beating?" Joe? Louis said seriously, "If someone insults Pavarotti, should Pavarotti sing a song for him?"
I'm Joe? Louis was moved by his generosity. In fact, with his strength, he can give this unreasonable man a profound lesson with a heavy punch, but he didn't do it, just apologized and influenced the other side with his patient personality. As the saying goes, take a step back and broaden the horizon. It is a valuable spirit to tolerate the unreasonable behavior of others.
Tolerance is an open-minded love, just like a clear spring that douses the flames of love, resentment and jealousy. You can turn conflicts into details and make peace. Patience is a noble character. People will feel uneasy when they collide with you. Be patient with others and you will naturally get their understanding and support. Tolerance is also a profound self-restraint, it is a kind of realm of being kind to life and others, which can cultivate people's sentiments and bring you peace and tranquility of mind. It can not only improve the relationship between oneself and society, but also comfort and sublimate one's mind. Tolerance is really a life science.
Of course, forbearance does not mean retreat or weakness, nor is it indifferent to grievances, misunderstandings or even insults. Be patient, take the overall situation into consideration and focus on the future. Patience always influences others' superficial behaviors with a quiet and peaceful mind, tolerates others' unreasonable behaviors with a broad mind, and finally warns the world with indisputable success. For example, Lin Xiangru endured the humiliation of his country, Han Xin endured the humiliation of his legs, and Lincoln was humiliated without anger, all of which were praised by the world as beautiful talks.
Let's remember this sentence: life should be one step higher, and retrogression is the foundation of progress.