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Hai Rui was a famous honest official in Ming Dynasty. In the late Ming Dynasty, when there was no official or greed, his appearance undoubtedly became a landscape of that era. However, not being corrupt means being poor. Although he was a four-grade official, the salary of officials in the Ming Dynasty was generally low, so his monthly salary was only 24 stone, equivalent to about 2600-3200 yuan today.
The money is not only used to support the mother, but also to support the expenses of the whole family and sometimes to help the poor. It can be said that Harry's quality of life is so low that he can't even afford to eat meat. Strangely, even though his family life is so tight, he still keeps having wives and concubines. According to Ming History, Harry married three wives and two concubines in his life. People can't help asking, is Harry a womanizer?
The answer, of course, is no, as an honest official, he must be a man who doesn't get into oil and salt, and there is no flaw. Otherwise, he will be easily caught by others, and his incorruptible personnel will collapse. Since he is not lustful, why does he marry so many wives? Shen Defu, a scholar in Ming Dynasty, recorded Harry's family situation in detail in his book Supplement to Wan Yeli. According to the book, it is really helpless for Hai Qingtian to take a wife and concubinage, which is forced by the old lady. In fact, Harry's first wife, Xu Shi, was very good, and Xu Shi was virtuous. She works hard every day so that her husband can make time to concentrate on his career.
However, Haimu doesn't like Xu Shi very much, because after Xu Shi married Haijia, he gave birth to two daughters in a row and never gave birth to a son to continue the incense for Haijia. Unfortunately, the two daughters died after birth, so the mother felt that Xu Shi was not good and forced her son and wife to divorce. Harry is a famous dutiful son. Although I love Xu Shi very much, I have to obey. So he had to obey his mother's orders and send Xu Shi away with tears in his eyes.
The second wife
After Xu Shi's divorce, Hai's mother immediately rushed back and forth to marry her son. Soon, a woman named Pan was attracted by Mother Hai. The Hai family pieced together a dowry, and Pan Shi married back. But this time, the old lady was blind. This Pan Shi is energetic and strong-willed. She didn't work as hard as Xu Shi did before, and she swallowed it. She always talks back to her mother-in-law, and she is often so angry that her mother-in-law can't speak. The old lady wants to wait for Pan Shi to find a place before letting her son divorce her. But Pan Shi went too far and even deliberately didn't share a room with Harry, which touched the bottom line of Haimu, so he let his son divorce Pan Shi.
The third wife
After this time, Hai Mu won't be blind to help his son find a wife. Instead, ask around and make plans after confirming the woman's nature. In this way, a woman named Wang became Harry's third wife. Wang did not live up to his mother Hai's expectations. In a few years, he gave birth to three children in succession, two of whom were sons. Mother Hai, who finally got her grandson, smiled and spent the whole day with her two grandchildren.
However, not long after, Harry didn't like Emperor Zhu Houzong's superstition of Taoism. He wanted to live forever and didn't care about state affairs. Later, he wrote the famous "Public Security" in history. It was this time that Harry was sent to prison by the emperor. Strangely, after Harry went to prison, not only his two sons died one after another, but even his daughter didn't survive. Hai Mu was sad at this time, but he thought of his son's integrity and maturity. As long as she saves her son first, she can have grandchildren later.
04 concubines
However, Haimu didn't expect that after Harry returned safely, Wang's stomach never moved again, which made Haimu very worried. In desperation, Haima asked Harry to bring a concubine. Although Harry is more helpless than Haimu, he can only do so. But he spent almost all his savings when he married Pan Shihe and Wang, and now he wants to take a concubine, which is really unbearable. So he had the cheek to borrow money from relatives and friends to take a concubine. But I don't know why, my concubine Han hanged herself not long after she married into the sea. 10 days later, his wife Wang also died suddenly.
This series of funerals cast a shadow over the whole family. Counting down, from the early death of Harry's first daughter to the death of Wang, seven people in the Hai family have died. However, Haima still refused to give up, dragging her old body and continuing to run around for Hai's family, continuing the incense. Although she finally found a wife named Qiu for Harry, she worked hard for many years until she closed her eyes and didn't see Qiu giving birth to a son. After his mother died, although Qiu never gave birth to another child, Harry never married again. Qiu accompanied Harry until his death.
The moral code of cannibalism
I remember Mr. Lu Xun once said a famous saying "the ethical code of cannibalism". In the story of Harry's taking a wife and concubinage, we can really feel the strictness and compulsion of Hai's mother in ethics, especially that Hai's mother forced her son to divorce his wife many times, which made many people feel angry. In addition, Harry listens to his mother's words and doesn't care about other people's feelings, which has been criticized by future generations. But as everyone knows, there would be no blue sky without mother sea.
Haimu is surnamed Xie. In the fourth year after she gave birth to Harry, her husband Han Hai died. From then on, Haimu tried to raise Harry alone. Because of his hard personality, Harry received strict education from an early age. In addition, the overseas mother saved money for Harry's study and taught him many principles of being a man, especially not to be selfish and flatter powerful people. This idea can be seen in the "Strategies for Managing Li" written by Hai Ruichu when he took part in the provincial examination.
It is also under the correct teaching of Haimu that Harry can become famous in the future. Although Haimu seems somewhat arbitrary in the continuation of Harry's incense, Haimu is a woman living in feudal times after all. It is not easy for her to educate such an excellent son, so don't criticize her for strictly observing ethics.