? I was deeply impressed by self-discipline when I read "The Road Less Traveled" by Stoker Pike. This book has a very profound explanation of self-discipline. The beginning of the book goes straight to the point: "Life is full of hardships. This is the truth, and it is the most important truth." Many people in the world do not understand this and always think that life should be easy and can be lived happily without any effort. Passed. So when I see the suffering inflicted on myself, I scream at the heavens and the earth, burst into resentment, and feel inexplicable pain. "The Road Less Traveled" uses a large number of examples to show that suffering is the truth of life, and the good times that occasionally appear in daily life are abnormal.
? So in the face of a life full of hardships, is there any good way to deal with it? Stoker Pike proposed the word "self-discipline" and believed that self-discipline is "the most important means to solve problems in life and the most important way to eliminate pain in life." It includes four basic aspects: first, delayed gratification; The third is to take responsibility, the third is to be loyal to the facts, and the fourth is to maintain balance. Among them, delayed gratification comes first. Those joys and pleasures that can be obtained without any effort, such as playing mobile phones, watching videos, playing games, eating delicious food, watching movies, having fun with friends... It is easy to do it as long as you are willing to do it. , but what ultimately consumes is your own energy and time. Once these things end, many times the heart is actually very empty.
? Taking responsibility is the second characteristic of self-discipline. Every person in the true sense will assume his or her own responsibilities in life, and should not pass it on to others if it is his or her own business. In order to evade their responsibilities, some people are even willing to hand over their freedom to others (Fromm wrote a book "Escape from Freedom", which provides a profound explanation of this), are willing to be enslaved by others, and finally suffer from neurosis and A person with a personality disorder cannot become a complete human being. The third characteristic of self-discipline is loyalty to the truth. Many people cling to the incomplete life map, their behavior is out of touch with the real world, and their psychology is in a typical "empathy" state. What is "empathy"? Stoker Pike gave a definition: "The transfer of those ways of perceiving and responding to the world that emerged and were applicable in childhood to the adult environment, even though these ways are no longer suitable for the adult environment. "The concept of empathy has a shocking psychological impact on me! Using this to observe myself, I have more or less empathy; using this to observe the people I have come into contact with, I also find that there are many people with serious empathy. In the words of psychologist Wu Zhihong, these people with severe empathy are all giant babies. Although his body has matured, his mind has not improved much compared to his childhood self. If you cannot be loyal to the facts, you will have no starting point for self-discipline. The fourth characteristic of self-discipline is to maintain balance. Due to space limitations, I will not go into more detail here.
? Simply summing up the four characteristics of self-discipline (only three of them are explained here), my personal understanding is: if you want to achieve your ultimate goal in life (Stoke Pike in "Few People" The book "The Road to Walk" believes that the ultimate goal of life is to continue to grow and mature mentally, move forward in the direction guided by God, and eventually become a person like God. However, the road to mental maturity is full of hardships. It is full of setbacks and hardships. He said at the beginning of the book that "life is full of hardships"! So the road to maturity is a "road less traveled", and most people will eventually fail in the middle. Only a handful of people make the journey to the end and become the closest to God Himself.) So how should we go about it? The first thing is to assume your own responsibilities in life. You cannot shirk this responsibility to others at any time, and just be a person who depends on others for survival. People who are dependent on others are the weak in life, and the weak have no future.
? The second is to be loyal to your own objective facts. Romain Rolland said a widely circulated famous saying in the book "John Christophe": "Most people in the world die at the age of 25, but are not buried until the age of 80." Many people die at the age of 25. When you are young, you have stopped growing in your mind and heart. Every day you live is a replica of yesterday. Although the body is still growing and going through the process of maturation and aging, it is not much different from death. Although these words are too absolute and harsh, they can even make people feel psychologically uncomfortable (this is always the case with many famous writers)! But I think Romain Rolland mainly emphasized the importance of "people need lifelong growth." If one does not keep pace with the times, a person's thoughts, soul, emotions and thinking judgments will fall behind the surrounding environment, and eventually slowly fall behind the entire era. The result will be that what one thinks and does does not match the times. Being able to objectively reflect the times and isolate them from the times, various mental illnesses will arise as a result. In this way, self-discipline does not even have a basically correct starting point, which deserves high vigilance.
? Let’s talk about the most important feature of self-discipline - delayed gratification. In today's era, both material and spiritual products are extremely abundant. China has entered a comprehensively moderately prosperous society, and all problems of food and clothing have been solved. In this era of extremely abundant material and spiritual products, it is easy for most people to enjoy timely happiness.
For example, the things I listed at the beginning of this article, these purely material and spiritual pleasures, are easy for people to indulge in, but they are not beneficial to their own growth and maturity, and even have a huge negative effect. Because the more time and energy you spend on this, there will be no time and energy left to do more important things - study hard, increase your knowledge, improve your cognition, keep your body healthy, master money-making skills, manage intimate relationships, and achieve physical and mental realization. Freedom...these are important things in life. And have you discovered that doing these things is anti-human and even fighting against the law of entropy, and must be promoted with a strong spirit of self-discipline. Therefore, a very important thing in life is to maintain self-discipline.
? There is a very funny reason why I have such deep feelings about self-discipline. Haven’t you been paying attention to your healthy diet during this time? Breakfast is usually eaten at home, including milk, eggs, steamed buns, fruits and other ingredients. Sometimes you will also drink a cup of Five Elements Jianpi Powder, which is actually quite comprehensive in nutrition. As a result, after taking a walk yesterday morning, I saw a small shop passing by making a variety of rice noodles. It looked so tempting that I couldn't help but go in and have a bowl. Although they repeatedly told the boss and his wife that they should do a good job in hygiene, the shop owner and his wife nodded in agreement. But adverse consequences still occurred: I woke up this morning with diarrhea, had to go to the bathroom several times, and my self-discipline in eating was broken! Then I thought about my poor self-discipline in other aspects, lower than the average person's level, and a typical "step on the watermelon rind and slip wherever you go", so I wrote an article on the theme of self-discipline to express my gratitude to Zeng. Someone learn, do deep introspection, and give yourself a shot! I hope it can make similar things happen less often. Is it useful? Only God knows! Writing is one thing, doing it is another, haha!
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