I often tell myself that it doesn't matter whether you are a man or not. After all, it is normal to deal with people every day. You should never set limits for yourself. Once you set limits for yourself, it is a very bad thing. All you can get is to keep losing the opportunities that belonged to you. You can't stop blaming yourself. You are not confident. The terrible thing is that your vision is always only a little distance. What is even more frightening is that this narrow-minded vision will accompany your life, even your family, so that you can't live.
? The so-called self-restriction is to set psychological barriers for yourself. Once you fall into this infinite loop, your life may stop here. I succeeded in becoming one of them. I know, this is related to my life experience, experience and age. Writing this article today is a little awakening after countless boring and passive days. Think of it as finding a little sporadic fire in the dark and readjusting your direction. It is possible that the fire will go out during the walk, but even so, I will protect it and slowly walk out of the dead end on my own.
? I am a post-90s boy who is about to turn 25. In my life and work, I have set myself many obstacles emotionally, so I have been spinning around like a lost child, and many people have seen many of my jokes! At this moment, I don't mind writing how I set boundaries for myself, because if I don't remove that scar, maybe the poison on it will erode my body and soul. Only by actively and bravely tearing open the scar can the wound heal and life have heat and temperature!
Let's talk about life first I had a lot of things I wanted to do. Maybe because I made some mistakes in the implementation process, I was laughed at, or accused and not understood, so I won't be so enthusiastic when I am asked to do it again. Take learning guitar as an example. I like playing and singing a lot of songs, but the training results are not ideal every time. So my brain tells me that I am not suitable for playing guitar at all and my singing skills are not good, so I always learn guitar at sixes and sevens. After studying for more than two years, I still can't play a complete piece of music. Now think about how ridiculous I am. Because of my own limitations, I missed a lot of sweet piano sounds and beautiful songs. I could have listened to the songs I played and sang through my own efforts and enjoyed the heavy harvest after paying, but because of my own limitations, I managed to hide!
? Let's talk about work again! I am a responsible person at work, but the fly in the ointment is that my thoughts are a bit rigid and my work style is relatively solid! It's not all like this. I still have a lot of good ideas about my work, but I think too much, and my own ideas limit my actual actions, so I have been spinning around in the same place at work without new ideas and achievements. I had a new idea, but before I started to implement it, I was thinking: "If this working idea is implemented, it may cause people's complaints and incomprehension. In the end, will I directly stab me and say that I don't work because I can't accept it? Will this idea bring a great workload to other colleagues, and in the end, it will not only fail to achieve results, but also drag everyone down? " It is this kind of courageous thinking that limits my actions, so my work ideas can't be expanded, my actions can't be implemented, and my work is very passive! Originally, I could appreciate my value in this job through my own efforts and enjoy the pride brought by this job, but because of my self-limitation, I managed to hide!
Finally, talk about personal love life! I am ashamed to say that my emotional direction is still very confused, which has a lot to do with self-restriction. I feel poor when I meet my favorite bar, but I'm too embarrassed to talk. The bar introduced at home is too far away to be realistic. My colleagues introduced me as ugly and didn't like others. The whole thing has made no progress. No wonder I'm single for a reason! In fact, the most important reason is to set limits for yourself, especially when you meet someone you like, you are worried that you are not good enough, you are worried about the embarrassment after being rejected by others, you are worried about the ridicule around you, you worry a lot, and you set limits for yourself, so you are always confused about your emotional direction. In the current words, it is a single cancer, a serious single cancer! ! !
I will be 25 years old in 20 19 years. I'm tired of this passive lifestyle and must make a change. Even if I keep making mistakes and hit a wall, it should be considered as an advance capital, which should be the capital of trial and error when I was young! Compared with the ridicule and incomprehension from around us, self-limitation is even more horrible! In my twenties, I lived like this, leaving none!
I am glad that I learned not to set limits for myself before I was 25 years old! Eliminating one's psychological barriers bit by bit is the most important thing at present.
Don't take yourself too seriously, so that you can live more stretched, and you should walk into the bustling crowd to feel your smallness; Don't underestimate yourself, you know I was born to be useful; Open the window that has been dusty for a long time, so that you can hear birds singing and smell flowers; Facing the future life, whether it is good or bad, we should try our best to convince ourselves to accept it, so as to open our eyes to appreciate the beautiful world and feel the difference between spring, summer, autumn and winter.
Be a man, don't live too carefully, or you will be bound by yourself for a lifetime and turn around in the same place; Don't be too casual, otherwise no one will look up to you, and you won't be successful in this life; Especially when I am so confused, find a quiet place, take a good look at myself, find a correct position for myself, have my own principles, attitudes, preferences, circles and truly belong to my own lifestyle; Be serious when you should be serious, do not hesitate when you should give up, be modest when you should be modest, and wave when you should wave. Only after experiencing different ups and downs, will your mind be open-minded, your horizons be broadened, your life experience will be truly rich, and your life will go all the way to towards the distant!
Still the sentence on the title: don't set limits for yourself, have the spirit of endless words!