Article | Nico Robin of the Sea

I once read this passage: “At this age, it is too difficult to find someone who understands you. At the moment of hurt, you prefer to remain silent and choose not to explain, because you know in your heart that people who understand you will understand you if you don't explain, and people who don't understand you will be talking nonsense no matter how much you explain."

I deeply agree. The more things I experience, the more I understand that sentence: "Never explain yourself to others." You are not me, how can you know the path I have walked, the pain and joy in my heart. No matter how kind you are, in the eyes of people who hate you, you are just a fake gorilla; no matter how hard you work, in the eyes of people who are jealous of you, you are born with a good destiny.

In this world, if there are people who understand you, there will naturally be people who do not understand you. If there are people who believe in you, there will be people who will question you. Everyone misunderstood Guan Zhong, only Bao Shuya always understood him. As Liao Yimei said in "Softness":

The same is true for friends.

In life, you will always encounter moments like this, when you feel that you are about to collapse, but in the eyes of others, you may think that you are just being pretentious. As Haruki Murakami said in the book "The End of the World and Cold Wonderland":

If you are a simple person, people who know you will think you are cute and innocent; people who don't know you will think you are cute and innocent; You are a scheming person, pretending to be young.

If you are a sincere person, and you meet people who don’t believe you, think you are untrue, and always suspect that you are telling lies.

I often hear a saying: "Explanation is concealment."

When facing someone who doesn't understand you, the more you explain, the more unbelievable the other person will be, and the darker the description becomes, and you will never be able to defend yourself.

When encountering this kind of situation, you can only remain silent, without any need to defend or explain.

Because people who understand you don’t need it, and people who don’t understand you don’t believe it. If you say too much, it will be in vain and will only increase resentment.

It is said in "The Book of Songs": "Those who know me say that I am worried, and those who do not know me say that I am worried." People who understand my mood know that I am melancholy and worried; those who do not understand my mood, They thought I had some request or agenda for staying here.

For people who think differently, you cannot force them to reach a consensus with you. You can only do your own thing well, with a clear conscience, and do not need other people's understanding. You will see the difference in the future.

As the saying goes, "A road can tell the strength of a horse, but time can tell a person's heart." This proverb urges us not to be discouraged. The good and the bad will become clear in the future, and we should not rush to explain it temporarily.

Everyone has their own ideas and understands things differently. You can't control what others think, so you don't have to force others' approval. People who don't understand will never understand your point, so no matter how much you explain, it will be meaningless. Those who understand do not need to explain; those who do not understand, no matter how much explanation is used, it is useless. Never explain yourself to others, don't explain yourself, spend your time and energy doing something useful.

Han Han wrote in "Written to Everyone":

In life, it is difficult for everyone to agree, and we cannot satisfy everyone. Many times, we just need to be ourselves and have a clear conscience. There is no need to force everyone’s understanding, just follow your own path and your life will suddenly become clearer. The world is colorful, and so is life.

"If you are upright, you are not afraid of slanted shadows." "Those who are pure will be pure themselves." These famous sayings are all about believing in yourself, not being afraid of rumors, and insisting on yourself. Everyone has a different life. When facing difficulties, be able to bend and stretch yourself and persist in yourself, and your life will shine brightly.

There is a saying in "The Analects of Confucius": "Isn't it a gentleman who doesn't know something but doesn't feel embarrassed?" If others don't understand me, I don't feel angry and I'm not eager to defend myself. Aren't I also a gentleman? Life is not easy. To live a beautiful life requires a lot of patience. If you don't complain or explain, you will be an outstanding person. The world is colorful, and so is life.

In life, we are always afraid that others will misunderstand us and are eager to explain to others.

If you have a clean heart, why should you be afraid of slander in a few words? When people are open and honest, why should they be afraid of being slandered by nonsense words? Be neither humble nor arrogant in front of others, and be calm and calm behind others.

Be yourself. People who understand you don't need to explain, and people who don't understand you will not believe any of your explanations. As the saying goes, those who know me say that I am worried, and those who do not know me mean that I do not want anything. The rest of your life is expensive, and some people are not worth your time and energy to explain. Don’t explain, just be yourself.