Hello, senior brothers, the topic we are going to discuss this time is how to effectively improve our own level.
First, let's explain what a "hierarchy" is.
The level we are talking about here is not the size of power, nor the amount of money, nor the level of education. The main measure is "wisdom".
In other words, the higher the level, the higher the wisdom, the farther the eyes, the bigger the mind, the more you can see the truth of the world without being disturbed by those falsehoods and fantasies, and the more transparent and comfortable people live.
On the other hand, low-level people, even if they have more money and high status for a while, still live in great troubles and pains, and those blessings are often short-lived and easy to lose.
Since hierarchy is so important, how can we improve it?
In fact, the answer is not in the outside world, but in our own hearts. Everyone's heart is like a gold mine, but it is hidden in impurities and is not easy to be seen. Even most senior brothers didn't know about it, so they chased the scrap iron outside desperately, and finally they were exhausted and had no income.
Therefore, Mencius once said a famous saying-Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you, which means that when we are confused, we should learn to observe ourselves, which is the most effective way to enhance our wisdom.
Extracardiac solution is the biggest regret in life.
There is a sentence engraved on the pillar of the temple of Athena, the ancient Roman goddess of wisdom-human, know yourself.
Coincidentally, Lao Tzu, a sage in China, once said-those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are wise.
It can be seen that it is very difficult to know yourself. Only really smart people can do it, or to put it more bluntly, most people don't have this awareness. When they encounter problems, they often look for answers from the outside world at the first time.
For example, if the academic performance is not good, either the teacher doesn't teach well, or the parents don't help, or they are unlucky in the exam, but they don't do it.
For example, if the work performance is not good, either the leader is not Bole and does not know how to appreciate his horse, or the environment is not good, or he is excluded by his peers. Anyway, he did his best.
For example, if you can't find a suitable partner, either all men are love rat, who can't stand a little test and can't kneel for 365 days; Either women are all love rat, their eyes are full of money, and they always want to get a car, a house and a bride price, instead of fighting with men.
Anyway, no matter what problems many people encounter, they can quickly find out a lot of reasons from the external environment, wash themselves white, and then either complain or sigh, feeling that they are unlucky.
It is also important not to deny the objective environment, and what is more important is the subjective aspect. If you blindly emphasize the external, it is tantamount to a directional error, and you can never improve yourself.
A man can lead a horse to the water but he cannot make him drink.
Some people pin their hopes on meeting a good teacher, a good leader and even a good parent, which is the popular "fighting for dad" now, thinking that they can get close to Zhu Zhechi and a rising tide lifts all boats.
But strictly speaking, it is still to find the reason from the outside.
Don't say that there are few good masters, even if they are predestined friends, they are not necessarily predestined friends. Even if we do meet, will all the problems be solved?
No, we all know that there is an old saying, "A master leads the door, and practice is in the individual", and there is also an allusion in it.
In ancient times, there was a chess master named Yi. Two clever disciples came to learn chess from him, and Yi tried his best to teach them.
It's just that one of these two disciples is very attentive, and every word the teacher says is kept in mind, and then he tries to figure it out over and over again; The other is half-hearted and clever.
As a result, after a period of time, the chess skills of the two disciples were pulled away, but the disciple who didn't work hard was unconvinced, thinking that the teacher was partial and must have given another classmate a small stove in private.
Therefore, a good teacher can only belong to an "external resource", and it is himself, including his parents, who plays a decisive role. Maybe some parents can leave their children a lot of money or arrange a good position for them, but they can never arrange a good life for them, let alone grow up for them.
Learn to be soft inside and tough outside, not too strong.
We should always know ourselves, and the first thing we should pay attention to is "control desire".
In our life, we often meet people with strong desire for control, no matter whether their starting point is good or bad, but being too strong will usually bring us a lot of trouble.
It's like walking down the street with a knife, it's inevitable that you will bump into many people and have an argument, so it's naturally difficult to walk smoothly.
In fact, a person's real strength lies in his heart, not in his appearance. Sometimes the more timid he is, the more he likes to bluff.
We should learn the spirit of water, which is soft outside and rigid inside, and round inside. On the surface, the water is very weak. It becomes square in a square container and round in a round container, as if there is no place.
Actually, it's not like this. Lao Tzu once said-there is nothing softer than water, and the strong can't be defeated.
The more advanced people are, the more they like to show weakness or hide others, so that they will not be too ostentatious and attract more enemies, but their hearts are very firm and tenacious, and once they set their goals, they will not change easily.
Let go when it's time to let go, don't be too persistent.
When we look inward, we should also pay attention to one thing, that is, not to be too paranoid.
There is a line in the movie Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon-when you hold your hands tightly, there is nothing in it. When you open your hands, you will find the world in your hands.
So many times, we have to learn to let go properly, so as to get more.
Many people understand this truth, but rolling back and forth in the world of mortals, many people slowly forget, set themselves one goal after another, and then stare at it.
But if you are willing to give up, you will get what you want. On the one hand, you will be very tired, on the other hand, you will get lost more easily.
It's like a man chasing a thief, but he runs more than a thief and keeps running, because he has forgotten his original goal and only remembers to keep running, that is, "forgetting his original heart."
In fact, no one is perfect, and the world is incomplete, not to mention each of us? Some belong to you, you don't have to insist, and some are destined not to belong to you. The tighter you chase them, the farther away they are. Even if you try your best to catch it, I'm afraid it's not what you liked at first.
So ask yourself from time to time, what do you want? What you are pursuing now will really make you feel happy from the heart. If yes, please continue. If not, why not let go? This is also an option. In fact, many times we are not forced by others, but by ourselves.
These are some internal nursing methods. I wonder if they will help you a little? I sincerely hope that you can communicate with your "inner heart" more than always looking outside.