The classic sentences and insights from Fu Lei's family letters are as follows:
1. Only fools start to look back when they hit a nail; smart people learn to behave when they see others suffer.
Enlightenment: The difference between fools and smart people is that smart people can learn to summarize from other people's experiences and stories, so that they can avoid detours and make wrong decisions, while fools do not have such understanding.
2. Try to ignore success or failure as much as possible, just try to do your best and feel no regrets.
Enlightenment: As the saying goes, everything depends on people and everything depends on God. This means that as long as we work hard and do our best to realize our dreams, no matter what the result is, we should not care too much and feel no regrets. That’s it.
3. People who have not experienced sharp pain will not have deep and broad sympathy.
Enlightenment: Fu Lei and his wife told Fu Cong that people's mind is often related to experience. For example, sympathy is not deeply felt in the hearts of ordinary people, but for people who have experienced profound pain, You will feel the same way and become more compassionate.
4. Not getting carried away by victory is the best evidence of strength.
Enlightenment: This sentence can be called a wise saying. After winning a victory, many people often relax their vigilance and make major mistakes, leading to irreparable results. The more victorious the moment, The more we need to be vigilant and introspective.
5. The greatness of motherhood lies not in reason, but in that kind of intuitive emotion.
Perception: We often praise the greatness of maternal love, so why is maternal love so great? I believe that many people will say the word selfless. Although it is true, the really great thing is that maternal love is an intuition, not out of rational thinking, but out of an instinctive reaction.
6. My child, the terrible enemy does not necessarily have to be a ferocious-looking one. A friendly and passionate friendship can sometimes waste a lot of your precious time.
Enlightenment: In Fu Lei’s book, this sentence gave me a very deep understanding. In our lives, we will encounter many enemies. We often define enemies too narrowly, and some things cost too much. A lot of the time, these things are also our enemies, such as friendship. We have made many friends, but how many are truly of quality? Such enemies are not easy to arouse alertness, and we need to understand and identify them ourselves.
7. Since we live in a world of money, we must control money well so as not to be enslaved by money.
Enlightenment: I very much agree with Fu Lei and his wife. Many people are labeled as misers, but in fact, in our lives, money is inseparable. This medium of exchange of goods is needed, and money can also make our lives better. Therefore, we need to learn to manage money and control it so that it can serve us but not be enslaved by it.
8. Don’t be arrogant when you are right, and be forgiving when you are right.
Enlightenment: As the saying goes, be merciful to others. Our lives are full of setbacks and sufferings. Therefore, we should have a broad mind and a tolerant heart and be a responsible person. A big-hearted person.
9. As long as a person is sincere, he can always impress others; even if people don’t understand him at the moment, they will understand him in the future.
Enlightenment: Fu Lei told his son that being a human being requires sincerity. This is the basis for interacting with others. I strongly agree. The same is true in our lives. If we want to make some real friends, we must be sincere to each other. , and the sincere heart will be understood and felt by people sooner or later.
10. Abandonment without fighting is hypocritical, detachment without suffering is frivolous, a wise man who escapes from reality is cowardly; moderation, contentment, and petty wisdom are our fatal wounds. .
Enlightenment: I like this sentence in Fu Lei’s book very much. In our lives, many people think that they have high emotional intelligence, but in fact, they just inherited part of the golden mean. They are just thoughts, little wisdom and little wisdom. Their abandonment, detachment, and self-preservation are nothing but hypocrisy. They cannot stand the test of time and morality, and these are our fatal wounds.
11. Only when a person dares to face reality and mistakes, analyze rationally, and understand thoroughly can he avoid being eroded by memories. I believe you will gradually learn this and become stronger and stronger.
Enlightenment: Reality cannot be escaped, mistakes must be faced squarely, calmly analyze the causes and consequences of things, learn lessons, and learn from them, so that you can be invincible, not afraid of setbacks, not afraid of blows, and not even afraid of loneliness. , people become stronger.
12. It is such a sacred and glorious mission to be able to carry forward the immortal works of the immortal master and spread them to every corner of the earth!
Perception: "Carrying forward the immortal works of the immortal master" cleverly implies that the artistic career engaged in by the son is an immortal career; "What a sacred and glorious mission" expresses the father without reservation. Support and understanding of his son’s career, and joy and praise for his son’s success.
13. When a child is lonely, he will create a world and many spiritual friends! Always keep your innocent heart, you will not be left behind when you grow old, and you will always be able to connect with and embrace the innocent hearts of the whole world!
Enlightenment: Contemporary philosopher Zhou Guoping once said: "Loneliness, loneliness and boredom are three different realms, belonging to the level of spirit, emotion and affairs respectively; only people with a rich inner world can have a better understanding of the spirit and soul. Only those who have persistent pursuits and full of love for the world can experience true loneliness; loneliness arises from love..." Fu Lei's understanding of loneliness is different.
Fu Lei believes: "The movingness of artistic expression must come from the purity of the soul! If it is not as pure as a mirror, how can we understand the souls of our predecessors? How can we move the hearts of the audience?" Because the innocent heart is the purest, it contains no selfish thoughts, no desires and disputes, and only accommodates the most beautiful and sincere feelings in the world, so it "will always be able to connect with and embrace all the innocent hearts in the world!"< /p>
In real life, a child may be in a bad situation, lack close friends, and may even be misunderstood and rejected. The world around him makes him lonely; but the purest and most beautiful human feelings and thoughts are interlinked and eternal. All the innocent people in the world will become his confidants and friends. This spiritual friend and this spiritual world are enough to make him fearless of the loneliness around him and never feel lonely in spirit! It is these spiritual friends and beautiful emotions that become the broad and broad spiritual world created by Chizi.
A child's heart is extremely pure, and only by eliminating distracting thoughts can he "feel the soul of his predecessors" and "move the hearts of the audience" with it. Only then can we reach the highest realm of art and the highest realm of life.
14. If the sun is too strong, it will scorch the grains; if the rain is too strong, it will drown the crops.
Enlightenment: The previous sentence "The highs should not be too high to make you nervous, and the lows should not be too low to make you decadent" are closely connected, using a metaphor to vividly illustrate the need to control emotions.
15. You say that you are always surrounded by contradictions and happiness, but I believe that without contradictions, artists will not progress, evolve, or deepen. Contradictions are evidence of vitality.
Impressions: The article mentioned Romain Rolland's John Christophe, saying that Fu Cong often calls himself Christophe, and his personality is similar to him; he also said that "Contradictions are full of vitality." clear evidence". The purpose is to encourage his son to not be afraid of conflicts like Beethoven, to face them bravely, and to become perfect in the process of resolving conflicts.