After watching Growing Up with You, I realized that I was not the only mother who was anxious, irritable, hysterical and helpless on the way to raising a baby.

Originally, I also pursued happy education and felt that life was too short. I studied hard and changed my fate. When my baby was born in the provincial capital, she didn't have to study so hard.

My baby was really cute and well-behaved when he was a child. But according to her later development and performance, I suspect that she is a "little monster" or a monkey sent by Niu Wangmo, lurking around me, trying to let me die young.

Like Tamia Liu's Awakening, I had to change from a "Buddha-tied baby" to a "chicken mother". I am also very helpless with such deformation. I don't rank in primary school, and I don't talk about grades. I don't think there is a gap between us.

However, there is competition for further education in junior high school. From the mid-term, senior high school entrance examination, monthly examination and weekly examination, the "gap" between one's own children and "others' children" is highlighted.

No matter how happy you are in Buddhism, no matter how happy you are in education, you will not be "Buddha" or "happy" if you fail in grades and rank last.

When I was in the sixth grade of Wa Primary School, sometimes I had a lot of homework, and I didn't finish it until about 1 1 in the evening. The teacher assigned so much homework that it delayed the baby's sleep. I was very angry.

However, she advised me that I heard that I had more homework after junior high school, and I am used to it now, and I will not be afraid in the future.

Oh, yo. Look, this is simply the standard language of other children! The old mother was almost moved to tears.

Hum, this is the essence of her possession of demons. I naively believe that she has the potential to learn hegemony, and I am so happy.

I didn't know the true face of this little monster until the first parent-teacher meeting in junior high school.

After the parent-teacher conference, I was detained by her class teacher, a little girl in her twenties who just graduated from graduate school.

The class teacher earnestly "educated" me. As an editor, I have the ability to help children learn and care more about them. She has a poor foundation, is not attentive in class and reads novels.

Ah, listen to Dozza's heart. It seems that I am the parent who has education and knowledge, but does not attach importance to education, does not understand the importance of learning, does not care about learning, and does not coach children.

What a "shame" this is, what a sad shame. This was imposed on me by my own children. At that time, I fought back my anger and forced a smile. Nuo Nuo agreed, and I felt extremely painful.

When I got home, I attacked the baby: How did the teacher know that I was an editor?

I told you.

You have the cheek to say that your mother is a nanny or a cleaner, and your study is poor. Other teachers may think it makes sense. You said you were an editor, and your study was so poor, either to disprove my incompetence or to show that I let you go. You are good at throwing cans. ...

Catch her like a tiger and the little cotton-padded jacket becomes a little hedgehog.

Although she has been pursuing happy education, she has not neglected her study. Although there is no ranking in primary schools, the score in the student handbook I bring home every year is 90, which is too eye-catching.

I said it's not bad to be the first, but it's good to be the second. If your score is above 80, you can be a roadside clapper.

I violated the principle that high marks are low. My mother thinks it's good to have more than 80 points when she is high. My baby is too low to have less than 60 points.

I didn't expect her to be at the bottom of junior high school, in the bottom ten.

At this time, even if parents and children think about Buddhism and happiness again, the tree wants to be quiet and the wind will not stop.

There will be competition in junior high school. If you don't want to learn, you can, but you can't pull up the average score and ranking of the whole class.

Tang Priest's wish to become a Buddha has gone through eighty-one difficulties. How can he say "Buddha" when studying?

Since ancient times, learning is a boring job, which tests endurance and self-discipline.

Otherwise, there is no smell of chicken dancing, no smell of burning the midnight oil, no smell of fireflies reflecting snow, no smell of heads hanging on beams and awls stabbing stocks, and no smell of stealing light. ...

These idioms related to learning are numb and painful, and there is no happiness at all.

Under the guidance of the teacher, I began to make various study plans for my baby, and I also bought more reference books and exercise books.

Accompany her to recite words and practice listening; Teach her how to recite and memorize ancient prose and poems quickly. She can't find someone else to help her solve the math problem, and then teach her when she knows it; Take part in the off-campus training class organized by the teacher.

However, even if I let her study hard again and prevent her from dying, she will look at fantasy novels out of my sight, and the previous learning effects will return to their original shape.

In order to turn the corner during the holiday, I overtook her and enrolled her in a cram school. Just because the work is not going well, I just quit my job and stay with me every day. All I can think about is that I spent time, energy and money in this way, and it's time to pay back.

As a result, the first monthly exam of the second day of junior high school still monopolized the bottom ten.

The teacher told me on QQ that she was watching fantasy novel in class. When the teacher came to her desk, the whole class looked at her, but she was immersed in the "Douluo Mainland" and didn't know it.

Alas! If you make up more holidays, you will have no brains at school.

For two and a half years in junior high school, she was addicted to fantasy novels, picture books and comics.

Steal money from me and her grandmother to buy it; Standing in front of the bookstall, visiting home obsessively; Hide her books at home; When I found out, I tried to rob me. ...

Oh, my god, this is a reward for the happy Buddha raising a baby before, and the old mother almost spilled blood three feet.

Look at our family's life these two years.

Studying with the baby is equivalent to going to junior high school again.

I can recite ancient poems and English, but she still can't;

I remember politics, history and geography, but she still can't;

Mathematical physics, I can't, and neither can she …

Her mind is not on study, so she can't learn. If she studies like this, it's all my fault. Your father came back from a business trip and she didn't go to class. She can't manage her study and teaching well. ...

I am so wronged! I was boiled to death before Eva grew up.

The contradictory war with my father also began.

I said, since the baby is not the material for learning, it is no longer "cows don't drink water and force their brains". Just go to a vocational high school and take a professional route.

Her father said, that won't do. Nobody goes to college now.

I said, then you take care of her study, but I can't.

He said, who makes money? No more meals? Do you want to starve to death?

I said, gee, who can't make money? I'm not a born housewife. I have struggled in the workplace.

He said, with your health, you may have made money by then, and you have to make money if you have a life.

I said ... he said. ...

The butterfly effect caused by Eva's problem quickly became a hurricane in the war at home. Although it did not evolve from a verbal dispute to a big fight.

However, her father and I had a heated argument about whether to spend 3000 yuan on cram school or invite people from his hometown to dinner first.

In the quarrel, I wantonly vented and attacked his parents and relatives, so he picked up my bag and threw it at me sitting on the bay window.

At that moment, I immediately had the idea of divorce, and my life was a failure.

I don't have a job, my children go to school badly, and my husband and wife are at odds. It is better to live by yourself. Go back and find a job to support yourself, don't ask worldly things, don't worry.

In a rage, I took my mother to live with my classmates in another city for a week.

Perhaps this is the life of China people. After a fierce calculation, I ran away and came back with a chicken feather.

Last semester of the third grade, although our mother-daughter relationship dropped to freezing point, it was time to make a choice. I sincerely suggest that since you can't learn, you should take the professional route.

Go to a vocational high school to learn a skill and open a small shop in the future. I didn't say you were successful, and I didn't say you were providing for the elderly. It's good that you can support yourself.

Or you don't want to go to vocational high school. If you like to eat, go directly to the food training institution to learn what to eat. It is good to invest less and get quick results.

No, you like reading fantasy books too much. I'll pay you to open a bookstall, and you can sell books and newspapers while reading. ...

Not yet, then I'm "willing to cut it all" You can hang out for a few more months. After the senior high school entrance examination, I will keep you in captivity until you are 18 years old. When you are an adult, go out and live by yourself!

In a word, you should choose a way out for yourself.

Maybe I've seen enough, or maybe there's still a semester in grade three. She stopped studying, really not in high school. She really wants to go to vocational high school or live the life I said. She was imprisoned at home for three years and didn't go anywhere.

Maybe she was really scared, or she really woke up. I really didn't use any special tricks and theories.

Because in these two and a half years, in order to teach her well and make her love reading and learning, I am looking for a way from reality to virtual world. I tried on her, but it didn't work.

In the winter vacation of the third grade, she volunteered to go to cram school. She said that she still wanted to go to high school and then go to college.

But at this time, I have no confidence in her. For more than two years, she has always vowed and never did it. I'm afraid of wasting money, energy and effort again.

But her father is very excited and willing to trust her again.

I had to help her find a cram school with a complicated mentality of expectation and fear.

Maybe it really came to the most critical moment, and Eva was forced to make a final effort, and she had no way out. The effect of "I want to learn, I want to learn" is really different Make up lessons one-on-one in winter vacation, plus study hard every day after returning home.

After returning to school, the monthly exam ranking rose by 100, and the teacher praised her by name.

For the next few months, I had one-on-one tutoring every Wednesday night. Although the monthly exam ranking fluctuated, it rose to the middle.

A few months later, the results of the senior high school entrance examination came out. She was actually the highest score in all previous junior high school exams, with a comprehensive score of B+

This super scum has finally been admitted to high school, and he can also go to a model high school.

Now that Eva is working, things have changed. When I asked her about her mental state, she was willing to speak frankly.

Why is junior high school so tired of learning?

The connection between junior high school and senior high school is not good, and suddenly several courses are added, which deepens the English level of Chinese mathematics. If you can't keep up, the more you learn, the less confident you are.

If you lose confidence, your grades will be poor.

If your grades are not good, your ranking will be ugly.

If the ranking is ugly, it will make people feel inferior.

When people feel inferior, they want to escape, are unwilling to associate with others, and like to indulge in their own world (fantasy novel).

Such a vicious circle, until the third day, there is no way out and no escape, only to face.

Why don't you tell mom and dad these thoughts?

Who is not rebellious in junior high school, who doesn't have a little self-esteem, who tells his parents everything he thinks. So the more you ask why you refuse to study, the more I refuse to say.

Besides, at that time, I felt that I was old enough to solve my own problems. I naturally don't want to ask my parents for help!

Only then did I know what pits I had gone into to raise my baby happily.

First, it is a bit late to attach importance to learning.

In order to give her a happy childhood, primary school does not attend any cram school, and generally does not stare at her. This is a pit and should be avoided as follows:

1. Before the fourth grade of primary school, we should instill the important concept of learning through games.

2. It is conditional for children in grades five and six to play, and they can play as many learning tasks as possible.

3. Don't take her to travel around and do the so-called "last" relaxation during the sixth grade junior high school holiday. Instead, spend most of her time helping her get familiar with the junior high school curriculum so that she won't be so passive in junior high school.

Second, when the child is facing setbacks for the first time, help her in time.

At the first parent-teacher meeting, the teacher kept me in detention and went home to scold her for disliking me. Deformation from loving mother, this is a pit and should be avoided like this:

1. I should criticize less, analyze the problem for her euphemistically, and find a way for her.

If you believe in yourself too much, you can tutor her. This is not right. It is more effective to find extracurricular remedial classes.