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In today's society, if you want to praise a woman, no matter how you praise her, as long as you don't use the adjective "beautiful", the woman will think: Is he saying that I am ugly? Woolen cloth?

But in ancient times, if you complimented a woman on her beauty, the woman would secretly whisper: Is he implying that I am not virtuous?

The ancients believed that the most important thing for a woman is to be virtuous. As long as you are virtuous, "Although you are stupid in talent and stupid in nature, and your family is poor and ugly, you should not hinder your virtuousness." Being a little stupid, a little stupid, a little poor in your family, and a little ugly will not prevent you from marrying home as a wife.

Why were the ancients so unaesthetic?

The reason they gave is simple: marrying an unworthy wife will ruin three generations.

If a man marries an unvirtuous wife, will he destroy three generations of his family? Is it that serious? Which three generations does this "three generations" refer to? The first is the parents’ generation.

The parents worked hard to raise their son. After the son got married and started a family, the parents also grew old, and it was time for the son and daughter-in-law to support him.

However, if her son marries an unvirtuous wife and she still wants her parents-in-law to serve her, how can she serve her parents-in-law with all her heart? It would be nice to receive less glares and less abuse. The second is the man himself.

There is a saying that "a virtuous wife brings few troubles to a husband". If you marry an unvirtuous wife, you will have conflicts with your brothers and sisters today, and you will scold your neighbors tomorrow... What do you think you should do as a husband? manage?

Just focus on your wife, how can you get along with your brothers, sisters, and neighbors? But if you don't care about your wife, how can you live this life? Finally, there is the generation of children.

"Shangshu" says that "father is righteous, mother is kind, and son is filial". Parents are often the most ready role models for their children. Moreover, in ancient times, there was a division of labor in the family where "men took charge outside and women took charge inside", so for children, the mother's role was often more important than that of the father.

If the wife is not virtuous and the children follow her example, it can be said that their lives have been ruined before they even begin.

In fact, if a woman is not virtuous, she will hurt herself the most.

Just imagine, her father-in-law and mother-in-law have great objections to her, and her husband has been alienated from relatives and friends by her. If her children also follow her example, how can she have a good life?

So, when we choose to be kind to others and be a better person, in the final analysis, it is for ourselves. This is the principle of "treat others well, and others will treat you well".