There are no permanent friends or permanent enemies in the world, only permanent interests. The essence of human interaction is actually the exchange of interests. If you don’t understand the principle of exchange of interests and keep all the benefits to yourself, then even your amazing talent will be reduced to a useless piece of paper!

If you are too sharp, you will have no food to eat - this is the advice written with blood and brains by the ancestors who have fallen down! Anyone who wants to do great things should practice the skill of "hiding the dew". Be wise when you are wise, and be foolish when you are foolish. When necessary, it is wise to even pretend to be an "imbecile" or a "confused person".

From an alternative perspective, the human nature of hating the poor and loving the rich drives social development. If everyone likes poverty and backwardness, then who is willing to engage in manual labor? Who wants to engage in intellectual creativity? Where do you get food, clothing, shelter, and food? In this way, society will stagnate or even regress! Therefore, we should regard hating the poor and loving the rich as a normal social phenomenon.

Why should others give you their hard-earned lunch? In other words, would you give someone else your hard-earned lunch? If you think it's not possible, then why do you believe others can do it? Therefore, instead of placing unfounded hopes on others, it is better to work hard yourself and earn your own lunch!

Faced with those people who are taciturn and secretive about their emotions and anger, we need to be very cautious in what we say and do, and we must not be in a hurry to expose our trump cards to them. These people are often very sophisticated and scheming. If you don’t think things through in your words and actions, it’s easy for them to catch you and take advantage of you!

Most relatives and friends can only share hardships, but cannot enjoy blessings alone. Between bosses and employees, most of them can only enjoy blessings together, but they cannot avoid suffering.

People are not afraid of not being smart, but they are afraid of being too smart. If you are too smart, you will be blind, arrogant, ignorant, and forgetful. At this time, people who seem to be very smart are actually half fools!

The vast majority of those who suffer disaster in ancient and modern times are shrewd people. People nowadays are afraid that they cannot be extremely shrewd. This is stupidity.

When a beautiful woman shows off her beauty, she begins to look ugly. When a smart person shows off his intelligence, he starts to look stupid! A talented person starts to become worthless when he shows off his talent!

Those who work in official circles must be careful and pay attention at all times. Even if you have been glorious for most of your life, if you make a big mistake in the end, your life may be ruined. Life is so amazing. Being a human being is like farming, and the final harvest is the criterion for evaluation.

“What you get depends on what is above; The effect achieved may only be mid-stream; if you expect only mid-stream at the beginning, the final effect achieved can only be low-stream; if you expect only low-stream, you may get nothing in the end.

On some special occasions, some smart people take the initiative to give up the leading role to others, while they are willing to play the supporting role. This is not a failure, it can even be said to be a strategic victory. What he gave up was just the false reputation of a protagonist, but what he won was real benefits.

For a Chinese, life is as precious as face. If you give him enough face, he will give you everything! But if you hurt his face and self-esteem, he will hate you to the bone and push you completely against him!

Don’t criticize others in an emotional way, pay special attention to discussing things as they happen, and avoid evaluating other people’s personality, interests, and family upbringing. If you can propose solutions when criticizing, it will be more constructive, and at the same time, you should not forget to recognize the strengths of others. In addition, if humorous language can be used when criticizing, the effect will often be better.

It is everyone’s weakness to like to listen to sweet talk, and anyone can easily be fooled. Almost all women in the world like to hear sweet words, and many women marry the wrong person precisely because of men's sweet words.

The best emotional investment technique is to provide help when needed, rather than icing on the cake.

No matter how unpleasant the other party’s words are, we must let the other party finish his words and listen to what he really wants to express.

God always loves those who are silent and forbearing. We don’t have to be jealous when we see the beauty of others when we are young.

As long as you persevere in doing things and be positive and conscientious, everyone will usher in their own success!

If you want to catch a fish, you have to think like a fish. No matter how much you like strawberries, the fish will ignore it; only the earthworms that the fish likes as bait will take the bait.

A person who is kind to others should not keep it in mind, nor publicize it for others to praise. Then even a bushel of millet can be rewarded with thousands of bushels. A person who helps others with money but always asks others to repay him will hardly get a penny of merit even if he pays ten thousand taels of gold.

There is such a classic formula: Desire-Strength = Degree of Pain. When desire far exceeds strength and cannot be realized no matter what, it is the time when a person is in the most pain, and it is easy for him to go crazy.

A person is often the most dangerous when he is in a happy mood.

Where the path is narrow, leave one step with people; when the taste is strong, reduce it by three points for others to taste. ?

1. Share it with everyone. Because he got delicious food, his friends all liked him and supported him. From this moment on, he stood out among his peers and became a well-deserved leader of this small group, and would become a person with strong appeal in the future.

2. Keep it to yourself. As if no one else was around, he stuffed it all into his mouth and ate it. The pastry is his, no problem. But everyone regarded him as a stingy guy, and no one would play with him in the future. He lost an opportunity to be a wolf in the team, and also lost the trust of the team, and turned into another narrow alley. If he grows along this trajectory, he will probably become an ordinary person in the future.

A casual choice can determine a person's life. After understanding this truth, will you still despise necessary sharing? You must know that not all things are met by narrow paths, but the brave will win. If you know how to share with others at the right time, everyone will benefit, and in the end you will be crowned the winner!

Getting along between people is often not a single-choice question - you or not, but multiple choices, which can be a win-win situation. Some people don't understand. They only know that the fish is dead or the net is broken. Either you die or I live. Examples of people fighting for fame and fortune and dying together often happen around us. Such people never realize that giving in when necessary can bring greater benefits to themselves.

There is a young civil servant who graduated from a prestigious school and is very talented. Wherever he goes, he carries with him the aura of giving advice to others. He feels that others are like useless ants and not worthy of comparison with him. "I have the strongest ability, so I should get the most." He always thinks this way. He does not share the benefits with his colleagues and takes the lead in everything.

What was the result? Colleagues in the department join forces and form an alliance to compete with this "outstanding talent". They work together to undermine him, hold him back, and cause him trouble at every turn. No matter how selfless and conscientious you are, we will not cooperate. . If a person is in such an environment, if he wants to accomplish something, it will be even harder than climbing to the sky!

In the end, of course this young man couldn’t do his job well. He ran into obstacles wherever he went. His talent was trapped in his belly and he couldn’t display it. He even had nowhere to complain! As a result, his boss scolded him, his colleagues showed no pity, and he did not leave a good impression in front of everyone. At this point, the chair assigned to him by his unit should be taken back.

I just want to monopolize the benefits but end up with nothing. Do you think it’s pitiful? There is a saying: "There are no permanent friends or permanent enemies in the world, only permanent interests." This sentence shows that the fundamental issue in the exchanges between countries and people is actually the distribution of interests. Understanding the distribution of benefits actually understands the nature of human nature and the truth of society.

There is a saying in "Cai Gen Tan": "Human sentiments are repeated, and the road of the world is bumpy. If you can't go where you want to go, you must know how to take a step back; if you can go where you want to go, you must make an extra three points of effort." This means that in the human world, The world is fickle and the road to life is bumpy. Where the road in life is difficult to navigate, you must know the truth of giving in; where you can pass, you must also provide three-point convenience to others, so that you can turn misfortune into good luck and everything will be smooth sailing.

Leaving one step and giving up three points not only leaves a way for others to survive, but is also an excellent way to expand interpersonal resources. If you give him one step today, he will give you two steps back tomorrow. This is equivalent to making a good friend and opening a convenient door to success in society.

If you don't understand the principle of equal benefit and take all the benefits to yourself, then even your amazing talent will be useless! If you learn some sharing principles and distribute the benefits to everyone so that everyone's psychology is balanced, everyone will definitely work together to help you succeed.

All successful "great people" understand this without exception. Most of them spend a lot of money to benefit the people who follow them, so they are desperate and go through fire and water. Even the most astute businessmen adhere to this philosophy. For example, if you have the ability to undertake a big project, you still need to work with partners to develop it, so as to show your magnanimity of "leaving one step ahead and giving up three points to your taste" and declaring that you are not the kind of person who would cut off people and make money and monopolize blessings. people.

This is exactly the case. It is the most dangerous thing to be self-reliant. Everyone has soup to drink, which is the way to be king! This way of life is the "hidden rule" that China has been pursuing for thousands of years. Whether a person understands this way of life determines whether a person's life will be bumpy or smooth!

The eagle stands as if sleeping, and the tiger moves as if it is sick. This is where it grabs and bites people. Therefore, a gentleman must be smart and not show off his talents, so that he can have the strength to shoulder great responsibilities.

The eagle stands as if it is asleep, and the tiger walks lazily and feebly as if it is seriously ill. In fact, this is their clever method of eating people. Therefore, truly smart people must not show off or reveal their talents, so that they can be able to do great things.

It is easy to lose food if you show too much edge - this is the advice written with the blood and brains of our ancestors who have fallen down! Unfortunately, many people just don't understand this. They think they are extremely smart and capable, and look at everyone as rubbish. Only they are a flower, and they don't take anything seriously. Such people are most likely to have nothing to eat, and may even lose their lives for it.

Everyone has heard the saying "If you don't show your real face, you will not show your real face", which means that a truly smart person has special skills but hides them. He will never show them off everywhere, but wait for the opportunity. A blockbuster. It’s good to be talented, but no matter how strong your ability is, you can’t just put it on your head and show it off all day long. Just like wealth, having money is certainly a good thing, but will you wear gold and silver and carry a money box to show off on the street every day?

Talent is the basis for a person's success. A talented person can get a lot of performance opportunities, but an incompetent person will not be successful no matter how public he or she is. But if a talented person shows off himself too much, suppresses the expression space of others, and harms the interests of others, he will inevitably arouse the unanimous jealousy of everyone. If it develops to this point, his future and career will be very dangerous, and he may be pulled down at any time!

Zhuge Ke in the late Three Kingdoms period was the son of Zhuge Liang's elder brother Zhuge Jin. Coming from a famous family, he had a strict upbringing. He showed quick thinking and extraordinary talent at a very young age. Everyone thought that his talent surpassed that of his father, Zhuge Jin. However, Zhuge Jin was not happy to have such a good son. Instead, he felt that Zhuge Ke would bring misfortune to the family. Why? Zhuge Jin said: "Ke is impatient and self-willed, and he likes to express himself too much, and his sharpness is too exposed, which will eventually lead to disaster." As his father expected, when Zhuge Ke grew up and took power, he acted arbitrarily and used his talents to dominate others. He believed that He was the best at everything and was arrogant. He eventually aroused public anger and was framed by ministers to kill him. His family was also annihilated.

In this world, talented but marginalized people can be seen everywhere. Their talent is like owning a famous sword passed down from generation to generation. They brag about it to everyone they meet, waving it around in their hands, for fear that others will not know about their amazing talent, and foolishly establish themselves as someone who everyone wants to beat. A living target. They couldn't see the fire pit at their feet and fell into it unknowingly.

Talent is like a double-edged sword that can hurt others as well as yourself, so you should use it carefully and keep it in its sheath. Many times, being too sharp will lead to jealousy and frame-up by villains. Anyone who wants to do great things should practice the skill of "hiding the dew". Hong Yingming said in "Cai Gen Tan": "When the article is used to its advantage, there is nothing special about it, it is just right." The same should be said for the use of wisdom. When it is used to its best advantage, it is just right. When you are wise, you are wise; when you are foolish, you are foolish. Foolishness is also a kind of wisdom. When necessary, it is wise to pretend to be an "imbecile" or a "confused person"