Pampering children, examples of parents doting on their children, doting

Doting on children is a traditional Chinese way of raising children, because children raised by doting lack independent character, which is in line with the Chinese way of thinking. .

Since ancient times, there has been a saying that "a loving mother loses her son". The so-called "loving mother" refers to a kind of excessive maternal love, that is, doting. Literally, the word "dotted" in doting means both excessive and drowning. To love children too much is to drown them. An ancient saying goes: "Although we say we love someone, we actually harm them; although we say we love someone, we actually hate them." This is the best explanation for the word "spoilt". Han Feizi has a saying: It is human nature not to love one's parents, but love may not always be cured. This means that there is no love between people as good as the love between parents for their children. But love alone may not necessarily educate good children.

There is a well-known example of parents doting on their children. It is said that in ancient China, there was a boy who had been doted on by his mother since he was a child. Before he was executed, he asked for another sip of his mother's milk. His mother untied her clothes to feed him. He, this young man bit off his mother's nipple in one bite. The boy bit off his mother's nipple because he hated his mother's doting and spoiling him.

Coincidentally, in the famous Aesop's fables, there is a story about parents doting on their children. A young criminal who stole was caught on the spot, his hands were tied, and he was led to the executioner. The mother who loved her child followed behind, beating her breast and crying. The son turned around and said he wanted to tell her what was in his heart. The mother came closer, but unexpectedly her son bit her ear off. The mother scolded her son for being unfilial and guilty of a crime, and bit off his mother's ear. The young criminal said: "If you had beaten me when I stole my classmate's writing board and gave it to you for the first time, how could I have become more and more courageous and be led to be executed?"

There is a fable in the book "An Introduction to Ancient and Modern Stories". In order to avoid disaster, the kingfisher began to build its nest high in the tree. After the chick hatched, it loved it very much. It was afraid that the chick would fall from the nest at a high place and die, so it moved the nest downwards. When the little kingfisher had feathers, which were very beautiful, it loved it even more. It became more and more afraid of the little kingfisher falling down, so it moved the bird's nest downward again, to a branch of a tree very close to the ground. In this way, the kingfisher was relieved. However, when a pedestrian passing by the tree found the little kingfisher, he raised his hand and took the little kingfisher away.

There is another story written by Balzac. The flour merchant Goriot pampered his daughter very much. He gave most of his property as a dowry so that his daughter could squeeze into the business world and live the luxurious life of a noble lady. In order to make his daughters happy, he paid off the debts of his daughters' lovers and helped his daughters commit adultery. However, after getting married, the daughters squeezed out the last bit of their father's pension and ruthlessly abandoned him like a squeezed lemon.

French educator Rousseau said: "Do you know what method you can use to make your child an unfortunate person? This method is to be obedient to him.

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