Love is between dynamic and static; Fate is between gathering and dispersing.
If love is an endless stream of water, then fate is a rippling stone thrown into the stream occasionally. If love is a beautiful scenery. Fate is a passer-by who occasionally visits the four places. People who are predestined friends will find that people who don't have a chance will let him miss thousands of Baidu.
When I met you, I fell very low into the dust, but my heart was happy. There will be a flower.
In Poisoning, Jie Chen said: All love is humble and has different weights! Because if you love someone and care about someone, there will be compromise, and compromise will naturally feel humble. In the reciprocal emotional relationship, this humility is mutual, and it is the effort and dedication of both men and women to an emotion.
Unfortunately, love in real life is not so reciprocal. When you love more and give more, you will find yourself humble!
3. Because I have loved, I am compassionate; Because you know, you are tolerant.
Maybe Irene is such a person. For Hu Lancheng, she only treats her with a merciful heart, so there is so much tolerance. It's just that I don't know if she really has the love she wants because of compassion. Love is not a kind of tolerance, let alone a kind of forbearance. Love is absolutely selfish, absolutely domineering, and definitely not a grain of sand. It's just a weakness of women's nature. Note that their love is mixed with too much connivance and connivance. Looking back, all the women who could not learn compassion left one by one. This is how Lin Daiyu died in a Dream of Red Mansions. It was a heart attack that took her life, not her care. Only a compassionate woman will dream of deceiving herself and others in the palace of love.
We can never go back!
Fate remains the same, but love is gone. This is the most touching, simple and sad sentence that Gu and Shen, lovers who have been separated for more than ten years, said when they reunited! The desolation of the world is included in it. This is also the ultimate personality of Zhang Ailing's novels: a word, a few words, is enough to lead to thousands of difficulties in the world, but the bitterness is still hard to say.
Because you think the days are coming day by day. Of course, it should be like this day by day. Yesterday, today and tomorrow should be no different. But once, when you put it down and turn around, everything will change completely. The sun goes down, and some people will be separated from you forever before it rises again.
Maybe every man has had two such women, and two are missing. Married a red rose, over time, the red has become a touch of mosquito blood on the wall, and the white is still the moonlight in front of the window; Married a white rose, the white is the glutinous rice on the clothes, and the red is the Zhu Shazhi in my heart.
This is the truest and most incisive description of men in Zhang Ailing's books. At first, most men liked elegant and beautiful white roses, whose bright fragrance was like Leng Xue in the mountains. Getting lost in this cold water is worth paying for a lifetime.
However, after being intoxicated and ecstatic, men gradually became dissatisfied. He began to want a happy and gorgeous dream, enchanting and colorful, swaying in the dusk of the month. Red roses are fragrant, spicy and charming.
In fact, the beauty of a woman has always contained thousands of faces, and not everyone can see it. In front of smart men, it will show you the most subtle colors in the world. It was pure white and brilliant red at that moment, revealing another sweet face. Such graceful flowers need deep-rooted love and the warmth of wisdom to be irrigated.
There are red roses and white roses in every woman's soul, but only a man who knows how to love can make the woman he loves more and more beautiful. Even white flowers as cold as starlight can be charming.
Unfortunately, there are too few men who know how to love!
6. Memories are always melancholy! Pleasant makes people feel that it is a pity that it is over; Unpleasant, it's still sad to think of it.
There are many things in this world that you think you can continue to do tomorrow. There are many people you think you will meet again, so when you put down your hand or turn around for a while, you only have the hope of meeting again tomorrow, and sometimes you can't even feel this hope!
7. Born in this world, there are no feelings that are not riddled with holes.
The so-called aestheticism only exists in the plot. Because it is not beautiful, we will strive to pursue it; Because it is not beautiful, let us know that there is another thing called hope. However, in fact, feelings cannot be greedy. "If someone thinks there is perfect love, he is either a poet or an idiot." Therefore, don't pursue perfection in courtship, just seek a true and down-to-earth love to cleanse your mood, which is the correct emotional state.
Time flies, especially for people after middle age. Ten years and eight years seems to mean taking care of their families. But for young people, three to five years can be a lifetime.
The former gained insight through the passage of time. The latter is brilliant and naive because of the years.
Husband and wife once loved each other so much that they had the courage to decide to spend their lives together. But after three years, five years, ten years and eight years, they will get tired of it. If they don't break up, they just live together like relatives. But if they are relatives, why should they be husband and wife? You don't have an answer, and neither do I. Similarly, neither does Zhang Ailing.
When I was a child, I liked listening to fairy tales, thinking that the prince and Cinderella were walking on the red carpet and everything was perfect. The beauty of the story, after stopping for time with people and consciously ignoring it, is decades of life. When I grew up, I found myself cheated. Fairy tales are beautiful, but the reality is cruel. Zhang Ailing told us that life is full of endless trifles, just like a gorgeous robe covered with countless hateful lice.
9. Is it worth loving you? In fact, you should know that love is not worth asking.
At the age of 23, Zhang Ailing once fell madly in love with a 38-year-old man, Hu Lancheng. He is a man with a wife and a complete traitor.
I believe that Zhang Ailing is naturally very clear about Hu Lancheng's character, personality and political stance, but she can't help falling into the abyss of love with Hu, which is also the abyss of her life's pain. A woman in love can't help herself, just as a smoker knows that smoking is harmful.
Therefore, love is blind, and there is no question of whether it is worth it. When you fall in love with someone, do you still think rationally? If so, it can only show that this is not love!
10. Once a woman falls in love with a man, it is like giving a woman a glass of poisoned wine. She is willing to drink it in the most beautiful posture, and all her heart is handed over. Life and death are out of her control!
And if a man falls in love with a woman, he finds the aura he has been looking for! He was intoxicated by the beauty of the halo, and he gave her a lot of tenderness. The woman was felt by the gentleness of the man and gave herself to the man without hesitation. Finally, this kind of aura is tightly set on yourself. ...
As time goes on, the gas field gradually becomes gloomy, and men's faces become old. With the aura, men have gradually matured and understood many things! But at the same time, he also felt that women were old and lost their former glory!
Good man: He knows that women's brilliance has been closely integrated into his life! This is a woman's luck!
Bad man: he will feel bored, easily peel off the aura from himself, and then dislike it! It is a woman's misfortune! This passage is so vivid and concrete that I always remember it.