Will you turn your phone on silent?

I tried it and it felt great.

The incessant ringing tone is gone,

The whole world is much quieter.

Silence your mobile phone and get a moment of quiet.

If you don’t want to be dominated by the noisy sounds from the outside world,

You must also learn to control your life. Switch to "silent" mode.

This is an information society.

People are often bombarded with information that makes them dizzy.

I am reminded of the words of Marco, a professor at Emory University in the United States. :

"One of the signs of a person's maturity

is to understand the 99 things that happen around us every day.

It is important to us and others. It’s meaningless.”

This is so true.

Look back at the powerful people around you.

They have already adjusted their lives. Silent mode,

and understand the true meaning of the word "quiet".

Listen selectively and shut up when appropriate.

When you don’t understand, speak less. When you understand, speak less.

From beginning to end, follow your own pace,

Just live that life.

01

Listen quietly: Be calm and ignore the noise

Mr. Yang Jiang said:

"We once looked forward to the recognition of the outside world so much,

Only in the end did we know:

The world belongs to us and has nothing to do with others. "

Want to understand With this, most of the worries are reduced.

In the past, I longed for recognition,

but no matter what I did,

there were always people who didn’t like it and were dissatisfied.

When you have some small achievements, you are questioned and jealous;

When you are down, you are ridiculed and looked down upon.

How many times have I felt at a loss because of these words?

I even reflected on whether I was really bad.

Only after a long time did I understand that

This world is like this, human nature is complicated,

No one can make everyone Everyone is satisfied.

Instead of caring about what others say, it is better to be brave enough to be yourself.

Just like Forrest Gump in the movie "Forrest Gump",

He has an IQ of only 75 and is taciturn.

But he never takes the ridicule from the outside world seriously. The same thing,

I kept following the voice in my heart,

I ran all the way to become a rugby superstar, a Vietnam War hero,

a table tennis diplomat, a billionaire Millionaire...

Some people say that Forrest Gump is just lucky.

In fact, luck is only part of it.

What’s more important is that he always only focuses on Self,

Those suggestions and ridicules have long been closed by him.

If you feel too tired, it is better to press the mute button,

Isolate all the noise and well-intentioned suggestions,

In a silent world, listen to the true inner voice and find your own direction.

Just as Shi Tiesheng said in "Broken Pens in the Sickness":

"The meaning of life is not to seek outward,

but to seek inward. Establish. ”

02

Shut up: Silence is golden, do more and talk less

Mr. Wen Yiduo said:

The quietest person in a group is often the most powerful.

One day, Confucius was chatting with several disciples,

Let everyone talk about their ambitions,

As soon as he finished speaking, Zilu blurted out,

Confucius talked about many ways of governing the country eloquently.

After hearing this, Confucius smiled slightly but did not say a word.

Afterwards, Fang said:

"For The country is polite and does not give in, so it is said."

It's a good talk, but it's not cool.

In dealing with people, Confucius

always emphasized "be quick in action but cautious in words".

Be careful in speaking, meaning to think twice before speaking.

Jia Pingwa once wrote in an article:

"A monk once taught me the secret of achieving great things:

Keep your heart in one place and keep your mouth shut. ”

What does it mean to keep your mouth shut?

Lu Yao also said:

"The real warriors in life are always unknown.

The ones who keep making noise are always the ones who think they are noble. "

A wise person takes care of his mind when he is alone.

He takes care of his mouth when there are many people.

A truly powerful person has long learned to shut up at the right time. Mouth.

03

Controlling emotions: balancing emotions, not expressing sadness and joy

After struggling for life and suffering all kinds of grievances,

I also wanted to find someone to talk to and seek comfort.

Over time, I finally understood:

There is no real empathy between people.

Thinking of Mrs. Xianglin in "Blessing",

Her life was extremely miserable,

The only light in life was He Laoliuhe After her sons passed away one after another,

she was in agony and told her misfortune over and over again.

At first, people offered sympathy and comfort, but as time went by,

even " The most merciful old ladies who chanted Buddha’s name no longer had any trace of tears in their eyes.”

Lu Xun had more to say about this. Profound words:

Nine times out of ten things in life will not go as planned.

There are only two or three people who can talk to others.

Everyone has their own difficulties.

There are many worries that others cannot help you at all.

You can only heal yourself.

Martin once said on the show:

Being able to control your emotions is wisdom,

Being able to stay calm is skill,

Being able to hide things is a pattern.

A great person only does what he does but doesn’t show off.

04

Really powerful people

have already put their lives in silent mode

Liang Shiqiu said :

Strong people have long stopped looking outside.

They cultivate themselves deeply within.

After the writer Su Tong's work was made into a movie,

his reputation increased and visitors came in an endless stream,

But he was very calm,

"The prosperity outside the door is not my prosperity.

I am a person who lives an indoor life.

It has always been quiet, but it is even quieter now."

Strong people have stronger concentration and rarely change their original intentions due to circumstances.

Zhuangzi said: "The great beauty of heaven and earth cannot be spoken."

The creek is gurgling, and the sea accepts hundreds of rivers but is silent.

Truly powerful people seldom make noise.

They have already put their lives into silent mode.

Don’t listen to noisy gossip, don’t talk useless nonsense,

Put down useless social interactions, stay away from false friends,

Cultivate a sense of tranquility, Live a simple life.

For the rest of your life, turn on silent mode for your life,

Listen quietly, shut up, control your emotions,

Ignore the complexity and focus self.