Someone once asked: Why do people become more silent when they experience more?

The most impressive answer is: It's only after going through the world that I realize that some people have nothing to say and some people have nothing to say.

Zhang Xiaoxian once said: There are always thousands of kinds of pain, and silence is the best cure.

in life, there are always ups and downs.

the more hardships, the more growth; The more you grow up, the more silent you are.

The real wise man has already given up his emotions in life, and he has mastered the way to deal with hardships: the more chaotic he is, the more he needs to keep quiet, and the more difficult it is to remain silent.

after half a life, we know that "silence" is the best armor to protect our growth.

writer Xiao Xiao Yifan once said: "The so-called cultivation is not as simple as beautiful words, but an elegant cultivation that knows how to shut up at the right time and take care of others' faces."

that's true.

in life, everyone has moments of embarrassment, and it is a person's cultivation to see through it without making people embarrassed.

In the TV series The Awakeing Age, Li Dazhao's wife Zhao Renlan is a cultured woman.

After Li Dazhao became the director of Peking University Library, his life gradually stabilized, so he took Zhao Renlan and the children to Beijing for reunion, and the family finally got together neatly.

On this day, Li Dazhao decided to take his family to a restaurant to eat instant-boiled mutton. When this statement came out, the children jumped for joy.

when the family was ready to go out, Li Dazhao's students rushed in and wanted to ask the teacher to vouch for them about the delay in paying tuition fees.

when Li Dazhao asked what happened, he waved his hand and said, "What's the guarantee? I'll pay the five dollars for you."

It's really embarrassing: Li Dazhao rummaged through the drawers at home and only found two oceans.

It turned out that he forgot that he had just helped the workers in Changxindian, and there was no extra money in his hand.

Zhao Renlan, who stood by without saying a word, took out three pieces of ocean and gave them to the students, which relieved her husband's immediate embarrassment.

After the students left, she turned into the kitchen, put on an apron and began to make noodles for the children.

She knew that this instant-boiled mutton meal was doomed to be postponed because of Li Dazhao's forgetfulness.

Some things are only suitable for seeing; Some words are only suitable for hiding in your heart.

Zhao Renlan silently maintained her husband's image in the eyes of students and children.

This gentleness like a spring breeze has enabled them to cross the gap between age and thought. In such troubled times, they joined hands warmly and moved forward firmly.

Being alive, knowing how to think of others is the greatest kindness of people; Keeping the governor quiet is a person's best accomplishment.

It's not that people are poor in words, but wise. Not cowardice, but maturity.

there is a kind of cultivation, which calls people to mind their own business.

People should keep their minds behind them

It is said that people who have experienced life and death will understand the meaning of living better, and they will be more able to follow their original heart and expand the width of life.

Hugh is such a man who has gone through the vicissitudes of the world but still has his original heart, and has never stopped walking after seeing the ebb and flow of the tide.

More than ten years ago, Hugh became a big hit with the role of "Li Xiaoyao" in The Legend of the Sword and the Chivalrous Man, and he was a brilliant young man in the entertainment circle at that time.

Its handsome appearance is even praised by people at that time as "a stranger is like jade, and a son is unparalleled in the world".

But a sudden car accident shattered Hugh's fate: his face was badly damaged, his body was badly damaged, and his performing career came to an abrupt end.

once, how beautiful he was in the eyes of others; At that time, how desperate he was lying in the hospital bed.

Hugh once said frankly: "For a long time, I didn't have the courage to look directly at the scarred face in the mirror, and I couldn't look down on the people around me, let alone how to face the cynicism of the world."

finally, he figured it out: "I can't go back to my face, but I can't get it." Life is a rare practice. Since you have lived, you will not live in vain. "

a person's real life after a robbery is to be loyal to his heart, let his fate struggle to nirvana, and finally return with honor.

After that, Hugh adjusted his mentality, slowly repaired his injured skin, and continued to fill his increasingly full soul.

He read, traveled, filmed and did public welfare, and finally came back with a scar, but he was braver, calmer and more persistent.

In the Golden Eagle Festival in 216, Hugh won the most popular actor award for nirvana in fire.

When someone asked Hugh how he was so lucky to become popular for the second time, he smiled brightly and said, "It's really lucky.

Maybe my original intention is very simple, that is,' to be an ordinary actor, to act in a down-to-earth manner and live quietly'. "

only when you know your way can you know your way home.

Hugh, through the ups and downs of life, kept his true heart and reflected on the past, and finally achieved himself.

"People guard their hearts after others" is a state: wake up clearly and be a man, and do things clearly.

it's a kind of practice to guard the heart after others: even if you are alone, you should keep working hard; Even if the world is troubled, it is necessary not to be confused.

people should not lose their true colors after their predecessors.

Only those who don't lose their true colors after their predecessors can live a comfortable and calm life.

In the Grand View Garden, Xing Xiuyan went from being despised by everyone to being unloved by everyone, and finally she became a "nothing in the world" because she "didn't talk about human affairs in disorder with everyone".

Xing Xiuyan is from a poor family, so her parents can only take her to her aunt, the wife of Jia She, the master of Rong Guo Fu.

It can be predicted that the image of Xing's father and daughter having an autumn wind will be despised by everyone, and the life after entering the government will not be easy.

But fate is the most deceptive thing, and my aunt is not the one to lean on.

She is unkind and ungrateful. After she married into a rich family, her life was not comfortable, and she dared not use her husband's family resources to plan her niece's future.

Therefore, Xing Xiuyan's life situation has not been much improved since he entered Jiafu.

Life is still difficult, but Xing Xiuyan keeps a true heart and is neither humble nor humble.

Many servants in the Jia family are very snobbish, and bullying poor relatives like her is always unscrupulous.

When dealing with this group of wealthy people, Xing Xiuyan neither asks for trouble by asking for three drinks and four drinks, nor complains because he is worshipped high and trampled low.

instead, she often takes some money from her meager self to buy them wine and meat, and intercedes when Xifeng punishes the woman who steals winter clothes.

Pinger lost her shrimp bracelet in Lu Xue 'an, and a woman rushed to identify it: "I'm poor, but I'm afraid I haven't seen it in my children's house, and I still have it when I picked it up ..."

At that time, I just pointed at Xing Liyan's nose and said that it was stolen by a maid beside her.

Ke Xingyan doesn't feel inferior, doesn't make excuses, and just calmly waits for the result of the inquiry.

In the end, it was found out that Zhui Er, the maid of Yee Hong Yuan, stole it.

a truly wise person can always take it lightly and not be tired of worldly opinions.

Because they understand that there is no life that is not wronged, just keep the truth and be yourself, and everything has its own arrangements.

Xing Xiuyan abides by the principle of "if there is no right and wrong in her eyes, she is a free man", and insists on being a true man before and after others, so she finally lives in faithful wife and becomes the girl with the best ending in the Grand View Garden.

life is not like this.

if you don't talk about trifles, you won't be entangled in business; If you don't discuss other people's right and wrong, you won't come to the door.

a true wise man has no right and wrong in his eyes, but a good sense in his chest.

because they know that everyone who doesn't talk about human affairs is nothing in the world.

Why should people learn to be silent?

the fairest answer is: silence in front of the weak is kindness, and silence in front of the strong is respect; Silence is awe in a strange field, and modesty in a familiar field.

It's true: Kan Kan's talk is appearance, and silence is the normal state of life.

to remain silent is not to compromise the world, but to face life with an open mind.

Just like the dialogue between Han Shan and Shi De that shocked the past and the present:

"There are people in the world who slander me, insult me, belittle me and belittle me. How can they handle it?"

"Just bear with him, let him go, avoid him, endure him, and ignore him. In a few years, you can see him. "

after half a life, I finally understand that the hardest thing in life is to learn to be silent.

When lovers talk, silence can effectively resolve the deadlock;

when you are speechless, silence can quickly get rid of difficulties;

when the victory is in hand, silence can make people respect.

this is the power of silence!

*** encouragement.