I think it's unforgivable. Domestic violence is unforgivable. Generally, the victims of domestic violence choose to forgive for the following reasons: First, before committing violence, the perpetrators will constantly criticize the victims, repeatedly emphasize the faults of the victims (although such faults may not exist), rationalize their violent behavior, and put the victims in a mental and physical "control", thinking that they can't escape, and will be retaliated if they don't choose to forgive. Second, because the victim may depend on the abuser economically or emotionally, and feel that he can't live without the abuser, he constantly chooses to forgive. In addition, the perpetrator of domestic violence will have a characteristic, that is, whenever he commits violence, he will make a "sincere" apology to the victim, or promise that he won't do it again, so as to get the victim's forgiveness. This pattern of "slapping a candy" may appear repeatedly, and the reason why the victim chooses to forgive may be due to a "gambler's fallacy" mentality, thinking that because one thing has happened many times before, he will pick it up. Just like gamblers gambling, although they always lose, they think they will win next time, and forgiveness by domestic abusers is also a kind of "gambling". They think that the abuser will correct it and it will not happen again next time, so they forgive. Domestic violence is illegal. Domestic violence infringes on the life, health and personal dignity of family members, which will cause their death, serious injury, minor injury, physical pain or mental pain. There are only zero and unlimited domestic violence. Both men and women who encounter domestic violence should actively use social resources and properly preserve evidence. Most of these cases were not recognized as domestic violence because of insufficient evidence. For the sake of face or children, some women silently endure and swallow their voices after suffering from domestic violence, and rarely think of retaining evidence. Only when the victims can't bear it at last will they think of litigation. Therefore, when encountering domestic violence, you should say "NO" at the first time and collect and preserve evidence at the first time. Domestic violence is illegal, even criminal. Persistent and frequent domestic violence can constitute the crime of maltreatment, causing serious injury or death, and even the crime of intentional injury or intentional homicide. The injured party can also request a divorce, and domestic violence is one of the legal reasons for divorce and divorce damages. If the injured party, as the plaintiff, files a claim for damages with the people's court on the grounds of domestic violence, it must do so at the same time as the divorce proceedings. If the injured party, as the defendant, is unwilling to divorce and does not claim divorce damages, he may file a separate lawsuit.