"The tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop; the child wants to be raised but cannot be kissed" was first published in "Confucius Family Sayings". This book records a story:

Confucius was traveling and heard someone crying very sadly. When he got closer, he saw that it was a gāo fish. Confucius asked him why he was crying, and Gaoyu answered his three faults, including what we are going to talk about today: "The tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop; the child wants to be nourished but the mother does not wait for him". Gaoyu said that when he was young, he traveled around the world in order to study, which delayed the time to support his parents. But now, even if I want to honor them, they are already gone!

Gaoyu’s answer is full of the sense of the impermanence of the world and the cruelty of time, which is really disappointing!

Similarly, the story of "the tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, and the son wants to support but does not want to be loved" that happened to the disciple Zilu of Confucius, I believe it will also make everyone deeply moved:

< p>In the past, when You (Zilu, courtesy name Zhongyou) was serving his second relative, he often ate terrestris (lí huò) (referring to crude food), but he had to live hundreds of miles away for his relative. After his death, he traveled south to Chu, where he took hundreds of chariots and accumulated thousands of grains of grain. Sitting down tired of wormwood, rowing the cauldron and eating, I wish I could never get it again when I eat terrestris and bear the burden of rice.

Confucius’ disciple Zilu was very filial to his parents. But when he was a child, his family was very poor and had no rice. Zilu felt that he would eat almost as much as he could, but he was afraid that his parents would not be nourished enough and would be in poor health. Therefore, he resolutely ran hundreds of miles away to buy rice, and then carried it home to his parents to eat. He endured severe cold and scorching heat all year round, and never complained.

Later, his parents passed away, and Zilu was reused by the King of Chu. "You can ride hundreds of chariots and accumulate millennia of millet. You can sit on the grass and eat on the cauldron." You can enjoy endless splendor and wealth. But he didn't feel happy. Because his parents are no longer here. How much he wished his parents could live a good life with him, but now, even if he wanted to support his parents hundreds of miles away, it would never be possible.

Gao Yu, Zi Lu’s deeds of “the tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, the son wants to be raised but the relatives do not wait for him”, I believe that every child has “feelings and sorrows”. They are like a wake-up call to warn today's people: filial piety comes first among all good deeds, and filial piety must be done promptly! You should take advantage of the time you have to honor your parents, and don't regret it after losing them.

In fact, in addition to Gao Yu and Zi Lu, there were many great Confucian scholars, poets, and writers in ancient times who also revealed in their works that "the tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop; the child wants to be nourished but the relatives do not wait" This helpless feeling about fate. Here are some excerpts:

During the Wei and Jin Dynasties, Ji Kang, the spiritual leader of the "Seven Sages in the Bamboo Grove", wrote "Poems of Missing Family":

I am so sad and bored. I feel so sad and my heart is twitching.

So sad and sad. The feeling is so depressed that it cannot be resolved.

I am alone and alone. I mourned inside and lost my voice.

Thinking of repaying virtue is gone. Feelings of love are falling apart.

Sorrow: sadness. Yan: suddenly. Loss of support: refers to the loss of mother ("The Book of Songs Polygonum": "If you don't have a father, how can you be a parent? If you don't have a mother, how can you rely on it?"). Miao: far. Juyu: refers to nurturing. ("Poetry Polygonum": "My father gave birth to me, my mother bowed me, picked me up as an animal, grew me and nurtured me." Mao Zhuan: "Ju means raising me.")

My mother has already Now that she is gone, the only thing I can do is write poems to remember her. This sentence "Thinking about repaying virtue is already gone. Feeling about love and nurturing, the love is torn apart" expresses the deep regret of "the son wants to be raised but the relatives don't wait".

Mei Yaochen, the great poet of the Song Dynasty, wrote the scene in "Ning Ling Blocks the Wind and Rain and Sent the Family to the Capital", which describes the scene before the death of a loving mother who fell ill, which moved people to tears:

Yu Sheng Wu Twelve, relieve the worry of being an official.

Yesterday, my mother was seriously ill, and my flesh and blood were worried about each other.

If there is no money in the bag, how can we seek help in a hurry?

When my mother was dying, she told me not to be ashamed of being poor.

It is appropriate to have a coffin and a generous loan to support the head.

Death will be of no use, and life will be unreasonable.

Weeping and listening to mother's words, my heart is like a hook.

Although the boy doesn't obey, will he be rewarded for his kindness?

Jieguan: resign from official position. Urgent (jí): Urgent. 搐 (tuó): pocket. Urgent: emergency. Suiyi: hastily. Gouge (wān) hook: dig with a hook. Bu Ling: Unworthy. Long-term nurturing kindness and reward: How to repay the nurturing kindness?

The loving mother saw her frustrated son dejected. Before she died, she still taught her earnestly: "It doesn't matter if you are a little poor. Don't be ashamed." Her son had already burst into tears. My mother is about to pass away. Even if I become successful in the future, what’s the point of not being with my mother who has always encouraged and supported me? I have never allowed my mother to live a happy life for a day. "Long-lasting nurturing kindness will be rewarded?" How should I repay this deep nurturing kindness?

There is also the song "Hucheng Temple" written by Li Lu in the Song Dynasty, which describes his emotions when he heard the bad news of his mother's death:

How miserable the sky is, how frost suddenly flies in the middle of summer.

How can I use this body to take away my loving mother?

There is no time to think about the white clouds, and there is no time to play again.

How can we repay the glory of spring when we hate and shed blood?

A sudden frost in midsummer: refers to a major change. Bai Yun read: Yu misses relatives. "The Biography of Di Renjie in the Old Book of Tang Dynasty": "His relatives lived in Heyang. Renjie went to Bingzhou and climbed Taihang Mountain. Looking south, he saw white clouds flying alone. He said to his left and right: 'My relatives live under these clouds.' Looking around "Stand still for a long time, the clouds will move." Colorful Opera: Lao Laizi, a hermit from the Chu Kingdom in the Spring and Autumn Period, was seventy years old. He often wore colorful clothes and acted like a baby to entertain his relatives.

Later, "caixi" was used to refer to filial piety to parents. Chunhui: a metaphor for maternal love. Meng Jiao's "Wandering Son's Song": "Who can say that the heart of an inch of grass can repay three rays of spring?"

My mother passed away suddenly. How should I repay this spring breeze and rain? "There is no time to think about the white clouds, and there is no time to play again." The author is left full of sorrow.

Finally, there is a very touching poem about missing the mother and wet nurse:

"Dream of the nanny is like childhood"

Song Dynasty·Yao Mian

I recall the old days when I was a child, dressed in flowers, and my mother helped me get on the stage.

When he was two years old, he was still weaned from his mother's milk when he was studying. After studying, he still returned home in search of his mother's milk.

I lost Abao at the age of thirteen, and the weak and loving mother died early.

There is only one soul in the hall today, thinking about the garden Xuan and resenting the dew grass.

When the night comes, I suddenly have a dream like a child, Abao hugs his loving mother.

Is life peaceful and peaceful? Just before the baby cries.

Yi Baihua: Wearing Baihua clothes. This garment symbolizes wealth and prosperity, and a worry-free life. Cart: A car used for performances. Ru and Abao: both refer to wet nurses. You: It seems. The weak-crown loving mother dies early: When she was twenty years old, her mother died young. Amu, loving mother: both refer to mother. Lingchun: refers to the father. ("Zhuangzi·Xiaoyaoyou": "In ancient times, there were those who had a big tree, and eight thousand years was spring, and eight thousand years was autumn." Feng Dao of the Five Dynasties "Gift to Dou Shi": "Dou Shilang of Yanshan has a righteous way to teach his children. One tree of chun is old, five branches of osmanthus are fragrant. ") Tingxuan: Refers to the mother, here refers to both the mother and the wet nurse ("The Book of Songs·Bo Xi": "How can I get the xuān ("forget") grass, and talk about the tree. "Back." Zhu Xi noted: "Hemerocallis makes people forget their worries; back is also called Beitang." In ancient times, when wanderers traveled far away, they planted daylilies in Beitang first, hoping that mothers would lessen their longing for their children and forget their worries.) Dew grass: dew on grass is scarce and easy to dry. Metaphors are difficult to last (Du Fu: How can wealth be revealed?). Tong Dian: He had no hair and was bald when he was a child

The author dreamed of the happy scenes when he was living with his mother and wet nurse as a child, and uttered "Is life peaceful like Tong Dian? It's just a scene before a baby cries. "The sigh. It's a pity: now that both mothers have passed away young, where can such a happy life be found? I can only keep it in my memory forever.

Confucius said: "You must not know the age of your parents. One is happy, the other is fearful." The love given to parents cannot wait. I hope that every child in the world can respect their parents promptly and well. , never sigh like "the tree wants to be quiet but the wind doesn't stop, the child wants to be raised but the kiss doesn't wait".