The truth of being a man: How to be a man How to be a man This world doesn't belong to you, so you don't have to abandon it, all you have to abandon is persistence. Everything is for my use, not for my use. I would rather forgive others myself than let others forgive you. When you face things with troubles, you will feel that everything is karma and the world will become ugly and hateful. If you want to become a Buddha, if you want to become a dragon, you should be a sentient being first. Although we can't change the world around us, we should change ourselves and face it with compassion and wisdom. When you are upset, you should tell yourself that all this is false. What's bothering you? When you don't study Buddhism, you can't see anything When studying Buddhism, everything you want to see is smooth. Arrogance can be saved, but inferiority can't. Don't always be dissatisfied with others, but always review yourself. If you are dissatisfied with others, it is yourself who suffers. All evil laws are empty, so don't feel inferior. All good laws are vain, so don't be too arrogant. You should tolerate those who have different views from you, so that life will be easier. It will be painful for you if you keep trying to change him. Learn how to put up with him. You must learn how to tolerate him. To admit one's greatness is to admit one's ignorance. Practice is to correct your own misconceptions. Doctors can't cure the dead, and Buddha can't cross all beings who have no chance. If a person can't forgive others from the heart, he will never feel at ease. People who are full of their own opinions and ideas will never hear other people's voices. It takes only one word to destroy a person, but a thousand words to cultivate a person. Please have mercy. When you advise others, if you don't care about others' self-esteem, then no matter how good it is, it is useless. Don't confuse arrogance with your wisdom. Don't let your modesty lack wisdom. There's no need to look back at who cursed you. If a mad dog bites you, do you have to get down and bite back? Jealousy of others will not add any benefits to yourself. Envy of others does not reduce their achievements. Never waste a minute thinking about people you don't like. How many people will say the same thing when they leave this world? The world is really helpless and desolate! Love is not charity, you can't give it casually. Feelings have no formula, no principle and no reason to follow. But people are still insisting and pursuing until they die. Please speak out your dissatisfaction and grievances with sympathy and gentleness, and others will accept them easily. People who create opportunities are brave. He who waits for an opportunity is a fool. It is not true wisdom to say that you can't do it. Listen carefully to what others say, and don't express your opinions in a hurry. Why did you put the poison in the same bottle? The same psychology, why are you full of troubles? If you can't get it, we will always think that he is beautiful, because you know too little about him and have no time to get along with him. One day, when you know it better, you will find that it is not as beautiful as you think. There is only smoothness in this world, not perfection. Practice should be patient, willing to be indifferent and willing to be lonely. Living for a day is a blessing, so cherish it. When I cried that I had no shoes to wear, I found that someone had no feet. The more you care about others, the less you care about yourself, understand? Don't open your eyes so wide. Let me ask you, in a hundred years, it will be yours. If you want to know the sword robbery in the world, you can only listen to the butcher's door at midnight. Don't just blame yourself for being ill, but look at how many sentient beings have died by your sword. It is a great loss to hate others. Everyone has a life, but not everyone knows life and even cherishes it. Life is a punishment for people who don't understand life. People suffer from pursuing the wrong things. It is not so much that others make you suffer, but that you are not cultivated enough. If you don't give yourself trouble, others will never give you trouble. Because of my heart, I can't let go. Discipline yourself and leave others alone. If you don't forgive all beings, you will suffer yourself. Don't say that others are pitiful, and you are even more pitiful. Practice by yourself? What do you know about life? Learning Buddhism is a confession of one's conscience, not for others to see. People who are not blessed often hear right and wrong; Those who have enough blessings have never heard of right or wrong. Practice takes a little effort. If you practice in prosperity, you will never become a Buddha. You should always thank all beings who have given you adversity. Accept your fate at all times, because you are human. You should always forgive all beings, no matter how bad they are, even if they have hurt you, you must let go to get real happiness. The world is inherently painful, without exception. When you are happy, you should think that this happiness is not eternal. When you are in pain, you should think that this pain is not eternal. Only by knowing yourself, surrendering yourself and changing yourself can we change others. Persistence today will cause regret tomorrow. You can have love, but don't be persistent, because separation is inevitable. Don't waste your life where you will regret it. If you put it down, there will be no worries. If there is no separation in the heart, it is true asceticism. The first concept of learning Buddhism is never to look at the faults of all beings. When you see the faults of all beings, you will always pollute yourself, and it is impossible for you to practice. If you see the faults and right and wrong of all beings every day, then you should repent quickly. This is an exercise. People with deep karma are always looking at the shortcomings and deficiencies of others. A true man of practice never looks at the shortcomings and deficiencies of others. Every kind of trauma is a kind of maturity. It is not pitiful to know when you are confused, but it is most pitiful when you don't know when you are confused. People who think they have wealth are actually owned by wealth. Emotional attachment is the cause of distress. Only by letting go of your emotional attachment can you feel at ease. Fate is not to muddle along, but to leave it to fate as much as possible. Don't be too sure of your opinion, so you will have fewer regrets. When you are honest with yourself, no one in the world can cheat you. It is shameful to cover up your shortcomings by hurting others. People in the world are responsible for the law. The yogi is responsible for cause and effect. When you are poor, you can use your body to give alms, such as sweeping the floor, sprinkling water and moving things. This is also a charity. A person who is full of jealousy, dishonest and incorrect in speech can't be regarded as an upright official. Silently caring for and blessing others is an invisible charity. Tell more jokes and handle things with humor, and life will be easier. The way to get along with others lies in infinite tolerance. Don't try to guess what others think. If there is no correct judgment with wisdom and experience, mistakes will usually be made. To understand a person, we only need to see whether his starting point and destination are consistent, so we can know whether he is sincere or not. The truth of life is hidden in the plain. People who don't take a shower will not smell good if they wear perfume hard. Fame and honor come from real talent and knowledge. Germany is naturally fragrant. It is better to accept it than to reject it as a fact. This is called resignation. Buddha and Bodhisattva only bless those who are willing to help themselves. Adversity is a necessary process of growth, and those who dare to accept adversity will become stronger and stronger. You should thank the person who told you your shortcomings. People who can think of others will never be lonely. If you can find your own shortcomings as accurately as others, then your life will be extraordinary. To forgive others is to leave room for manoeuvre in your heart. Time will always pass, let time flow away your troubles! If you insist on taking simple things seriously, you will be very painful. There is no cure for those who always distort the goodwill of others. People are not bad, just habits. Everyone has habits, but the depth is different. As long as he has a right heart, forgive him if he can, and don't treat him as a bad person. If you tell a lie, you have to make up a lie to make up for it. Why bother? In fact, people who love beauty just fall in love with themselves. There is no one in the world who will never be slandered, and there is no one who will always be praised. People will criticize you if you talk too much. People will criticize you if you speak a little. When you are silent, others will criticize you. In this world, there is no one who is not criticized. Those who praise and admire us are not famous teachers. Those who will tell us and guide us are good knowledge, and with them we will make progress. What you have now will become someone else with your death, so why not give it to someone who really needs it now? Practicing for praise is like trampling fragrant flowers and beautiful grass. Living a day in vain and doing nothing is like committing theft. It's a real honor to keep a low profile. Making friends means not hurting anyone. Silence is the best answer to slander. Respect for others means respect for yourself. With selfless love, you have everything. Hatred can never dissolve hatred. Only sympathy can dissolve hatred. This is the eternal truth. It is better to accept fate than to complain. There is no better way for you to accept the unchangeable fact. Don't bring trouble to yourself because of the ignorance of all beings. Don't make yourself miserable because of the ignorance of all beings. Don't be angry or sad when others say that we are not good. You don't have to be happy to say we are good. There are good and bad in it, depending on whether you can use it. If you are clearly right and others insist that you are wrong, you should also confess to others. Practice is to practice these things. Only when you can endure everything can you make progress. Even if you are right, you should ask others to repent, that is, practice. Don't lose your temper when your mistake is exposed. Don't think that being willful or noisy can cover up or overcome your shortcomings. Don't always feel unhappy, there are more people in the world who suffer than we do. A stupid person always wants others to know him. Smart people try to understand themselves. Others are always right and I am always wrong, which is less troublesome. Coming is accidental, leaving is inevitable. So you must, with the fate unchanged, with the fate unchanged. Compassion is your best weapon. As long as we face the reality, we can surpass it. Conscience is everyone's fairest judge. You can fool others, but you can never fool your own conscience. People who don't know how to love themselves are incapable of loving others. To learn Buddhism is to learn to be a man. Righteousness does evil, and evil is right. The evil person corrects the law, and the positive law is also evil. Everything is created by idealism. Sometimes we need to ask ourselves calmly, what are we pursuing? What are we living for? Don't stay away from your closest friends because of small disputes, and don't forget the kindness of others because of small resentment. Being brave enough to accept criticism from others can just adjust your own shortcomings. Thank God for what I have, and thank God for what I don't have. Anyone who can consider others from their perspective is compassionate. Learning Buddhism is not a kind of sustenance for death, but living freely and surpassing the present. Buddha never forced others to do things he didn't like. The Buddha just told all beings what is good. What is evil? You still have to choose good and evil, and you still have to control your life. The so-called letting go is to remove your separation, right and wrong, gains and losses, and persistence. Don't be aggressive, don't be lethal, don't brag about your abilities, and don't preach the evil of others. Naturally, you can turn your enemies into your friends. A person who often looks at other people's shortcomings is not good enough because he has no time to review himself. There is right and wrong every day. If you don't listen to nature, there will be right and wrong every day. If you don't listen, there will still be right and wrong every day. What do you do? The real pay is to let go of your troubles, troubles, separation and persistence. If you really love him, then you must tolerate some of his shortcomings. To overcome the fear of death, you must accept the idea that all people in the world will die. Among all patients, doctors are the most difficult to treat, and all sentient beings and self-righteous people are the most difficult to cross. A donkey who eats the best grass will not become a handsome horse. Perseverance, perseverance and practice, no matter how hard you work, you will not become a Buddha. People who know the eternal truth will not be sad for where you are going, because where you are going is inevitable. Although you hate a person, you can find his advantages and benefits. There are really few people in the world who have such cultivation. If you can let everything go with him, you are a free man in the world. I hope you will always tell yourself that when I smell Buddhism, I am the happiest person, and there is nothing but this happiness. If you can shout "I don't have to worry about this little thing" once a day, you will find an incredible power inside you. Give it a try, it will be very useful. Be honest with your inner contradictions and stains, and don't deceive yourself. Cause and effect never owe us anything, so please don't complain. We do have some advantages, but we should also hide some. It's called self-cultivation. Don't gossip about anything, it's very gossip. Most people only do one thing in their lives; Self-deception, cheating, being cheated. People who admire themselves too much will not appreciate the advantages of others. People who live in applause from others can't stand the test. Heart is the biggest liar. Others can cheat you for a while, but they will cheat you for a lifetime. Parents are always worried when their children are not good. Therefore, for all beings with deeper sins, we should especially forgive them and pity them, instead of leaving them alone. As long as you are at ease, everything will be fine. Don't run by yourself before one of you reaches the limit. Live with a normal heart, treat others with shame, handle things with heart, and identify with Buddha with bodhicitta. When you cling to something, you can only have it. If you are willing to let go, you will have a chance to choose something else. If a person insists on his own ideas in his heart and refuses to let go, then his wisdom can only reach a certain level. It is not a blessing for others to be afraid of you, and it is not a shame for others to bully you. It's not that someone bothers me, but that I annoy myself with someone's words and deeds. Don't deliberately misinterpret the goodwill of others, but think positively. Of course, things in the world are not what they want. I am rich not because I have a lot, but because I ask for very little. If you eat it, pull it. You must learn to let go, or you will? Constipation. People who often think that others are paying attention to you, or want others to pay attention to you, will have a more troublesome life. I can cook for you, but I can't eat for you Everyone is full when eating, and everyone's life and death are personal. It is easy to look down on others, but difficult to manage yourself. The biggest mistake of human beings is that they dare not bear the heart of saints. You just live your own life and don't have to worry about other people's distortion and right and wrong. If you are going to get married, I will tell you a very important philosophical saying, "We must tolerate each other's shortcomings. There is no absolutely happy marriage in the world. Happiness only comes from infinite tolerance and mutual respect. It will be a blessing if we can spend this day safely. How many people today can't see the sun tomorrow, how many people have become disabled today, how many people have lost their freedom today, and how many people have lost their homes today. Right and wrong, gains and losses, can not be evaluated until the final result. You don't have to argue about cause and effect. Cause and effect are never misleading. You don't have to argue with fate, which is the fairest judge. You have your outlook on life, I have my outlook on life, and I won't interfere with you. As long as I can, I will influence you. If not, then I'll accept my fate. If you want to master eternity, then you must control the present. A bad mouth should never come from our mouth, no matter how bad it is. The more you scold him, your heart will be polluted. Think about it, he is your good knowledge. When starting your life tomorrow, if someone argues with you, you can let him win. This winning or losing is just a literal concept. When you let the other side win, you have nothing to lose. What did he win by winning? Understand what? The so-called loss, what did you lose? Lose what? Most of our lives are wasted on the unpredictable written language. You don't always feel frustrated. You should think that he is very kind to me. This is the cultivation of kung fu. Others can violate the cause and effect, others can harm us, beat us and slander us. But we can't hate others for it. Why? We must keep a complete nature and a pure heart. When you come into contact with anyone, you should ask yourself, what good am I to him? Let him benefit. If I can't use my personal morality, knowledge and practice to benefit others, I will be in debt. Becoming a monk is a lifelong matter, and practice is a matter of many births and many robberies. Believing in Buddhism and learning Buddhism is not for yourself, but for all sentient beings in the sea of suffering. Those who can't pass Buddhism and Taoism, those who can't pass Buddhism and Taoism, we regard him as a bodhisattva. If a person does not feel pain, it is not easy to feel sympathy for others. If you want to learn the spirit of saving the suffering, you have to suffer first. What kind of patience do ordinary people have when they meet powerful, rich and powerful people, and when they are helpless? The real patience is that even if he bullies you and feels sorry for you, he can't touch you, and you have enough strength to deal with him, but you can tolerate him and think that his nature is the same as mine, just temporarily confused or influenced by bad environment. You don't have to care about him. It is true patience to tolerate him in such a situation and mood. If from birth to death, who has not been my parents, brothers, sisters, relatives and family members? Who is not my enemy? If there is kindness, everyone is good to me; If there are grievances, everyone has grievances with me. What's the difference between us? As far as wisdom and stupidity are concerned, everyone has his moments of wisdom and his moments of stupidity. Smart people may become stupid, and stupid people may become smart. The worst person has done a lot of good things and will never be bad; Good people have done a lot of bad things, and they may not be good people in the future. So we repeatedly think that the so-called unjust relatives and virtuous fools will naturally fade away. This is definitely not chaos, nor is it that we don't know whether this is good or bad, but that we want to treat our selfish differences as an equal concept from the beginning!