1. Don’t ask about the harvest, but ask about the hard work

As for whether we can achieve success in the future and to what extent we will achieve success, of course, genius is still the criterion. I have always remembered Zeng Wenzheng’s two words most in my life: ‘Don’t ask about harvest, but ask about hard work. ’ What will be achieved in the future, and what do you want to do with it now? What's the hurry for it?

On the one hand, we should not be arrogant and complacent, but on the other hand, we should not be timid and discouraged. We should do our best and do whatever we can. In this way, we can achieve nothing without being satisfied, and we will always contribute a lot to society. My lifelong learning has been concentrated on this point, and I hope that you can all apply this spirit of mine.

——February 6, 1927

Remarks Liang Qichao used Zeng Guofan's famous saying to educate his children, "Don't ask about harvest, but about hard work." This sentence is intended to illustrate that when we do things, You should not only think about rewards and remuneration, but also think about doing things well and cultivating your own world, and good results will naturally come from it.

2. Don’t cram education

You don’t need to make too much progress in learning. It’s like filling a can. The more you stuff, the more anxious you are, and you may not necessarily benefit.

Remarks Liang Qichao opposed cramming education. What he said most in his letters were words of comfort and persuasion, and he rarely set any specific learning goals for the children.

3. Make friends with your children

I wandered in the yard at night, thinking about you while facing the moon, and also sang here. Do you hear me?

I am afraid it is difficult to imagine what China was like 100 years ago. What we see from those old photos are long braids, three-inch golden lotus flowers, long robes and mandarin jackets, and those invariably dull eyes. At this time, Liang Qichao called his children "baby" and "baby" in his letters to his children. One of the biggest characteristics of Liang Qichao's education of his children was to make friends with them.

Mr. Liang wrote many more letters to his children than his children wrote to him. As a father, he wrote letters to his children in person, talked to them in person, and talked with them about study, making friends, love, and life. Political affairs, etc., Mr. Liang explained everything in detail. There was no paternalism and there was a big gap between him and today's parents.

4. Being a parent must be interesting, so that the children you raise can be interesting.

It is an unprecedented work in China to be able to make an "aesthetic" travelogue. Besides, you are on your honeymoon, so you can put a lot of warm and fragrant love into the words, and make it with snacks, which can be a very valuable work.

——May 24, 1928, to Liang Sicheng and Lin Huiyin

Remarks After Liang Sicheng and Lin Huiyin got married, they went to Europe for their honeymoon. Their honeymoon trip was romantic and warm, and every place they went to was visited with purpose. European classic architecture allowed them to experience the profoundness of architectural art. This was a space travel and a true academic tour. This kind of wedding trip is more meaningful than the current sightseeing trips that are simply for novelty and fashion. Liang Qichao instructs them in writing travel notes in his letters.

5. Be a bit "childlike"

I say you "don't be childish". This is to tell you to be serious about serious things - such as doing homework and taking care of yourself. Things to do - make up your own mind, don't rely on others. As for being a little childish, that's a good thing. You see, daddy is still "childlike" sometimes.

——"To the Children" on July 10, 1925

Remarks Liang Qichao said that there are two kinds of childishness, one is willful and childish; the other is us It's childlike and childlike.

6. When doing learning, there is always an alternating cycle of "boiling over high heat" and "stewing over slow fire".

When doing learning, there is always an alternating cycle of "boiling over high heat" and "stewing over slow fire". Use it. Only when it is simmered over slow fire can the digestion effect of the stew be harmonious and effective. Sicheng, you have survived three years, and this year is the time for you to stew. Not only is it beneficial to your body, but it is also beneficial to your studies. ”

——August 29, 1927 To the Children

Remarks Stewing over high heat and stewing over slow fire require us to handle the relationship between learning knowledge and digesting knowledge.

< p>7. Being an official is not a place to settle down and make a life

Being an official is easy to damage one's personality, and it is easy to get used to laziness and cunning. It is not a place to settle down and make a life.

——To Liang Sishun on October 11, 1916

Remarks: Every parent has many life experiences that he has learned and passed on to his children. Liang Qichao said in a letter to his daughter Liang Sishun , being an official can easily damage one's personality, and can easily lead to laziness and cunning, which is not a field where one can settle down and make a living. Liang Qichao probably didn't want his children to be officials.

8. If you do your best and fulfill your responsibilities, you will be a first-class person.

“There is no big or small undertaking in the world. As long as you do it within your own responsibilities and do your best, you will be a first-class person. ”

——“To Liang Sishun” on November 5, 1923

Remarks on Liang Qichao’s education of children. Being conscientious and conscientious is the first-class person. This standard seems very simple, but it is actually very High requirements. Many parents hope that their children can do great things and create great careers. In fact, the first thing people have to do is to take on their own responsibilities. A person who does not know how to take responsibility will fail quickly even if he accomplishes great things.

9. Never blame for homework

Even if Zhuang Zhuang fails the exam this year, it doesn't matter. Don't worry, because he barely entered college. You brothers and sisters are all able to study diligently and make progress. I will never blame you for your homework. However, you fell ill because you rushed to class too much, which makes me worried.

——May 13, 1928 "To Liang Sishun"

Remarks: My daughter Liang Sizhuang has just gone to study abroad and cannot adapt for a while. Liang Qichao wrote in the letter: "As for failing to enter university, what does it matter? Pursuing knowledge is not seeking a diploma. The foundation of the wall must be built as thick as possible." It can be seen that Liang Qichao is concerned about whether the foundation of his children is solid. The so-called grades and scores are just superficial things.

10. A clear and strong outlook on life is the key to staying optimistic

I have a very clear, strong and great outlook on life. No matter what the situation, I often Be optimistic.

——"To Liang Sishun" on May 13, 1928

Remarks Liang Qichao believes that teaching children to establish a thorough and strong outlook on life is more important than educating them to learn specific knowledge. important. This understanding and strong outlook on life can help children maintain an optimistic attitude in the face of adversity and help them overcome difficulties.