Confucius said, "I don't know my destiny, but I don't think I am a gentleman. If you don't know the etiquette, you can't stand it. If you don't know what to say, you can't know who you are. "

-The third chapter of Twenty Articles of the Analects of Confucius asks, "Does Zi also have different opinions?" Yes, "not yet. When you taste independence, carp often goes beyond the court. Say,' How about learning poetry?' Yes:' Not yet.' "Don't learn poetry, there is nothing to say. "Carp retired to learn poetry. One day, when it is independent, the carp will rush through the court. Say,' How about learning manners?' Yes:' Not yet. "If you don't learn etiquette, you can't stand it." Carp retired to learn etiquette and learned both. Chen Kang retired and said happily, "Ask one, and there will be three." Smell poetry, smell courtesy, and smell the gentleman's distance. "

-Chapter 13 of Sixteen Articles of the Analects of Confucius and Jishi

Never heard of the court language: It tells the story of Confucius and his son Kong Li. It is said that one day, Confucius was standing in the yard and his son Kong Li was "running across the yard". What is "rushing"? "Rushing" is a small step and a respectful action. Walking in front of the superiors, you should "rush" and keep your head down, so you can walk quickly. This is called "rushing". At this moment, Kong Li saw his father Confucius standing in the yard, so he bowed his head and left in a hurry. Confucius said, "Stop, have you studied poetry?" "No" "How can you talk without learning poetry?" "Yes" and "Give up learning poetry." Another day passed, Confucius stood in the courtyard again, and Kong Li "hurried through the courtyard". Confucius said, "Come on, how about learning etiquette?" Not yet. "Don't learn etiquette how to stand it? How to be a man without learning etiquette? " "Yes" and "Retreat and learn courtesy."