When we are with others and see that others are better than us in virtue and talent, we should try our best to learn from them and catch up with others. There were eight virtues in ancient times: filial piety, filial piety, loyalty, faithfulness, courtesy, righteousness, honesty and shame. Confucius also has five virtues, which are praised by Confucius' students as "gentleness, kindness, courtesy, frugality and forbearance", namely gentleness, kindness, respect, frugality and forbearance. These five virtues also belong to virtues, and we should cultivate them well. This virtue is called a saint.
Source: Disciple Rules of Yu Xiu, Qing Li
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Confucius is a very good learner. He not only likes to think with his head, but also often asks questions without shame. Once Confucius and his students were on the road together, and as a result, a child built a "city" in the middle of the road with bricks and tiles, which had to delay the trip. So Confucius told the child to make way, but the child said, "In this world, I have only heard of cars passing around the city, but I have never heard of tearing down the city to make way for cars."
After listening to this, Confucius thought about it, which is indeed the truth. Although in his eyes, this "city" is only a child's plaything, in the eyes of children, it is not an insignificant thing. Confucius advocated etiquette all his life, but he did not expect to be stumped by a child. Therefore, Confucius said with emotion: "In a threesome, there must be a teacher." Although the child is still young, he can be his etiquette teacher.
From this perspective, Confucius has clearly realized his lack of etiquette, so he doesn't care if he will lose face, but generously admits that children are better than himself in etiquette.