More than 2,000 years ago, Confucius was able to "save my body three times a day", and during the Three Kingdoms period, Zhu Gekongming also said "to cultivate one's morality by quietness and frugality". Emperor Taizong and Li Shimin adopted Wei Zhi's advice, learned from others' experience and learned from history ... so they can have the virtue that will be told through the ages.
"The fault of a gentleman, such as the food of the sun and the moon, is seen by everyone, and what's more, everyone envies it." We should have the courage and perseverance of introspection, be able to review our thoughts and behaviors, make self-criticism, find problems, correct them immediately, and strive to improve ourselves so that our behavior conforms to social ethics and legal norms.
And "don't say people's mistakes" embodies another layer of philosophical thinking and wisdom in dealing with people. A place with right and wrong has become a place with right and wrong. Life is alive, you have your right and wrong, he has his right and wrong, right and wrong are always confused, and people are often easily tired of right and wrong. The so-called "right and wrong" itself is extremely boring and meaningless. Those who like gossiping and gossiping behind their backs are also the most hateful. Be a man, be aboveboard. If you have any questions, you should find a chance to say them in person. You know, gossiping blindly not only harms people, but also harms yourself. It is not only useless to yourself, but will make people look down upon it.
I like to discuss others and observe others, but I can't have a clear understanding of myself. The more he likes to discuss others, the more he has many shortcomings, but he can't face them squarely.
The speaker has no intention, but the listener has intention. Inadvertently spoken words are likely to be taken out of context by the intentional person as a weapon to attack the person being discussed, but they also bite back and blame the unintentional person. Whether it is unintentional or intentional, I can't say clearly. It feels bad to be talked about. "Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you." Why do you want to impose what you don't want to accept on others?
"It is better to swear in front of people than to talk about people behind their backs." Other people's shortcomings and deficiencies can be pointed out face to face, and never chatter behind their backs. We should always remember "always think of ourselves and don't criticize others" and be an upright person.