First, observe your emotions. That is, always remind yourself: "What is my mood now? For example, when you are unfriendly to your friend because he is late for an appointment, ask yourself, "Why should I do this? How do I feel now? If you realize that you are angry with your friends for being late again and again, you can handle your anger better. Many people think that "people should not have emotions", so they refuse to admit that they have negative emotions. You should know that people have emotions, and suppressing emotions will bring worse results. Learning to observe your emotions is the first step in emotional management.

Second, express your emotions appropriately. Give an example of a friend being late for an appointment. You may be angry because he worries you. In this case, you can gently tell him, "You haven't arrived after the appointed time. I'm afraid something will happen to you on the road. Try to convey to him the feeling of "I'm so worried" and let him know how you will feel if he is late. What is an inappropriate expression? For example, you accuse him of being late for every appointment. Why don't you consider my feelings? When you criticize the other person, it will also cause his negative emotions. He will become a hedgehog and be busy defending against foreign attacks. He can't stand in your position and think of you. His reaction may be: "There is a traffic jam on the road! what can I do? Do you think I don't want to be on time? As a result, the two began to quarrel, not to mention a happy date. How to "properly express" emotions is an art, which needs to be experienced, carefully pondered and, more importantly, used in life.

Third, ease the mood in an appropriate way. There are many ways to relieve emotions. Some people will cry bitterly, some will complain to their friends, some will go shopping, listen to music, take a walk or force themselves to do other things to avoid unpleasant memories. Worse ways are drinking, driving fast, and even committing suicide. I want to remind you that the purpose of relieving emotions is to give yourself a chance to clear your mind, make yourself feel better and have more energy to face the future. If the way to relieve emotions is only to escape pain temporarily, then it is not an appropriate way to bear more pain. If you feel uncomfortable, you should face it bravely and think seriously. Why are you so sad and angry? What should I do so as not to make the same mistake in the future? What can I do to reduce my unhappiness? Will this be more harmful? According to these angles, choose a way that suits you and can effectively relieve your emotions, and you will be able to control your emotions instead of letting them control you!

Emotional management skills

Every one of us has emotions out of control, and many negative emotions will affect our work and life. We need to control these negative emotions. There are different ways to deal with anger, sadness and anxiety, but there is a universal principle: the best way to deal with strong emotions is to find channels to channel them. Emotions have been properly alleviated, and there is no backlog in my heart. In normal work and life, there won't always be a stone on my mind.

There are many ways to use it:

1. Through some artistic hobbies that cultivate temperament, such as piano, chess, painting and calligraphy, singing is also acceptable. Many artistic activities can give people a space to vent their feelings. No matter how well they do, the key is to be interested and express their feelings.

2. Sports/exercise activities, such as fitness, playing ball, dancing, deep relaxation and massage. Imagine, bad mood like a ball, or shed sweat, will give people a pleasant feeling.

Be sure to have three or two intimate people around you, so that you can call or share your troubles with them at any time when you are in a bad mood. (Generally, in psychological counseling, the counselor will also ask the client to list several names to discuss the degree of trust of the client to the relatives and friends on the list). The so-called "shared happiness is double happiness, and shared pain is half pain".

4. Clear your mind by keeping a diary. An inevitable rule is that the more you write on paper, the less you keep in mind. And in the process of writing a diary, people can sum up their experience of what happened in the past and treat it more objectively. Sometimes in the process of psychological counseling, psychologists will ask the clients to summarize some aphorisms so that they can motivate themselves at critical times.

5. Create a pleasant living environment for yourself, such as playing music, incense and soft lighting. Or put yourself in a refreshing natural environment to relieve the nervous nerves physiologically.

In addition, it is more important to know your own emotional changes and what kind of physiological, psychological or external factors will affect your emotions. When you predict that you will fall into an emotional trough because of something, you can use the above methods to "prepare for a rainy day". Be able to inform people around you in time, so that they can better support and understand.